Is it right to live together before marriage and if we do should we have seperate bedrooms?
2007-04-23 03:51:05 · 30 answers · asked by My little babba born Dec 09 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, the best way to have a good, pure relationship is by waiting until marriage to live together.
2007-04-25 06:44:29 · answer #1 · answered by Tweety 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a good idea to live together for at least a year before getting married. The reason is because you need to make sure that you can stand to live with them. No matter how much you love someone, everyone has their little ideosycracies and habits and unless you live with them, you cannot know what they all are or how you will react to them.
Also, if you are even to the point of contemplating marriage, you should already have a sexual relationship with them, so why would you want to have separate bedrooms? If you are planning on marrying someone without knowing if a satisfying sexual relationship is even possible between the two of you, then you shouldn't be getting married at all. Living together should be a complete preview of how life will be like when you are married to this person, so you can make sure that you're doing the right thing.
2007-04-23 11:16:13 · answer #2 · answered by eviltruitt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get so many different answers. People answer this based on their religions and social backgrounds. I'm from the Sixties generation, so living together is totally okay by me. If you are female, you are going to put your man through hell if you have separate bedrooms. If you have had sex, what difference does the room make? If you haven't, living together is probably not a good idea.
Think about it. Common-law or married, you are setting up a life together, of which sharing a bed and having relations are a natural part. Why would you just play house?
I think you are not ready.
2007-04-23 10:58:10 · answer #3 · answered by grapeshenry 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's fine to pose the question, to get other's perspective on that situation. I know the feeling, it's like a battle within yourself dealing with morals. If you feel like it's a good thing than do it, but I will tell you those separate bedrooms will probably be short lived. I lived with someone before marriage, we didn't get married, but that was because he was the wrong person. I am considering moving in with someone else 5 years later. I question my friends and family about it as well. So, good luck with your decision. If you really want this deep down, then do it, or you will regret it. If it doesn't work someone can always move out!
2007-04-23 10:59:26 · answer #4 · answered by JazzyGurl24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of advantages to living together before marriage. It lets you preview what you're getting into. It lets you see what the other person is like before a shower and a cup of coffee in the morning. As far as separate bedrooms goes, that's a personal choice and should be made by the two people who are living together.
2007-04-23 10:55:58 · answer #5 · answered by palmermom3 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a new day and a new era, I would say yes for the fact that the both of you can learn about each other the habits the both of you have about each other. Even though you may have been dating and living in seperate places. When you live toghether it's a difference experience altoghether. Sleeping in seperate bedrooms is by all means your choice and you two should decide that together.
2007-04-23 10:55:02 · answer #6 · answered by spacityb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think so. If you are planning to spend the rest of your life with each other than you want to make sure you can stand each other.
Now as far a seperate bedrooms, um, are you going to have "relations" then going back to your own seperate bedrooms? Save money and rent a one bedroom, but it's totally up to you.
2007-04-23 10:57:10 · answer #7 · answered by public-opinion08 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Living together is a good way to see if you can survive marriage. Sometimes people really love each other, then find out that they cannot live together.
Even then, you may find that living together married is still different from living together unmarried.
I recommend living together before marriage, because there is no other way to determine how well you will get along once you are married. Better to find out now you cannot stand the way he squeezes the toothpaste tube than waiting until marriage.
2007-04-23 10:55:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Question...whats your age, and what does your religion say? personally i think there is nothing wrong with living together, and when living together there is no use in using seperate bedrooms, any case.
2007-04-23 10:55:54 · answer #9 · answered by ordinary jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, that depends on a few things.
Have you slept together already? If so it really going to matter if you have separate bedrooms?
Is it against your religion? Are your parents going to freak out, and the separate bedrooms are for show? for them?
Are you engaged? How soon are you going to get married?
Maybe I am not the best person to answer this question since I don't really have enough details, but anyway.
Good luck w/ whatever you decide.
2007-04-23 11:51:20 · answer #10 · answered by blazing_fire 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋