Okay so my husband has been talking to this girl from high school he had a crush on...He has told me and is not keeping it from me. She on the other hand has been very flirtatious and she is married she always makes remarks about if he is happy and several times he has answerd yes. She admits to being flirty and my husband doesn't mind? Is she trying to steal him from me because she is unhappy? Remember my hubby is telling me this and i have seen the emails. I just don't trust her..
2006-12-03 17:28:06 · 20 answers · asked by speedy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK, your husband is telling you everything so that's good. But the truth is you just don't feel comfortable with this whole thing going on, right? Tell him... nicely. Make him place himself in your shoes. How would he like it if the situation was inverted? Would he let it be and not be bothered by it? Chances are he wouldn't. Since you can't control other women's behavior, you shouldn't lose sleep over it. On the other hand, your husband is the one that owes loyalty to you, and that you can control. He should stop talking to that woman if it's making his wife uncomfortable. And he definitely should understand why. Just talk to him (without barking) and I'm sure he'll stop talking to that other woman. After all, who wants anyone flirting with their significant other?
2006-12-03 17:59:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here is an idea. It seems you don't trust your hubby. If another woman is being flirtatious with your man, remind him of why he married you in the first place. You can do this over a romantic dinner, or a wild night in the sack. Anyway that you do it make it something he wont forget. This way you will not have to worry even a little bit about competition.
2006-12-03 17:36:50 · answer #2 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People will probably tell me that i am controlling. But i would not like this either. Especially because of her flirtatious approach. If there is not a very strong friendship here, then i would ask him to stop talking to her. Not because i wouldn't trust him, but because i wouldn't trust her. I know you can trust him, because he is not keeping this secret. But i would still just ask if he could discontinue this friendship out of respect to you. Good Luck, i hope you don't have to deal with her anymore.
2006-12-03 17:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a smart man. I've played this game with my ex-wife - note: ex-wife. He's using reverse psychology on you. By letting you know that he is talking to her, he is giving you a false sense of security and letting you think that he's being totally open and honest with everything he does. By accomplishing this, he now doesn't have to worry about being caught talking to her. Truth of the matter is, a man that is totally faithful and in love with his wife, would not talk to any woman that he wouldn't have to, outside of his normal every day activities.
2006-12-03 17:45:29 · answer #4 · answered by blackout_rocknroll 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I think that this is just asking for trouble. It doesn't really matter that he told you or you have seen the emails. This is your husband. It may be innocent now but it will soon change and it will be partly your fault because you are just handing him over to her. Don't think that your eyes will see everything...but open them before its too late.
2006-12-03 17:34:24 · answer #5 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's one thing for him to "catch up" with an email or two...it's a completely different thing for him to keep up this relationship. He should know how inappropriate this is...and yes...she is after your husband, looking for the right opportunity to "be there" for him. Watch out...I would put and end to this immediately.
2006-12-03 17:39:08 · answer #6 · answered by MACmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your husband doesn't mind her being flirtatous, it makes him feel good. But maybe he should think about how it makes you feel. Perhaps he should sever his ties with her. Especially if it's making you uncomfortable. At least he's being honest with you, but I think he should take your feelings into consideration. And if the woman isn't happy in her life then she doesn't care about the damage she could do to yours. Let him know how you feel!! Good luck
2006-12-03 17:35:53 · answer #7 · answered by fungirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because your husband is being upfront about it doesn't make it right. Tell him how uncomfortable this whole thing is making you feel and ask him to stop contact with her. If he loves you, he will not want to see you unhappy.
2006-12-03 17:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
so youre marry to mr scarecrow tell him to go back to wizzard oz and pick up what they give him youre know trust is a hard thing to get back once broke lets see she fliratious send email make remark admits it r u a door mat or his wife no one has the right to wipe their feet on you wake up
2006-12-03 17:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So....would you mind sharing? Cuz im sure your husband wouldn't. :p Just kidding. Tell her to back off, if not, then try reverse psychology or tell her husband
2006-12-03 17:31:31 · answer #10 · answered by animewarlord5000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋