How long did u date ur spouse before u get married?...when to know it is right to do this?

Answer 1

It doesn't matter the length of time anyone else dated before marriage; everyone is different. If you have any question in your mind about knowing if it is the right time to get married then DON'T DO IT!!! Also, I would tend to agree with one of the other answerers -- try living together: that's how you'll really get to know the person. People can be VERY deceptive for long lengths of time when you are just dating. Very deceptive about everything from personality traits to living habits, etc.

Answer 2

I agree with the one right before me. There is no time limit, no right or wrong answer. my in-laws got married just a few months after they started dating because he got drafted and went to war. They have been married almost 38 years now. My first engagement was after 1 year of dating, and the engagement lasted 1 1/2 years before we ended it. My second engagement was after 2 1/2 almost 3 years, engaged for 1 1/2 years before getting married. There is no way to know for sure if it will work or not, but from personal experience, if you doubt it and aren't sure, then trust your instinct.

Answer 3

We dated for almost 6 months got engaged moved in together
and got married 9 months later and no baby on the way or anything we just knew we loved each other and the time was right.
It is different for everyone so you will just have to see for yourself
first and foremost make sure you have a guy that has never cheated on anyone in there past that speaks volumes about a mate and how they will treat you.

Answer 4

Don't mean to be facetious--NOT LONG ENOUGH. Often, we don't really KNOW a person until we live with them. Which is, obviously too late. That's why I'm a proponent of living together before marriage--as long as you don't mingle your bank accounts! That's the best way to know if you're compatible in the most important areas. When it's "right?" Perhaps this is something you FEEL, & choose only because you truly want to be with this person, mutual commitment. My first was basically to get away from my family, & he SEEMED a nice guy. Wow. I was "friends" with my second for about TEN years; divorced him, too, but because it was clear neither of us really wanted anything but to live alone; best of friends after the divorce for 11 years. Bottom line, I don't think how long you "date" is the determining factor. Just what may seem a silly suggestion--but get DEEP inside yourself--emotions, reasons, pragmatisim, the whole bag. You're really the only one who can "know." Anything futher would be presumptuous of me, nased only on MY experiences. & good luck!

Answer 5

My husband and I dated for four months before we got engaged, but waited a year to walk down the aisle. (I was only 20 when we did get married, 18 when we met.) I would have gotten married sooner, but I literally had no control over my life yet. Mom ran everything, except my choice of spouses and premarital sex.

Answer 6

7 years, I was 16 when he and I started dating! But, we were best friends for 5 years before that. We wanted to get married after 4 months of being together, but we waited until I was out of school. :)

Answer 7

The length of time isn't the deciding factor.

My DH and I dated for 6 years and have been married for 37 years.

You need to pay attention to what you want and what you're willing to accept/live with. He/she is NOT going to change. Anything that bothers you now will get much worse later.

If you want to know how he/she will treat you as the years go by pay particular attention to how his family members interact and how much respect they have for each other, especially his relationship with his mother or her relationship with her father. However he/she treats her/him is how he/she he'll be treating you shortly after you're married! There is nothing you can do to change that. It's part of who the person is.

Until you're married you're still courting and on best behavior, regardless of what you think. Even if you're living together it's not the same as being married.

Answer 8

Dated for 7 years. Got married. Marriage lasted 1. Now separated. So, there is no good answer for this.

Answer 9

i married my husband 4 months after we started dating. Needless to say we are divorced now. I have been with a wonderful man now for a little over 3 years . We have discussed marriage but havent done it due to failed marriages in our past. Maybe someday we will but as for now we are happy just being together. We dont need a ring and a piece of paper to tell us. I say wait a while and dont jump into anytrhing right away.

Answer 10

I dated my man for two and a half years before he proposed... and then we got married about a month afterwards. we did it to **** off his parents, but now everything is going great. we have been married for almost 4 years, and i couldn't be happier... sure we have our hard patches but we are doing great. i think that any time after a year of dating is always a good timeframe.. that way you really know that person, and this means in many different ways... knowing how they will respond to anything, all of their different emotions and how they will affect you, any bad habits they may have that could potentially drive you nuts... these things need to be figured out before you even think of marriage. when you are thinking about marriage, make sure that you are both in it for the long haul. you need to get to the point where you refuse to accept a way out of the marriage.. think of it like a cast iron pledge that you cant get out of. that will save you tons of heartache and problems. ;)