So i'm dating a separated man. i just saw a pic of his wife that he is separated from and she is much more pretty than me. Better body and face. I'm a little more on the chubby side and average looking(trust me on this)
I know his wife is a great mother and doesnt cheat so i'm wondering...
she is much more pretty and a good mother...why would he date me?
Am i just someone on the side?
2006-12-03 17:00:28 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If he is not shallow then yes... Besides beauty is in the eye of the beholder. If your wondering if he is still seeing her then you should call that show cheaters and have them follow him around...
2006-12-03 17:03:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should ask yourself a question, does he spend all of his time with you? or does he come and see you and then go back to his woman at the end of the day?
There should be some signs of lack of commitment.
OR signs that his committed and truthful....
Is he just interested in your money? or is it actually a real normal relationship.
Hey the woman may be pretty and faithful, but she could also be a crazy beast of a woman with a hidden psycho side to her.
You will never know this without knowing her.
Maybe he finds that he has more things in common with you instead? And likes being with you, So is he having an affair with you? If he is, how do you know he won't do that to you in the future?
But if you said his already seperated then it should really be like a normal relationship.
Just be careful with yourself, his ex-partner may have not let go of him and things may get a little messy down the way.
Think to yourself, how long have you been with this man and has he spoken about commitment or anything? Have you met the parents? If his avoiding some really important things in the relationship, it should raise a few flags....
Step back and think about whats happening, his personality... the way he acts... does the relationship fulfill your needs.. etc...
I don't think anyone can help you in this as no opinion is a correct opinion in this situation. Only you can tell... we can only give you options or things to think about... Take care... but think about the things I've said....
2006-12-04 01:09:47 · answer #2 · answered by swma76 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he's separated, there's always a chance that your relationship with him could work out. Unfortunately, there's also a chance that he will end up going back to her, more of a chance than if they were already divorced. It doesn't necessarily depend on looks, unless he's shallow. It all depends on the situation. The only thing you can do if you want to continue with this relationship is to make sure that you keep the lines of communication open about what you are each feeling, and where your relationship and his relationship with his wife is headed. Plus you have to realize and accept the fact that it is an unstable relationship that could end at any time.
2006-12-04 01:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Cyndi Storm 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are dating a separated man, the woman should always consider everything.
Another words: don't expect anything serious. Don't "GET SERIOUS." Until he knows what he wants, that may also mean you may like to look for someone else.
This way, it doesn't leave you with a broken heart, if HE Decides to change his mind. Men sometimes never know what they want and will never come clean.
MEN get confused also, they are just as human.
Don't listen to Johngolf.
Find another fish to make you happy.
2006-12-04 01:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
So you're dating a married man...how nice for you, oh in case you didn't know it being seperated is NOT divorced. They are STILL legally married. Obviously you are way immature if you beleive that marriages hinge on looks of the people invovled...immatre and shallow. I doubt he would be interested in you if he were divorced or single. Yeah you're just someone on the side...someone gullible enough to allow him to use her until he gets a divorce (or goes back to his wife), and he can date independent, intelligent women, who think more of themselves than to allow a married man to use them.
2006-12-04 01:04:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEP! You're the one who's "safe". His wife can look at a picture of you and not feel threatened. So when he says he'll never talk to you again and that you were just there in his "time of need" she'll believe him. I'm sorry, but there are thousands of single and unattached men out there...don't waste your time with a "maybe".
2006-12-04 01:24:59 · answer #6 · answered by MACmommy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
sounds like it to me--sorry to say my husband and I were separated for a short while and he dated this gal just so as to not to be alone --something to take up time--and when push came to shove and i told him either we pull together and make the family whole OR throw it all away ?? He immediately moved home and the other gal?? Gone just like that --don't ever date a rebound its not worth the risk UNLESS you just are looking for fun and not a lasting relationship--
2006-12-04 01:15:18 · answer #7 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Ok if he likes you he might leave her. A relationship isn't about looks, however that is a bonus. If he's still with her and leaves her for you or even if he does leave her but still sees you he is cheating. Keep in mind that what he does to her he might do to you. You can't cure a wondering heart or a cheating mind.
2006-12-04 01:05:10 · answer #8 · answered by Angelica 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
best never to put trust in a married man, as he can always decide to return to his wife, and leave u heatbroken. while your wasting time on him, u are mabe missing the chance with someone else who is available.
2006-12-04 10:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well why are they seperated if she is such a good wife? Maybe they really are not seperated he could be lying to you he could even be showing you a picture of someone else not really his wife?? Have you met his kids?
2006-12-04 01:21:33 · answer #10 · answered by calieyecandy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋