is it too soon to get married?

Question

i have been with this extraordinary man for 6 mos. i am going to spend the rest of my life with him. there is no doubt about that. i am 31 and he is 42. we have both been married and are now divorced. each have a son. i know i want to be with him forever and the feeling is mutual. i want to live with him. we spend 5 to 6 days a week with each other. he is very traditional and wants to be married first. i respect his views and i would marry him tomorrow!! but is 6 mos too soon?

Answer 1

DUH....If you plan on spending your lives together, what does a piece of paper prove ?? I say wait it out since you two are so sure that your gonna end up staying together forever. What is the rush ??

Answer 2

As long as there is love, trust, and commitment in a relationship, its never to soon to get married! I have been engaged for two years and we are just starting to plan our wedding, we too were both married before and I have a six year old from a previous marriage. He is in only child, 38 and I am 26, we wish we would have started planning sooner because now we are worried about having children so late. There will always be life issues all around you but take what your given at the moment and run with it with no regrets! Good luck with your decision and Congratulations!

Answer 3

You didn't say how old your son is, but if he's 18 or less then you need to think about how such a quick marriage will affect him. How will you and your husband deal with differences in parenting styles? Are your kids ready for a blended family? They might need more time to get used to the new stepmom/dad and step brother. Not to mention moving into a new home, changing schools, etc - this is really traumatic for a kid,especially if the divorce happened only recently. For the sake of your son, you need to go slowly and not rush. Six months might be fine for you but it mighty quick for a child.

Answer 4

Are You Ready for Marriage?

This topic is presented in several parts:

What’s love got to do with it?

Essential Skills for Marriage:

Communication

Conflict resolution

Commitment and Compromise

Your own work

A good basis for marriage

Each article is complete topic, or may be read as the series, "Are You Ready for Marriage?"

What’s love got to do with it? We Americans are romantics. In the movies, we like to see good overcome evil, and the hero and heroine ride off into the sunset, together. Our love stories tend to take a typical form of boy meets girl, and they encounter difficulties. The storyline is based on how they resolve the difficulties and then live happily ever after.

Realistically, love doesn’t conquer all. Love cannot resolve all problems and difficulties. To have the expectation that it can or will, reinforces two very detrimental ideas: if someone loves me, he or she will change in order to suit me, or, if I love him or her enough, I can bring about those changes.

Our love for another, our devotion and support can encourage awareness and emotional growth. However, the growth itself must be undertaken, worked through, and completed by the other person. Further, he or she must acknowledge, feel, and believe in the need for change in order to grow. Some changes will be beyond a person’s ability to make. There are drinkers or drug users who never conquer their addictions, batterers who never learn that real love is lived out in loving behaviors toward the other person, and people with personality disorders or emotional problems who may be unable to resolve or modify them sufficiently to live productively and harmoniously with others.

So the question, “What’s love got to do with it?” can be answered this way: love is part of the underlying basis for a relationship, but for true happiness in the long run, there must be health and stability as well.

If you plan on spending your lives together, what does a piece of paper prove ? I say wait it out since you two are so sure that your gonna end up staying together forever.
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I know the feeling that you want to get married to the one you love.I would just say wait atleast a year or so to get to know everything about each other. Love is a great thing and a great feeling. I always dreamed about that special day but you don't want to rush into anything. If after a year or more you still fellyou want to marry him then I say go for it. Good Luck and May both of you live a long and happy life together.

Answer 5

You just explained everything you need to know. If you know you love him and you know you want to spend the rest of your life with him and the feeling is mutual, then you should do it. I think once you reach a certain age (I'm not saying you're old), it takes less time to figure out what you want in a relationship. Since you're divorced you probably know what you don't want, so when you find something you do want you should jump on it. Good luck!

Answer 6

in my opinion, 6 months is still the impression stage. You don't know the other's true colors yet because they don't want to show you. You can plan a wedding if you want but make sure it isn't too soon. I was engaged for 2 and a half years before i got married, and it took me about 2 years to realize that it was the right move. be careful

Answer 7

I guess there would be no need to wait. He seems soo caring and patient. It's hard to find these kind of men. Since, he is traditional and wants to be married first, this demonstrates that he is very respectful and wants to give you time and not pressure you. Go for it!! goodluck.

Answer 8

if you have discussed issues such as what role he will play in your sons life, will you work,what do expect from him and he from you, do you both know why your first marriages failed.....if you have a clear idea of what life will be like and feel good about what you know I would say 6 months is not too soon....good luck

Answer 9

i think 6 days is to soon you both love each other you should get marry tomorrow why wait good luck in your marriage.

Answer 10

Yes. Afgter 6-9 months, the egos start to separate, and you will begin to see all his flaws much more clearly....and also, his serious character defects, becuase the "Rpmance" and thrill wiol wane, and uinderneath it all, we are all just people struggling with life..