my family is from southern india, but i was born in usa.me and my husband have a 2 month old son, my husband is going back to india for two months because his mother is dieing from cancer, and i cant go with him. what if they try to marrie him off to some one there? does he have a choise in the matter?
2006-11-12 10:59:18 · 30 answers · asked by solovelyjayanthi 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
dear, it doesn't matter what he told his parents (or vice versa). the reality is since you have a 2-month old son itself is a dissuading factor for him. even if he is a mama's boy, the courts of either usa or india don't excuse bigamies. u should stay alert not to give him your consent for another marriage either in writing or on camera. so if he subject ever comes up between you two (or if he is extra soft or sweet with you) watch out! don't sign any paper without reading them thoroughly as even your expressing "intention" to allow him to marry again in a letter to your friend (or anyone else) can be cited by this rat in court as permission given!
if, in spite of your love and affection he does get married, you have two options: when the time comes to move out, cut the balls of your husband-rat so that he can never have a normal relations with his new wife; go to court of law complaining about your exploitation!
in any case, your alertness, your affection can only save your marriage. i am a man, but have hatred for such turncoats and mama's boys.
2006-11-13 00:22:33 · answer #1 · answered by krishna i 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dint understand your question... what did you ask your husband to tell his parents? that you are an India? as for the divorce part, you should have faith in your husband. do you think he is the sort of a man who will first marry a woman and make her give birth to his child and then forget all about it and marry someone else of his parents' choice?
for the sake of security, keep your husband's landline no. in India. and by the way, your mother in law is dieing, dont you think too should go and visit her?
2006-11-12 16:39:45 · answer #2 · answered by urfriendfrlife 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to take your and your son's pictures along with him. Preferably dress up in Indian dress, especially your son. He is the one who has to take a firm stand and has to say No to his parents. He may have to resort to emotional blackmail too, cry and wail, over his sone he loves so much and how he will not be able to meet him again if he divorces you. Paternal instincts in Indians are quite strong and he may have to appeal to them. He can say sorry to his parents for marrying without their permission but he has to be Stronger One. Anyways, this needs to be done so that all this drama is played and thens et aside. If your husband really loves you, don't worry, he will come unscathed and still very much devoted to you. Otherwise, of course, he will never be able to see you or your son again.
2006-11-12 22:20:01 · answer #3 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every son loves his mother and vise versa.
so if his mother is dying of cancer he must be there and its your duty to be with him at this time. may be you hav some other reasons. i dont think his parents wud ask him marry again.
is there any problem between you. then its possible. but you keep in touch with your husband , ask about his mother status, which wil make him to think that you really cares his mothers.
so think positevely and live a hapy married life and enjoy
all the best
lins
2006-11-12 16:53:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What did you ask your husband to tell his parents?? Anyway they can't marry him to someone unless he agrees to it.....if it was a woman now that would be different but because he is a man he has to agree to the marriage before hand.. so don't worry as long as he wants to stay with you you willbe fine.... Talk to him thats the best thing you should do.
2006-11-12 11:05:10 · answer #5 · answered by BabyPrincess REAL JAMAICAN QUEEN 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh heavens no... your husband must do what ever his parents tell him to do. He's going to have to marry a woman in India, and stay there for the rest of his life. It is his obligation... he must respect the wishes of his mother, as she lies there on her death bed.
He'll have to set fire to her bed after she is dead... and float her ashes down the Ganges... then he'll have to go to a ceremony where they make him eat like twelve pounds of curry, and a cup of rice... then they'll make him jump naked in the river, and wash away his sins (that includes YOU and your beautiful baby boy) then they'll make him put on a nice clean pink wedding dress, and marry the old cow his mother wanted him to marry... and he'll live happily ever after in india.
It's the law
2006-11-12 11:20:10 · answer #6 · answered by Mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
India and US have bigamy laws. He can't marry another woman in India - that would be bigamy in the US. Bigamy carries a 9 year prison sentence in MD (not sure for other states or India).
If you were married in India - your state still recognizes you as married and Bigamy still holds.
2006-11-12 11:10:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't know why u wannaa get divorce. if he is married ask him to talk to his parents that e is married and u have a kid. i would have prefer u to go with ur husband since u have a small kkid which is 2 months its hardly possible for u . just ask ur husband want they should not ask him marry again. u should ask him tell the truth face his parents this is solution to it otherwise its all upto GOD. i can tell u just believe in GOD and nothing else. if u believe in TIRUPATI ,pray from ur heart.
2006-11-12 11:39:52 · answer #8 · answered by mayur m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You havent reported in case you have toddlers that is between the flair motives of husbands not desiring their wifes to be removed from abode, through fact they cant cope with toddlers single handedly. you're able to desire to chat on your husband and enable him understand that your mothers and fathers are the two significant to you as he's, and what they recommend to you. clarify to him why you experience homesick, attempt to discover a answer that is acceptable for the two. as quickly as you're married you merely cant take your judgements on my own, it must be a mutual determination. Ask him the justifications why he's not prepared to deliver you to circulate on your mothers and fathers? Is it through fact he doesnt prefer to be left on my own. Ever thought approximately it??? mebbe he needs you to be with the help of his section jointly as he is going by those circumstances of trials and tribulations. If not now, ask him what may well be a good time to circulate to them? clarify to him that his expert issues will shop drawing close and rancid..and that he desires to check to stand em..and which you will consistently be with him to take heed to his issues patiently no matter while you're at abode or away..... that is on no account a case for divorce .. positioned your self on your husbands footwear and look on the difficulty, it facilitates to get a greater effective thought of why the different guy or woman is behaving the way he's.. and to appreciate the difficulty greater effective. stress on making judgements mutually
2016-11-23 18:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shower him with Love and affection. Make him feel he can not leave you for anything. If he has to attend his dying mother, let him go. It is his duty. You can not stop that. At the same time, you can try to win over the hearts of your mother in-law by your concern for her. All the best.
2006-11-12 16:23:10 · answer #10 · answered by SGraja 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋