Does it seem possible that a husband and wife, after twenty yeasr of marriage with a couple kids, could have an very active and happy sex life, (oral, anal, toys, light B&D but no threesomes or anything multiple) and then suddenly one of the partners declares that they have grown beyond the need for sexual intimacy? To go from one extreme to the other, calling it sexual burn out, seems to be,,,very strange. The partner in question is the wife and, before you ask, she wasn't forced into anything previous to this and was usually the instigator.
2006-12-03 17:54:15 · 12 answers · asked by MEL 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No not normal- may be due to hormonal imbalance ( I mean high levels before/low levels now) and then there is the dirty word- menopause- think about the word and what it is made up of
MEN O PAUSE. It's like telling you that we are put on pause when it comes to men when it comes to that time in our lives- like the pause button on the TV!! Subtly ask your wife if she has seen her gynecologist or if she is due to see her soon, and suggest (dont be afraid) that maybe she should have a good check up and get blood tests for this (DO NOT USE THE WORD MENOPAUSE UNLESS YOU WANT TO SLEEP ON THE COUCH FOR THE NEXT DECADE). By the way, it doesn't matter how old your wife is, she can go through menopause at 35, so it is a possibility. Other physical problems like the hormone imbalance can also cause the lack of libido so tread lightly on the subject to her because I can bet she has been moody along with this sudden change in desire.
The only other solution to the riddle would be she met someone else to get her groove on-- sorry I had to say it because it is the other possibility. Good luck to you -- I hope things work out and I hope it is just a hormone imbalance.
2006-12-03 18:03:18 · answer #1 · answered by mac 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have found that the better the communication, the better the sex. Because of you having to ask this question in here, instead of asking her, is a sign that the two of you have grown apart from being able to trust each other in talking about anything. Sex is what has to "serve time" when it wasn't what committed the crime. Try and find out what she is wanting, or what she feels is lacking from a friend of hers. Not for ammo, but for ways of providing her needs. Try and remember what you did to gain her love. I think once we have it, we forget to try to keep it.
It could be, however, menopause or something like that.
2006-12-03 18:34:46 · answer #2 · answered by ckgene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anybody moves beyond the need for intamacy, but rather their needs for types of intamacy chage at different times. it is normal for the desire for sex to change depending on "life" at the moment, for both men and women. She may be in a "I don't need as much sex" cycle right now.
If it continues she should talk to your general practioner doctor and see if he recommends tests for physiological testing for conditions that may decrease a person's desire for sex. It could be any number of physical or emotional reasons right now.
But, sexual burn-out? I don't think anyone who enjoys sex gets burned-out on it.
2006-12-04 05:08:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normal or not, it's not fair to the husband. If he has not "grown beyond" the need for sexual intimacy, then she needs to shrink herself back down to it.
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2016-12-29 20:57:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES SEXUAL BURN OUT DOES HAPPENS AND SOMETHING NORMAL AFTER TWO DECADES OF MARRIAGE...BUT IF IT HAPPENS WITHIN 15 YEARS OF MARRIAGE THEN IT IS CERTAINLY A CASE OF LOVE BURNOUT FIRST RESULTING IN SEXUAL BURN OUT...
2006-12-03 18:01:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has she started any new meds? Hormones are especially bad on the libido. Have her speak to her doctor about it. Good luck,
2006-12-03 18:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by Gorgeoustxwoman2013 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
true or not it is her reality therefor it is true and you will have to live with it..... there are other good things other then sex.. is she a good mom, housewife etc... sucks but sounds like she is headed into a huge change... and it doesn't include you in the bedroom.
2006-12-03 18:32:54 · answer #8 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't say it's sexual burnout; I WOULD say it's probably waking up and coming to your senses.
2006-12-03 18:01:28 · answer #9 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never been in that position. I guess anything is possible, but it seems suspicious to me.
2006-12-03 17:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋