I married a Surd whereas i m a hindu.......?

Question

it was a love marriage its been an year.........everything going on fine with little differences over me being called sardarni by my in-laws and other issues involved in an inter-religion marriage.....i ignore them. now comes my problem.....we are planning for a family but i feel insecure that my inlaws will surely make him / her a sikh.......i will not be allowed to give my child the name i wish to give......what shud i do?

please dont tell me i shud have decided before marrying.....at that point of time it was marriage on my mind and not kids........i just loved him.....i discussed this with my hubby bt.......no answer from him.....

Answer 1

There needs to be a compromise rt?? So just come to a deal if the Kid is born at 12 he/she becomes a Surd...else a Hindu... errr... just joking.

See this is something I see in most Indians when they fall in love Religion is not a criteria but when Kids come into picture Religion is a Major issue.

One thing that you need to understand is that Religion is created by Humans to decide the right walk of Life for making their society Livable. What I suggest is that grow your children teaching them both the faiths and once they are adults let them decide what path to take, do not force them, make this an issue to crack up your marital life. As long as they grow as wonderfull Humans why should you care?

Another Point to be pondered - What would be the Kids Second/Third Name...are you not planning to put the father's name there? Lady a Father's name need to go in for the identity of the child. Just for your religious inclination do not play with your kids identity.

Bottom Line - Sikhism also happens to be an extention of Hinduism itself rt? At least thank god that you are not talking of Hundu-Christian-Muslim-Parsi-Jew!!

Humanity is the biggest Religion one needs to follow!!

Answer 2

these are the small, small things which have to be sorted out in an inter-religion marriage to go from strength to strength. It calls for maturity of thinking which raises you over petty issues like these where there is no harm in going half-way or sometimes even full-way.
Now regarding the present issue, it depends whether you are staying separately or with your in-laws.If it is the former than you can try persuading your hubby to postpone the decision to a later time when the child is older and able to decide for himself/herself. If it is the later than to gain the trust of the family it will be better to go along with the family--after all you will not want the child to grow up with contradictions. This way your hubby too will be happy and appreciate you more for your action.
Fortunately, for you there is quite a similarity between the 2 religions and even most of the names are shared so that you should have no problems reaching a via-media to the satisfaction of everyone.

Answer 3

Well normally in a Sikh family when a child is born the initial of the name to be, is taken from the Guru Granth Sahib. You can then choose according to that initial any name u wish to give, and if ur not satisfied with that initial another one can be taken from the text. So u have a choice in naming ur child with that initial, plus sikh names and hindu names do resemble a lot.

The point about ur inlaws, i guess it's about time u stood ur ground at the end of the day they are ur children and u have full priority over them. If u let them interfere with ur business, they will go on interfering forrever.

Answer 4

What’s the big issue in this? I am a Hindu married to a Sikh lady & today celebrating my 25th marriage anniversary. I got married in a gurdwara, got my daughter married before the marriage registrar & in the gurdwara with a Sikh boy. Name of my daughter is purely Hindu name & so is my son’s name, if my son wants to get married in a gurdawara too with a Sikh lady I will definitely allow that. Both my children follow both Hindu & Sikh religion. My father was a Hindu & my mother was a Christian. So what you say about my whole family is it not a truly secular family of the secular country? You must be of my daughter’s age & you talk like my grand mother. Give name to your children as you wish no one will stop you for that but if your children want to follow Sikh religion when they grow up you wont be able to stop them, in this country every one has right to follow any religion of one choice. Lastly Sikhs are Hindus according to definition under the Hindu Marriage Act, 1955.

Answer 5

if u married a sikh and u had no problem there then why should u have problem in giving a sikh name .After all his cast will remain sikh only. if u give him other name then he could be teased by his friends later when he grows.

Answer 6

religion is not a matter in todays society.
And even most sikh are now shift to kept short hair,instaed to cury long.Being a sikh is not bad.Dont you see "GADAR" film.Love can change anything.But still you will have rights on your cuity baby.Let him as you wan.Dont worry after a lit bit all will cool down.Dont worry : sardarni ji.........joking dear.

Answer 7

it somewhat is better to marry a slave female who believes than a princess that doesn't have self assurance in "the single God" It needless to say states that throughout the Koran, particular Allah needs you to be happy yet there are policies and in case you wreck them and don't make amends then the eternal hearth would be your living house

Answer 8

if u r married then it doesn't really matter, what name ur kid would have, i think ur kid shud have a sikh name.

Answer 9

marriage is always compromise
just keep a pet name - u r problem is solved

Answer 10

don't worry about these petty matters,there is only one almighty,your kid can follow both religions,it all depends on u r kid when he grows up,be cheerful.