2007-04-23 03:45:42 · 12 answers · asked by MeShel G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know someone in that same situation right now! ... I am sorry for you though. She goes through a lot and usually people judge w/out knowing all the details. They have decided they're meant for each other and are working towards that end right now. They are however trying to "minimize" (if that's even possible) the pain to their families.
Personally, I admire anyone that decides to be happy. It would take a lot of courage to go through with that decision and you would have to weight the pros/cons of the situation.
Also, never forget how your decisions affect your family (if any) or his. If after all this you guys think you're "made for each other" (and as cheesy at it sounds) I would go for it.
If it was me I couldn't live with the uncertainty that I might've let true happiness go. It sounds selfish, but if you have a secret love to begin with there's something wrong in your relationship. Better leave while you're on speaking terms.
I look at older couples and some seem bitter and bicker at each other all the time, but they've been together so long they feel "safe". Others are in their second/third honeymoon b/c their relationship was based on each other, not their children or their families.
I want to be in the second group. Not hating them b/c they've never been the partner I wanted. You have lots to decide and I suggest you do it together so either way you go there's closure.
2007-04-23 04:42:38 · answer #1 · answered by Chaos_Mngr 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me just say that everything new seems great at first until you leave your wife and realize the grass isn't greener on the other side. I would think long and hard before you leave your wife for a woman that you've never even met. How do you know that she's really this great, loving, fun person? Besides from what you talk about online, you have no idea what kind of person she'd be like in real life or what type of relationship you'd actually have with her past your online relationship (regardless of how great you may think it is now) You say your wife is a wonderful person and you love her, but there's no spark? Have you tried relationship counseling or possibly a sex therapist? There's always a way to rekindle the spark if you really want to, but i would assume the answer to that would be that you just don't want to. That's what makes you cold and uncaring.
2016-05-17 05:02:17 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. I have a guy that I am chatting to on the internet that is a secret love I guess. I have a boyfriend that I have known for like 5 almost 6 years. The relationship I am in though I think has gone to hell. So ya, I would consider leaving my current relationship for that person. I guess it all depends on how your relationship is with that other person.
2007-04-23 03:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by TTC#2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I do, and I absolutely would. However, if this is what you are considering, you MUST be certain this "secret" love is equally as interested in being with you before you make that leap. I'm finding out the hard way which is why I don't think I'll leave my current relationship. Be certain you are both on the same page before you close the first chapter! Protect your heart.
2007-04-23 07:19:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOL. You know what I just asked a similar Question almost 2 wks ago. An Im still with the one i decided to be in a realtionship with. I guess having a secret love is exciting but in reality. Who is more important to you an can share more with an get along with better, an know who really cares for you the most. Thats what Ive learned to look at.
2007-04-23 03:50:11 · answer #5 · answered by courtney m 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not unless I knew for CERTAIN that he was extremely reliable, loving, and financially secure. I was basically placed in a situation that called for this decision to be made...I can not justify all of the chaos that would have ensued had I left my current situation (of 18 yrs). I love this man...but I'm not willing to drag my family through HELL, loose my home, or STARVE my kids for my own selfish desires. Sometimes you have to look towards your higher purpose in life.
2007-04-23 04:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by mzadamz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i do....
i could not leave my current relationship because my secret love is not of legal age............
2007-04-23 04:30:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't. But wouldn't that be nice!
2007-04-23 04:07:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO and NO
2007-04-23 03:50:24 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No!
2007-04-23 05:26:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋