How to discipline a 2 year old daugther?

Question

She was so naugty she don't like eating? She's throwing toys to my face... I sometimes lose my temper on her so I scolded her but when she cried I feel so guilty... what should I do how I can discipline her without hurting her?

Answer 1

Your in a tough cycle right now & more than likely forever unless you decide to try different parenting techniques or idea's.

Ask yourself all these things....
Do you remember as a child liking everything your
parents fed you?
Do you remember all the things you thought as a child?
Do you remember as a child throwing something out of
sheer frustration?
Do you remember as a child feeling like this world was
way too big & scary?
Do you remember as a child feeling like you weren't
heard or listened too?
Do you remember while growing up how awkward you
felt at times?
Do you remember as a child idealizing someone so
much & then they crushed you like it was nothing &
without even knowing it?
Do you remember as a child feeling like you wanted
everything to only go your way & no one elses?
Do you remember as a child being hurt by another child?
Do you remember as a child being rejected or laughed
at in school?
Do you remember as a child being scolded at by an
adult you loved & thinking to yourself how hurt your heart
felt right at that moment?

Honestly, your daughter is 2 not 20. Don't yell at her like she's
a 20 year old who just smashed the family car, not that even
thats okay. All those questions I asked you have everything to
do with you & your daughter now even if they are about your
childhood. You really have to sit back and ask yourself
everything I asked you & really contemplate your answers.

Think about your answers and if most ring true for you, then take a moment & simply place your daughter in your childhood shoes. If you'd rather not, you obviously don't want her to feel the things you did, but by scolding her that is exactly in turn what you are doing.
Your daughter has to discover how this world works even if it only involves her house for now!
Your daughter is learning how to communicate or punish or scold someone by experiencing & watching everything you say & do to her. This is more than likely how she will treat everyone in her life from boyfriends to her husband to her kids & most importantly to you.
Your daughter's mind is just like a sponge, she is soaking up everything she see's & hears. Just pay attention & you'll notice.
So what some days your daughter doesn't feel like eating something you prepared, maybe she has a really good reason for not liking it (but she can't tell you yet because shes not talking). But if this is a continual problem, maybe see a health care professional. I have a 3yr old girl & she still doesn't eat everything I eat. When eating dinner, I let her eat whatever she fancies off of her plate & if she doesn't finish it, when then theres lunch for tomorrow.
As for throwing toys, you are going to have to be firm & say NO!
Thats it, you have to be firm & say no. If she chooses to continue with that behaviour, well she has a crib. Let your daughter think about how limiting the crib is compared to the rest of the house.

Even say to your daughter in a full sentence, that if she does it again, its crib time! Let her cry for a few minutes & then ask her if she will be nice if you take her out? My daughter a just 3yrs old understands me completely when I say that to her. And yes her behaviour is much better.

Dont expect this to work the first time, it will take as little as 2x's all the way to maybe 10x's before your child realizes that being nice or behaving is a heck of a lot better than being placed in the crib where she is limited.

If your daughter is not talking yet, don't get frustrated with her, because that is exactly how she is feeling too. She doesn't have the vocabulary yet to tell you exactly how she feels so she gets mad & behaves badly.

Your daughter is a growing, breathing, moving, learning & loving
little girl with a beautiful heart. Don't crush her heart with your
scolding (at something you won't be able to recall later).

Love her, cherish her, help her, teach her, discipline her, guide her, direct her, listen to her, hear her, comfort her & mostly laugh with her at even the simplist things!

Good luck..
Nicole

Answer 2

It's called the treble twos. It's a phase. The biggest thing is being patient and use redirection. Don't reward the negative behaviors even with a negative response. If you ignore something then she may realize she's not going to get a response with that and stop doing it. Reward the positive things she does with praises and laughter. Observe her why do you think she is doing what she is doing. Be consistent with what you say. Mean what you say and say what you mean. Don't tell her she's going to be in a time out if she does something and then when she does it not do what you said. Children are very smart and they know how to manipulate people to get what they want. If you are not being mean or abusive in anyway and she cries when you correct and tell her what she did that was inappropriate so she knows what she did wrong and and if she cries let her cry for a minute or two. When she is done tell her what she did that wasn't OK and tell her not to do it again or she will have the same consequences. She is only a child and she learns best by observing others and having good examples. Maybe she's board and what's you to play with her? Kid's don't always know the words for what they want. Redirection

Answer 3

Does she just get naughty when it's time to eat?

Tell her she can either sit and eat without throwing things, or she will have to wait until the next meal time.

If she acts up when it's time to eat, just remove her from the table, don't say anything because then it'll be a power trip, take the food away and don't offer anymore food until it's time to eat again. That's hard to do (I know, I had a terrible two's daughter who's grown up now) but she won't starve to death if she misses a meal or two.

Take her toys away if she throws them and tell her she can have them back when she does not throw them. Be consistent! This puts the ball in her court and helps her learn to control her impulses.

One thing you don't want to do is make food a big issue, which can cause lots of problems later on.

The source listed here is good advice for parents of young children. Enjoy her; the time goes fast and soon she'll be grown up!

Answer 4

Well, I suggest removing toys from her reach. Put her in a high chair, and give her one piece of food at a time. When she does something naughty, you say NO, and when she does what's expected, you SMILE and tell her nice things, like 'big girl' 'atta girl' 'mmm tasty' 'so nice.'

You cannot discipline a child of any age without hurting them, even if it's just their feelings. That's sort of the point. Guilt is part of the game, but you have to remember you're in charge. You don't want her to throw books at her teachers, so you give her a good scolding when she throws things at you.

Two-year-olds really respond to 'nice' and 'not nice'--it's very easy. Everything is nice or not nice. Tell her all the time what is and isn't, she will start to do it herself. I always had the guilty laugh when mine would say, "Mama, that's not nice," to me when I would slam a door, or yell at another kid.

Answer 5

At age 2 you do extra guiding then punishing. Time outs are very sturdy. A stern NO NO and as we communicate eliminate the youngster from what she replaced into doing. clarify why you probably did it and what the youngster did incorrect. She is two no longer stupid in case you clarify she would be ready to %. up on you tone and quite a number of the words. Be vigilant and whilst she returns to the article or the habit she gets a NO NO and then an afternoon out in the nook. do no longer USE the youngster's mattress FOR THIS objective it quite is going to purely grant you with problems at mattress time as a results of fact the youngster will think of mattress time is a punishment. whilst all else fails I relatively have been understand to grant a whack to a properly diapered little butt, yet it relatively is for issues like messing with the sunshine socket (coated of direction) sturdy success

Answer 6

Sorry to say this, but discipline begins immedietly for children. They need to be on strict schedules and have rules in which to follow, long before they ever turn 2. This eliminates any serious behavioural problems later on down the road. It really annoys me when people ask others how they should discipline their child, once the child is out of control and disrespectful.

Answer 7

She is 2 she is going to cry no matter how you discipline her its meant to make you feel bad suck it up and stick to your guns i spanked my kids but if u do not wish to do that alot of people seem to think time out is effective

Answer 8

Discipline with patience and love. Two years child needs more love than discipline. She has alot things to learn, but sometimes can be mischeivous. She needs your patience and love to nurture her.

Answer 9

Plz read this book:

Baby and Child Care by Dr. Benjamin Spock.

Answer 10

tell her to stop or do something and if she doesn't listen, count to 3. If after 3, she doesn't do it, than spank her!! read that somewhere!! seems to work