Marriage & Divorce - 3 December 2006

Does it seem possible that a husband and wife, after twenty yeasr of marriage with a couple kids, could have an very active and happy sex life, (oral, anal, toys, light B&D but no threesomes or anything multiple) and then suddenly one of the partners declares that they have grown beyond the need for sexual intimacy? To go from one extreme to the other, calling it sexual burn out, seems to be,,,very strange. The partner in question is the wife and, before you ask, she wasn't forced into anything previous to this and was usually the instigator.

2006-12-03 17:54:15 · 12 answers · asked by MEL 2

I need help, I cant get over my x husband. I cant move on because i compare everyone i date to him. He had so many good qualities that i feel no one can measure up to however, he was an abusive alcohlic. i just cant mentally erase the good. My x husband was actually my first boyfriend. i met him at 17. he was 22. we met at a party were everyone, including him, was drinking. he liked me because i was the only one that didnt drink, in other words, because i was so innocent and also we were very attracted to each other. i was young and dumb and immediately innfatuated. I lost my virginity to him, became completely attached and we got married. After we had a baby, he got borred and restless, went back to the bars and back to his single friends. We got a divorce after repeated abuse and neglect. he had to sides; when he was sober he was the sweetest person in the world. i need help moving on. any suggestions. i don't know why this is so hard for me...

2006-12-03 17:50:37 · 15 answers · asked by bluestar 3

My husband spent our first year of marriage deployed- he's been back for 5 months and is now "in the field" for another month of training. I guess i'm just lonely having moved to a new base away from family and friends and i'm feeling - i guess abandoned is the best way to describe my feelings. I just need to hear some positive thoughts from people because the women I met at the last military wives base meeting seemed too much into the benefits (money, etc) of your husband being gone and there wasn't any talk of how to deal with them being gone

2006-12-03 17:46:06 · 6 answers · asked by mcdermottgarrett 1

I never personally saw the point. Why do two people who are in a normal, perfectly healthy relationship want to ruin it by turning each other into property? It doesn't seem to make the relationship better than it already is, and half of them end in divorce anyway (in other words, married people break up at about the same rate as unmarried people), so honestly what is the point?

What's the downside of just living together forever if that's how it's meant to be just on the merit of your own love and trust, instead of the false sense of security from a contract and a ring?

Real answers, please, not lame defensive little attacks. I'm not trying to bash anyone, I just want to know.

2006-12-03 17:44:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

They are all older in their twenties. . .just wondering what others do in this situation?

2006-12-03 17:37:32 · 14 answers · asked by fannie 2

i dident grow up with my father and am dating a man 12yrs older than me, 22/33 i call him daddy and hes fine with it, he calls me babygirl, princess, angel the whole works, the only thing is that he is not fully mine [married w/kids] but weve been together for over a year and spend a whole bunch of time together, but am afraid ill end up getting hurt, i really love him and dont want to not be with him because he is everything that i never had....is it even worth contuining? for my own sake?

2006-12-03 17:36:24 · 9 answers · asked by athf78 1

2006-12-03 17:34:26 · 15 answers · asked by Jamie C 1

I just got married a couple of months ago to this girl that I had a huge crush when we were young. One time I was reminiscing about my past through a series of photos when I was in grade school & I saw her name pop up to one of those yahoo groups. I made the first step by emailing her & the rest went on. We started chatting over yahoo & after a month we decided to have an online relationship. We treated that relationship like a normal one with whole honesty. But after a month I decided to fly over to the States to spend sometime with her then come back home to NZ. She suggested for me to just find work there & so I did cos it is a good idea rather than have a long distance one. After staying here with her for a good 4 months she suggested for us to get married so that I don't have to go back home & then retracted from it. It felt like she was playing games but in the end she pushed through with it. Now every fight gets worse & up to the point that she started hitting me. HELP!

2006-12-03 17:33:01 · 24 answers · asked by Macky 2

2006-12-03 17:32:21 · 7 answers · asked by hhavaid 1

Okay so my husband has been talking to this girl from high school he had a crush on...He has told me and is not keeping it from me. She on the other hand has been very flirtatious and she is married she always makes remarks about if he is happy and several times he has answerd yes. She admits to being flirty and my husband doesn't mind? Is she trying to steal him from me because she is unhappy? Remember my hubby is telling me this and i have seen the emails. I just don't trust her..

2006-12-03 17:28:06 · 20 answers · asked by speedy 1

I am 18 and in love with a 17 year old girl. We have been together a long time now, and have talked about getting married next summer after she turns 18. Everybody else seems to think this is a stupid idea because "we're still young", but we think we can do it. Are we really stupid here? Or does anybody else agree that we can make this happen?

2006-12-03 17:18:58 · 12 answers · asked by Tony S 2

Everytime I do this I am painful at my heart.
But unable to resist my temptations at times.
Any girls had any similar experiences ?

2006-12-03 17:13:34 · 22 answers · asked by luckmansg 1

i am dating a SEPARATED man and i just saw a pic of his wife. his wife is much more pretty than me with better body etc. (trust me on this) i am about average.
i know his wife doesnt cheat and takes good care of his 2 kids.
u think this guy is just using me?

2006-12-03 17:08:31 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

So i'm dating a separated man. i just saw a pic of his wife that he is separated from and she is much more pretty than me. Better body and face. I'm a little more on the chubby side and average looking(trust me on this)
I know his wife is a great mother and doesnt cheat so i'm wondering...
she is much more pretty and a good mother...why would he date me?
Am i just someone on the side?

2006-12-03 17:00:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been with this extraordinary man for 6 mos. i am going to spend the rest of my life with him. there is no doubt about that. i am 31 and he is 42. we have both been married and are now divorced. each have a son. i know i want to be with him forever and the feeling is mutual. i want to live with him. we spend 5 to 6 days a week with each other. he is very traditional and wants to be married first. i respect his views and i would marry him tomorrow!! but is 6 mos too soon?

2006-12-03 17:00:19 · 18 answers · asked by charliesheen 1

She was so naugty she don't like eating? She's throwing toys to my face... I sometimes lose my temper on her so I scolded her but when she cried I feel so guilty... what should I do how I can discipline her without hurting her?

2006-12-03 16:59:51 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-12-03 16:56:07 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

both of us ready to get married but now fear struck our mind as in our case it will b intercaste marriage, so in future our parents wont remain happy and keep taunting us that v got married with our choice etc etc. wat shud v do. should v go 4 marriage or keep lifetime affair after getting married in same caste

2006-12-03 16:52:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm a healthy 26 year old male. I am in a relationship with a woman who I have been with for almost 5 yrs, have a child with and have another one on the way. I feel very fortunate for this. Here's my issue. She has a condition called endomitiosis. In a very small nutshell, it causes pain and discomfort in the woman's sexual anatomy. I love her very much and try not to impose on her very often. However, being I have a healthy libido, I become very conflicted within myself. (I have a strong urge to, but will feel badly if I do, so I either am not fufilled or end up having unfufilling sex due to a huge amount of guilt.) I try to understand her feelings too. (She wants to, but doesn't want to because of fear and discomfort, so she ends up feeling unfufilled and guilty as well.) I have researched this topic and I am well aware of the procedure involved to combat this condition. I also know that due to her pregnacy she will be less likely to want sexual interaction. Any input please.

2006-12-03 16:50:14 · 14 answers · asked by Moose 2

My name is Connie and I need help from a divorce lawyer. My husband and I own a 2003 1,700 double wide mobile home and it's been appraised for $165,000. I need help divorcing my husand. I need possibly a probat lawyer and definitely some information. I will work part time for you for your services?? Please will someone help me??? He is moving to GA in Jan. I'm thinking of buying his share by refinancing the mobile home. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

2006-12-03 16:47:52 · 5 answers · asked by cottontail34@sbcglobal.net 1

my husband cheated on me with a younger women...this made me feel like a old used rag......we have been married for two years...and i forgave him.....i'm just not feeling like we are the same people we used to be....When we first got married everything was great and REGULAR if you know what i mean.....i am 21 and he is 27....the younger woman was 18..... we just recently had a child....could this have something to do with us not connecting any more? and if so, how can we reconnect and get things back to where they need to be?

ps-councling didn't work for us.....she kept blaming his mother for his cheating ways.....need different suggestions! Asap

2006-12-03 16:46:54 · 14 answers · asked by YourBaby3 1

does the person you're with now know about it?

I dated this guy for 2yrs about 13 yrs ago. He is now married to my best friend from High School. I don't talk to her much anymore but I do talk to him.

2006-12-03 16:46:10 · 13 answers · asked by ~B~ 4

2006-12-03 16:43:11 · 0 answers · asked by mike.fincher 2

My husband is moving to GA in Jan and I am staying behind. I have lived in CA all my life (my family is here) He is originally from Iowa. He took the job offer out there without talking to me about it. He has had so much control in my life that I guess he thought I would just go. We own a mobile home and I don't know whether I should buy him out (30,000) ??? But my MAIN question is, I'll be filing paperwork for divorce so that he doesn't screw me over. (we've gone through the process before and he almost got away with the mobile and 60,000. He will be served papers. HOW DO I MAKE IT A CIVIL CHRISTMAS??? WHAT CAN i DO? I am holding christmas at our home and I know all hell is going to break loss when he realizes I'm divorcing him when he gets served. Please help!

2006-12-03 16:43:01 · 17 answers · asked by cottontail34@sbcglobal.net 1

this is about a married couple , but the spouse is cheating. How do i get him back in a smooth relationship with interest in me ? What are the best strategies ?

2006-12-03 16:41:05 · 11 answers · asked by Cyncon Lily 1

Hello. I've never been on here before. I was just wondering if there's anyone that can help me. See my husband is, well what I beleive, a compulsive liar. I always find him in lies and not telling me things, its pretty constant he deos it like 2 to 3 times a month. i was just wondering if someone has any advice on how to deal with this. I'm on the edge I just don't know what to do anymore. Any advice/opinions would be great. Thank you.

2006-12-03 16:40:44 · 6 answers · asked by keltey86 1

Ex always seems to be in our (8 yr)relationship, is he not over her although he seem to be in love with me, or does he just not want confrontation because him and the ex have a kid and a 12yr past

2006-12-03 16:38:04 · 10 answers · asked by Rerose 1

Well I just found out my wifes a dyke with a girlfriend, God bless her soul... anyway I was wonderin if anybody knew a way for a good cheap divorce, sumthin under $100 bucks. Cuz I found out from the courthouse that it would cost like $300 to file my own. Does anyone know a cheaper way minus the filing fee, or do you HAVE TO pay filing fee?

2006-12-03 16:36:29 · 4 answers · asked by sliccapostle 2

I asked what are some fun ideas my husband and i can do for fun and some MORON (ugly one at that) called me dingbat! Anyway, anyone have ideas besides dinner and a movie??

2006-12-03 16:34:18 · 9 answers · asked by Baby Jack born 4/5/09 4

My husband has been entirely disinterested in sex pretty much since he got laid off in August...he says he's just too stressed. The thing is, we are newly weds...we have sex occasionally these days...when we do it's pretty much just him getting his and then us going to sleep...when i want to make love and i put the moves on him he says " i'm not in the mood " i find myself feeling very alone and very rejected...i've tried talking to him...it doesn't work. I love making love with him...it's the ultimate way of expressing my love to him. I'm confused and i'm frustrated. I think i'm just ready to give up and forget sex all together. I'm tired of feeling undesirable to the man i care more for than anything else in the world...as a last result after yet another night of disappointment and rejection...i'm on here...asking anyone that can help...what i might be able to do to get my love life back on track with the "love" of my life?

2006-12-03 16:33:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous