Why is my husband so CONFUSING??

Question

I've been married for over a year now. My husband is the type to come home from work kiss me on the cheek and tell me how his day went. If I'm sitting at home looking decent with makeup my hair done and just looking pretty for him he wont notice until I comment about it. He does this always and its a constant argument. Well today I look nice, I'm wearing low cut shirt and got nice makeup on (the whole deal) but I'm with him I wear this for him well I show up at a convient store ask him if he wants to get down he says "NO" well inside the store 2 men hit on me and I comment about it in the car. NOW HE'S MAD. ..The way I see it is If I look good why not acompany me so people know I'm married and or have a man in genaral!? If he were looking Good I would not let him anywhere by him self. I think he's being very unreasonable, because he needs to take care of what he's got! What do you think??

Answer 1

My friend,

For some men that is just human nature they don't appreciate what they got til' they see it beside someone else's shoulder or when it's toolate and they have lost it!

Just don't nag him about not being interested because it's like telling them don't pay attention to me and do not for whatever reason tell him that men hit on you because they see it as a threat on our behalf instead of a warning!

Good Luck!

Answer 2

I think you need to get over yourself. Sure, a man should always complement his lady when she looks nice, so he may be a bone head there, but you don't need him to walk into 7-11 with you all the time so that losers know that you are married... that is what the ring is for... and so what if two guys hit on you, your married, you smile and say no thanks, I have a man. If he is mad it is probably because you might of come across like you welcomed the attention from other men and then kind of threw it in his face. Marriage is about trust and you are a newly wed... at some point you need to trust him to go somewhere with out you... just like is should be able to trust you too.

Answer 3

First, never do yourself up for a man. Do yourself up with makeup and stuff because YOU like how it looks. For that matter, he might not notice because he expects you to look like that.

Second, men are oblivious. I hate to say it, but they are. I'll get my hair cut, and the men in my life won't say anything for weeks. It's just how they are. Don't take offense to it.

Third, the poor guy has just come home from work and needs to vent about his day. Let him wind down for a while, then you can jump him.

And last...a convenience store is not a romantic place to be asking if he wants to get down..and it's rude to comment that other men are finding you attractive and want to get down with you. And he shouldn't have to accompany you everywhere just to show the guys that you're married. That's what that ring on your finger is for. He respects you and knows that you won't step out on him (right?) and gives you space to be an independent and strong woman. Who wants a marriage where the guy smothers you?

Damn, girl. I'd be mad at you too. You're gonna be with this guy for the rest of your life. What other guys think shouldn't matter, and who exactly are you trying to show off to?

Answer 4

I have been there and still am!! I have to ask him how I look, and he says good, so I looked like crap one day and he said the same thing, good! Men do not know how to compliment a woman that they already have and do not want others to. I compliment him and it all goes to his head.U got to take care of yourself for you, not him. I even stopped wearing make-up and he didn't notice but the next time I did my son freaked out and asked me where I was going!
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Answer 5

Your question is two-fold. One - you're married. A lot of men give up on the complimenting once their married for some time. You know - once they get past the honeymoon phase. He's told you you're beautiful before, so you already know he thinks that, and he certainly doesn't want you getting abig head about it and flirting with other men.

Now, your husband is mad because you got hit on...too bad for him :)

He is probably more upset because he thinks you enjoyed it.

It's a circle...you enjoy compliments from other men because your husband won't compliment you. But, your husband won't compliment you so you don't get such a big head you work to look so good other men will hit on you...

Answer 6

Men are that way. I have made the mistake of not noticing my wife when she is "fixed" up when I would get home from work. I just wanted to kick off the shoes and sit in front of the TV. No one loves their wife more than I love mine, so it isn't intentional that he ignores you.

Answer 7

You sound demanding. Tell your husband you're the type of woman that needs massive amounts of attention on a constant basis, otherwise you will start seeking other mens attention, who will also do the same eventually, and so on... hopefully he will listen.

Answer 8

men just don't notice that stuff. my husband doesn't notice stuff like that either. i usually look crappy when he gets home from looking after 3 kids all day but if i do happen to look good-nice clothes, make up-doesn't notice either. it's just a guy thing i think. can you tell him that it would mean something to you if he made a nice comment to you when he gets home

Answer 9

I think that every woman likes to be complemented when she looks nice, and deserves it. I think it's weird, that he's mad that 2 guys gave you a complement,as you're married to him, not the other guys. Do you argue alot about this matter?

Answer 10

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