I have only been married for three months, we dated for 4 years before that. My problem is that I love flirting with guys, I love the attention and I love the beginning of a relationship when everything is new and fresh and exciting. I love trying to see if I can get a guy to want me. I Know this is a huge problem. I don't want to cheat on my husband because I truly love him and take my vows very seriously. How do I get over wanting to flirt and trying to get attention from guys? How do I recreate those feelings of a new, fresh, exciting relationship?
2007-04-23 02:14:55 · 17 answers · asked by bmorediamond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should become a stripper.
Those girls only do that because they have low self esteem and need attention from men to make them think they are worthy.
After a few months of stripping you will be so sick of men looking at you lustfully and wanting you that you will go running back to your husband thankful to God that a decent man wants you.
2007-04-23 02:46:15 · answer #1 · answered by ♥itsme♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have unrealistic ideas about relationships and you use them to try to make yourself feel young and excited. Unless you change your views, your marriage will never last. You are always going to want that fix. And that's what it is an addiction. You need the attention to feel whole. You need the attention to feel attractive. Getting it from your husband won't be enough. You will get bored and you will stray, over and over again, unless you get professional help. You have told yourself flirting is harmless and in your case it's not. It is the first sign of trouble. You need to figure out why you need the attention so badly. Once you figure that out, then you can work on a solution. If you don't get help, I don't see this lasting too long. Eventually, you will hurt him enough and he will either leave, or you will find someone else you think is more exciting and you will leave him. Hopefully there aren't any children involved, because this looks like a train wreck waiting to happen.
2007-04-23 09:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by ╚╔╩╦ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirt with your husband. Try something new outside of the house. Meet up for lunch and act like total strangers. Just be faithful in your marriage because that is very sacred. You made a vow to this man.
2007-04-23 10:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by marshamarsha3333 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirt with your husband. Learn how to focus on keeping your marriage fresh and exciting. Do this by being spontaneous, exciting, fun to be with. Take the flirting with strangers and use that energy to improve yourself. It sounds like you need this type of attention from others to boost your self esteem. Learn how to make yourself happy and give yourself the attention you seek from others.
2007-04-23 10:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in a marriage your going to have to work to keep it going take all the flirting and put it to you marriage and do wild and crazy thing to keep your marriage new and fresh. In my marriage my wife and i love keeping it fresh and new and we been together for 14 year and married for 9 years and buy always working on are marriage and flirting with each other on a day bases it keep it hot . so you just need to change your thinking and find you ways to drive you man wild believe me there a 100s of ways to do that and make Shir you tell your hubby all they ways you like he flirting with you so it keep you jumping to.. Good Luck.
2007-04-23 09:41:53 · answer #5 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In your mind you already have committed Adultery. Just explain to him that it was a mistake and you'll leave with an uncontested divorce and just take what YOU brought into the marriage. You don';t get a thing but directions to the door before it hits you on the butt.
2007-04-23 09:21:40 · answer #6 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
learn how to flirt with your husband and visa-versa - my wife and I still flirt with each other - keeps the thrill of the chase alive - after a while you will ahve those secret moments that only the two of you are aware of - bring them up now and then - remember to laugh and enjoy life together
2007-04-23 09:24:13 · answer #7 · answered by rowanwagner 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very normal, I have been with my Hubby for 12 years and been married for 3.5 years and I like it when guys pay me attention, I think COOL still got it!
2007-04-23 09:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by LadyinOz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is nothing wrong with fantasy or flirting, it is when someone takes it to that next step of cheating, obviously you are desirable as men hit on you and flirt with you,, you never said how old you are but sounds like you are young and as you grow older you might start looking at things differently,, otherwise,, I dont hold much hope for your marriage
2007-04-23 09:18:48 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting to feel the attraction between members of the oppoosite sex. It's natural. That's what makes the world go 'round.
The way you create those feelings again with your husband is to go to a nightclub. But don't go together. Meet up there. Flirt with other men while you are there. That way it will feel like you "hooked up" with him. It's practical. That's what marriages need nowadays to work. Practicability.
2007-04-23 09:26:28 · answer #10 · answered by YBMEUBU 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋