both of us ready to get married but now fear struck our mind as in our case it will b intercaste marriage, so in future our parents wont remain happy and keep taunting us that v got married with our choice etc etc. wat shud v do. should v go 4 marriage or keep lifetime affair after getting married in same caste
2006-12-03 16:52:30 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, I believe in love.
That being said, why are you dating outside your caste? falling in live, getting engaged, and THEN asking this question???
2006-12-03 16:56:26 · answer #1 · answered by steelypen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even in intercaste marriages, it is just the first two years where you will have to hear the taunts and comments of your parents and later, if you both remain happy together, everything will fall in its place, eventually. Getting married to other people will only mean more scandals and more problems. Get married to each other and be true to each other. Give time to each other and listen to each other. It should be a pact that both of you will listen to each other rants but will act normally in front of the parents. Taunts do not last a lifetime, especially if you are sure that you love each other and will be happy together.
2006-12-04 01:11:40 · answer #2 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
of you get married to your parents choice and carry your affair after also that will be a very big mistake and no one will forgive you both , your parents , your in laws (both) , your spouse , your relatives , friends and all , so think 100 times before doing this and spoiling many lives . and in case of your inter caste marriege you have not mentioned your castes any way it depends on what is your society like , where do u belong to . more importantly you should at first try to convince your parents if they get ready it will be fine then . but if they dont then you have to take your own desition by thinking you will be left alone and can you face that for a long time and aftersome time may be when you have kids your parents forgive you.
2006-12-04 03:32:32 · answer #3 · answered by gunchu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a stupid idea! You two seem to be complete emotional fools. first of all after all these years that you have lived with your parents cant you make out their likes dislikes and thinking processes? cant you think up of ways of how your spouse and you can impress and win the love of your respective in-laws?(even if it will be a bit difficult in the biggining)
Your parents want your happiness (all parents do) and their apprehensions related to your spouse would be for the same reason. Give them some time to adjust to the fact that they will have to include a person in their family who is very much unlike them.
also plz tell me who gave you the right to spoil other peoples life when you thought of getting married to people of your own cast and keep life long affairs? Gosh! how selfish can any one get?
2006-12-04 02:35:46 · answer #4 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a shame. Getting married is such a wonderful thing to look forward to. You have a lot of heart to heart conversations to share with your families. I would start spending time together at each others homes so that the families can get to know you both as people and not just people of different cultures, or skin. People have been known to change. It could take many months but it can happen and would be very rewarding to have them at your wedding. By all means, don't get defensive, angry, or confrontational. The thing to do is show them that you love each other and make each other happy and model to them the most positive behavior you can muster. Both of you will have to be the bigger persons in order to change their minds.
2006-12-04 01:04:16 · answer #5 · answered by PZ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey just get married if u love each other..i can understand ur problem about intercaste marriages as I am from India. But remember tht if u marry sum1 else u'll spoil so many lives..parents will always find things to taunt u....but wit time they will accept ur decision. ..i just wonder how strong ur realtion is if u r unwilling to get married and succumb to parental pressure.
2006-12-04 01:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by danny's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not sure I understand what the problem is, but if you found the love of your life and she loves you the same, don't let anyone or anything stand in your way or you will be sorry for the rest of your life!!!!!
2006-12-04 00:56:53 · answer #7 · answered by The Nana of Nana's 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in tradition.
Our old men were not fool who made these Powerful Cast System.
There are 4 main casts in Hindus. : Branmin, Kshatriya, Vaishya, Shoodra.
All are equal in society, but Genes are not equal. Each cast has its own qualities and virtues in their blood.
WE SHOULD NOT MIX THEM. DEVOTE YOUR LOVE TO OUR CIVILIZATION.
2006-12-04 01:11:03 · answer #8 · answered by Rajesh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u take money from some one...only you have to pay with interest.
if you love some one, you have to marry what ever may be the consequenses.
Mayking elders happy...is how do you beheave, treat with ur elders?
u should gain respect, support from every one.
2006-12-04 03:00:22 · answer #9 · answered by SureshkumarYVS from hyderabad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are afraid to take responsibility of making your own choice, you'll continue to fail in life and live in fear ...
2006-12-04 02:33:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋