I am 18 and in love with a 17 year old girl. We have been together a long time now, and have talked about getting married next summer after she turns 18. Everybody else seems to think this is a stupid idea because "we're still young", but we think we can do it. Are we really stupid here? Or does anybody else agree that we can make this happen?
2006-12-03 17:18:58 · 12 answers · asked by Tony S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Only YOU know how you feel. I was barely 18 when my husband and I married...and we had only dated 2 months...and out of that 2 months, we'd only been together for 2 weeks...the rest was over the phone. We've been happily married and even more in love than ever for 6 years now. Just don't lose sight of what else you need to do in life...school, career, children...etc... We were both lucky to be in very good careers at that time and had our first home built for us at just 19--one year later. We both went to school, worked hard in our careers and had 2 children. Life couldn't be any better. Just because the odds are against it, doesn't mean it can't work. It really depends on you and her. No one else. Statistics are only for the idiots who believe in them...I fight statistics in everything I do.
2006-12-03 17:33:45 · answer #1 · answered by MACmommy 2 · 3⤊ 2⤋
You guys love each other right? So what's the rush of getting married? As long as you guys can be loyal toward each other, you guys can marry around 23 and such. but for now, there is much more to do. Answer this. Are you going to be ok financially? Remember that your parents and family won't always be there to support you guys. What will you be able to give to your futur wife? can u buy her a house? A car? Do yourself a favor. Finish school first. Leave all the weddings and responsibility for later. Go for University!! It'seven better for your futur, make your parents proud of you and easy for your futur children. Think about it. You are still young. Don't rush it.
2006-12-03 17:41:10 · answer #2 · answered by LadyXSakura 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You say you have been together for a long time, but you didn't say how long.... It really depends on your relationship whether you can make it work or not. Only you can make a decision. But consider the advice from someone who got married and had two kids by 22 years old (due with baby number 2 in march). If I would have known how many opportunities I would miss out on because of financial obligations that come with independance and family, I would have waited. I would have stayed in my parents' home, finished school, gotten a job, and then gotten married. I would have still been just as commited to my husband(i knew from early on that he was the one), but life when we got married would have been more mature and (financially) easier. Make the decision based on yourselves, but consider the burdens that will be on you, research them, and plan for them.
2006-12-03 17:30:47 · answer #3 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i married 3 months after i turned 18 it was a very abusive marriage he thought he was the big boss or something it lasted 17 years, but we were no happy.
2006-12-03 17:22:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kathy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Statistically no. Over half "normal" marriages fail all by themselves. If you add in the special circumstance of your age and maturity, then you have about a 3% chance of actually MAKING IT...having a nice house, cars, kids, not being on welfare..and most of all being happy. Go for it..just not so soon.
2006-12-03 17:26:48 · answer #5 · answered by mlove1307 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
17 & 18....what in the world are you guys thinking? get a degree...a job...a career...save and invest...before you ever think of marriage.
of course, you wouldn't agree with me because you're only 18 and she's 17....
2006-12-03 17:27:53 · answer #6 · answered by FlyingHi007 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have resources to take care of your financial responsibilities without troubling parents , then you must go ahead to take this step , otherwise wait till you start earning .
2006-12-03 17:37:23 · answer #7 · answered by your noon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe you are in love, but why get married so young? Its such a huge commitment I don't know if you can know what that means. But stranger things have happened. Good luck.
2006-12-03 17:26:24 · answer #8 · answered by I'm Trying 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Go for it! You have probably a 20% chance of success. You also might wind up on welfare with your wife pulling tricks to pay the rent.
2006-12-03 17:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not encourage you to go through with this. Try playing house for a while like everyone else.
2006-12-03 17:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋