Marriage & Divorce - 12 November 2006

I have been dating a man for a year...he told me he was seperated, and was filing for divorce He asked me to marry him in March. Found out on Friday he has been married (not seperated) this whole time, sharing a matrimonial bed with her..etc.. He has lied pathologically about some horrendous things, that I have found out.. Like his father dieing..when he didn't...that his mom tried to attempt suicide. He told me to give my notice to my landlord because we were moving into together, but he had no intentions, as of December 1, I am homeless...do I have anything to work with to get some form of settlement for the emotional abuse.
I DID NOT know he was married.

2006-11-12 11:38:59 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

First off this did not happen to me it happened to my friend today. Anyway my friend is in love with a total jerk! She bought tickets last thursday to see a famous play tonite. She bought the tickets for her and her boyfriend. This was so supposed to be a surprise for him. She got the perfect seats 3rd row floor seats. However when she told him about the tickets yesterday he totally blew her off and told her that he had plans to watch football at his friends house tonite. He also took the tickets and gave them away to his sister and her boyfriend. My friend called me today crying because she spent like 150.00 for the tickets and she bought a new outfit and got her hair done. How could he be such an a**.

2006-11-12 11:36:11 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

my wife is always nagging me. should i sell her on ebay? how much is a nag worth?

2006-11-12 11:31:08 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am 33. My husband is 46. He has 3 children from a previous marraige. When we met - I was very clear about my desire to have kids, and he was very clear about his desire to not have kids. He said - I love you so much though - "I will give you a child." I believe he loved me so much - that he would want a child - he doesn't. The worse part - I have lost two babies - and now he says things like - I kept my promise - I gave you two - this hurts. He also frequently reminds me that he doesn't want a baby. I don't know if I should stay. I also worry about how he will treat our child - especially in comparison to how he treats his 3 children from his preivous marriage. Our marriage is a rocky one to top it off. He is a VP at a large company and he uses this power against me quite a lot - and says with his money he could replace my beauty easily and just have someone to adore him and travel - not have to have a family - should I stay in this situation?

2006-11-12 11:24:11 · 20 answers · asked by mdcmc 1

2006-11-12 11:05:46 · 20 answers · asked by hos_1978 1

I've been married for over a year now. My husband is the type to come home from work kiss me on the cheek and tell me how his day went. If I'm sitting at home looking decent with makeup my hair done and just looking pretty for him he wont notice until I comment about it. He does this always and its a constant argument. Well today I look nice, I'm wearing low cut shirt and got nice makeup on (the whole deal) but I'm with him I wear this for him well I show up at a convient store ask him if he wants to get down he says "NO" well inside the store 2 men hit on me and I comment about it in the car. NOW HE'S MAD. ..The way I see it is If I look good why not acompany me so people know I'm married and or have a man in genaral!? If he were looking Good I would not let him anywhere by him self. I think he's being very unreasonable, because he needs to take care of what he's got! What do you think??

2006-11-12 11:04:05 · 16 answers · asked by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3

I discovered all these cell calls to and from the same cell . I looked it up on line and found her address. Found out it was the barmaid at a local bar . This killed me. Im a strong person but this did me in . He finally said he messed up and said it was over with her. when I showed him the detailed phone bill, that it wasn't over he threw a fit . Then realizing how much he could lose he told me it was a mistake and WILL NEVER HAPPEN AGAIN !!!!!! well now he gets about 6 to 8 restricted calls a day &txt messages every day. so he is still up to no good . He says there is nothing going on but why sneak around behind my & her husbands back ???? should I contact her husband & get his opinion? Can two people talk & meet up all the time ¬ be having an affair???

2006-11-12 11:00:25 · 24 answers · asked by amber 1

my family is from southern india, but i was born in usa.me and my husband have a 2 month old son, my husband is going back to india for two months because his mother is dieing from cancer, and i cant go with him. what if they try to marrie him off to some one there? does he have a choise in the matter?

2006-11-12 10:59:18 · 30 answers · asked by solovelyjayanthi 1

Just been to my husband's apartment (please read my previous question). I am pathetic to keep asking for your opinion but I really don't know what to do and need to get strength from somewhere. It seems he wants to stay there during the week and live as a single person because he has never done anything just for himself , then come home at weekends. We married 19 years ago when he was 22 and I was 35 but he told me he was 27 at the time and believed him, but thats neither here nor there. I asked him what he feels about me and he said he would rather not answer, then when I said that perhaps I should also look to make a life for myself if he wasn't willing to answer, we made love. Later he said jokingly we were great mates, but that wasn't enough for me, I wanted his soul. He makes jokey references to me being wealthy and will I lend him 50 thousand pounds? I am dreading him asking me because he says my love is conditional and I wouldn't give it to him, also in a jokey way.

2006-11-12 10:57:48 · 40 answers · asked by Nancy S 1

2006-11-12 10:55:33 · 8 answers · asked by Laurie 1

I don't think there has been a night in the 8+ years we've been together that my wife didn't come before I did, which is difficult because she can only have clitoral orgasms.

Not trying to brag, just trying to gauge where I stand next to others in the bedroom.

2006-11-12 10:53:03 · 38 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I are planning on moving to Texas and when we do we want to buy a home as opposed to renting.
My wife has a 630 credit rating and I have a 625 credit rating. However, I had a bankruptcy discharge in my name only one year ago.

Will we qualify and what should we expect a monthly payment to be on a $140,000 home. Can we get zero down? What kind of interest rate should we expect?

Any help would be appreciated.
David

2006-11-12 10:52:25 · 4 answers · asked by yanks006 3

2006-11-12 10:48:14 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

i reallly love him and would like to settle down for good with him,and hopefully soon marry him,but he is going to prison shortly and i dont know how long for,but the problem is before i meet him i was with my ex for 7 years and was to marry him twice but it never happened.what do you reckon?am i jink;s where marraige is concered?

2006-11-12 10:41:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

i need help with my debate.
i know that there arent many cons to prenuptial agreements. i would love any help possible. thanks.

2006-11-12 10:39:03 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-12 10:35:25 · 22 answers · asked by hos_1978 1

this is in the state of massachusetts.

2006-11-12 10:31:31 · 7 answers · asked by annenymous 2

and shaves everyday. When for the 4 years you were together he didn't put any effort into his appearance and would go without shaving for days and knew you were fine with it.

This change started all of a sudden a couple of weeks ago and on top of that he's been extremely irritated with me. Do you think he could be cheating?

2006-11-12 10:17:05 · 46 answers · asked by Jen 2

My sister lives about 4 hours away from me. Her boyfriend works overseas 3 weeks out of the month. When she goes on the computer she constantly find porn, and him being a user at dating websites. He says that he just gets bored. And he regularly promises not to do it again. She has never caught him cheating, do you think he is?
Another thing, is it okay to watch porn when your partner is against it?

2006-11-12 10:16:17 · 14 answers · asked by Melton 2

I have been with my husband for 15 years, he was my first and only, but we had some difficult times and in that time I met someone who I am very attracted to and I want to experience something else. I know the right thing to do is to forget this other person and just concentrate on my marriage but it's so hard to not want this.

2006-11-12 10:13:11 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

How many hours per night would you consider to be too many for my 29-year old husband to dedicate to playing xbox, or reading about it on the internet? He says it's his hobby, but I see it as an obessesion. Would you think 4+ hours per day is alot?

2006-11-12 10:12:04 · 29 answers · asked by animal_mother 4

my wife says mine is my gas haha

2006-11-12 10:08:00 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-12 10:00:47 · 9 answers · asked by rebalman80 1

2006-11-12 09:56:33 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

my husband and i have been married for 18 years now. And for past five years, my husband has been very stubborn about his feet and toes. For example, he refuses to take my advice and trim his toenails every so often (not to say they are super long or whatnot), but still. I mean my husband and I enjoy having me rub and play around with my hubby's feet and toes during our intimate evenings..I do find his feet a bit rugged and manly, but his toenails are getting a bit long for me to enjoy our "intimate times". how must we solve this on-going dilemma of ours?

2006-11-12 09:43:14 · 11 answers · asked by krystle_rae6 1

How should I handel this???? We have been married for almost 10 years and he has done this twice. I have just had to deal with it.
He is very passive agressive, he tells me indirectly all the time about women who are left destitute because they are not employed. He told me when we married that I did not have to work now he uses it to control me.I have been doing the pack and go unpack deal every month/weekend now for 10 years..........it is really getting old. I feel so vulnerable. Need some advise.......

2006-11-12 09:42:18 · 13 answers · asked by howey 1

i am married to a wonderful woman. you could not ask for anyone better. she'd a great wife, mother, lover, friend, and did i metion beautiful. yet i am bored. i feel like i want some kind of exiciting change. something different and new. i know it is selfish of me however i would like to read from ladies who feel the same. just to see if anyone else feels the same way.

2006-11-12 09:42:15 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-12 09:39:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-12 09:34:51 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

I consider this cheating and I try not to think about it but I can't help it. At times I even feel disgusted by it. He is the one that came to me and told me of this. I try to ask him what does this mean? Is he gay? Bi-sexual? or was he bi-curious? I try to ask but he brushes it off as if it isn't a big deal. When I do ask he says he is not gay but that is the end of the conversation. How can I find out? or How can he find out? I don't think he wants to know. So am I suppose to do act like nothing?

2006-11-12 09:29:18 · 38 answers · asked by Juicy 1