I am a mom with 3 little kids. I still love my husband but I can't live with him anymore, now I move to a forgian country with my kids. My husband won't sign the devoice paper, he might think I might go back to him one day. He is a good man and father after all. I meet this guy in this country who have family and we fall in love with eachother. I try to leave him but won't able to since we work together, and he won't agree to. He try to get devoice since their relationship already have some problems. But after she find out our relationship, she did try to suicide to keep their relationship. What should I do?
2007-04-23 03:48:25 · 10 answers · asked by Siu 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Go back to your husband. How dare you take his kids away from him, and move to another country?? Leave the other guy. He is married, with a family. You have no business seeing him. What does it matter if you work together?
2007-04-23 04:25:14 · answer #1 · answered by Tiss 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't mention how long you have been married. But you did say he is a good man and father. That says a lot. First of all its not easy on any relationship raising 3 kids. My 2 were enough for me as I got little help from their dad.
Your question, to me, is not clear. Was he involved with someone else before you and now she wants to comment suiside?
She has a mental problem of her's not your's Its up to her to get professional help. And she should.
Does he want to resolve your marriage or just you? If that is the case I would say hang in there. I and my husband went through a hard time about the 10 yr mark. I wanted to give up, but he didn't. Now I am so glad I stuck it out. Marriage is not easy. But anything worth having is work and will only make your marriage stronger.
Thats mean to take his kids away from him, moving to another country. Is that fair to him? What if you were in his shoes? Plus you did say you still love him..
2007-04-23 11:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by Momwithaheart 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let any suicidal thoughts by someone influence you in any way...it's a ploy..however they aren't straight in their own mind so is not your problem.
Sometimes and certain men have a strong ego problem in that if there is a divorce in their family that it's against tradition and hurts family values and morals. Lots of women here in Florida stay with the married name yet don't interact with their husband. They just feel they get better benefits from society and government if they still have the married surname. Maybe you can work around this problem. If your husband is paying for your children and will pay for their education then what harm is it in staying married and still being apart. If there is an abuse problem and if your tradition allows the abuse then you're stuck. If there is abuse and your tradition doesn't allow abuse then take your situation to the courts so that you can get divorced and he will still have to support your children. You seem not sure if you want a divorce or not because you say "he is a good man". So I don't understand what exactly the problem is that you want a divorce.
2007-04-23 11:41:15 · answer #3 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Start acting like an adult... Go back to your husband and try to make the marriage work. Leave other womens husbands alone.
2007-04-23 10:54:23 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Move on...sounds like too much drama on his homefront also. Your husband can only contest the divorce for so long before the courts will award your divorce. Seek an attorney if you don't already have one.
2007-04-23 10:52:44 · answer #5 · answered by Luv2RIDE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to live on your own, with your children, before you get wrapped up in another relationship. First off, you're not even divorced, so what are you doing trying to hook up with another man, and one who is married himself? That's just wrong, and you probably know it. If you don't, I'm telling you now it's wrong. You can leave this other man, even if it means finding another job...you just don't want to. Your problems lie within yourself, and they are of your own making.
2007-04-23 10:55:41 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go back to your husband and stay away from men who are in relationships.
2007-04-23 10:55:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your husband, that if he doesn't sign the divorce papers. You will get it on with your new husband.
2007-04-23 10:54:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would go back to ur hubby this guy sounds complicated...that's just me though
2007-04-23 10:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by MeShel G 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
and your question IS?
2007-04-23 10:52:46 · answer #10 · answered by steinerrw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋