How many hours is too many?

Question

How many hours per night would you consider to be too many for my 29-year old husband to dedicate to playing xbox, or reading about it on the internet? He says it's his hobby, but I see it as an obessesion. Would you think 4+ hours per day is alot?

4 hours is just an average..some nights are much longer. I've told him how I feel about it and that we don't do anything together at night ( he games and i watch tv in another room or internet) and he gets real defensive about it and mad. i've thought about divorce, but he thinks i'm being stupid. i do just about everything around the house while he games his life away.

Answer 1

I would say at the most I would tolerate something a husband of mine doing all the time for about 2 hours a day unless we do the activity together. He should be spending more time with you, and cherishing you and play games later. And I would say 4+ hours is too much on a normal work day

Answer 2

Four hours per-day is a lot. I have stayed on 12 before, but I am single. Just go to some late night group chats and 99% are female. You can look on this site and see the answer board and see that there is people that have to be on the computer almost twenty-fours hours per-day to have that many answers, and correct answers. I know for a fact that if you are married to an internet addicted male, or female. The marriage will not last, or there will be infilidelity on one or both partners.
Believe me I love the internet. If I were married and my wife was addicted and it was say 2:00AM and she, or me was on the computer that marriage will not last.
Take for instance this past girlfriend of mine. She gets off Wednesday and goes to "cermanics". She calls and checks on me due to health problems as my family could care less, but that is another story. Her husband has a bad back and is on disalibity from the "Steel Works". Gets a fortune for that . His wife (Dana) is a nurse and makes "mega-bucks". She found out that I was not 100% from my grandaughter and got my number when I had to stay five months with my daughter and her family. She phones each Wednesday night to check on me. I really feel like she is not in Cermanics at all because I know her so well.
But at least I have someone that will check on me at least once per-week as my family does not.
Yes, she would come up to the lake where I live. I have a medical situation that I explained to here and she wants to come up to try something. Now that made me feel quiet well..

Answer 3

That is quite alot but do you offer him a choice of something else to do it may just be thqat he is bored and he doesn't want to
pressure into anything you do not want to do for instance if he knew that you would love it he would grab you and make passionate love with you he may find that more intriguing them XBOX but what you ladies dont realize is we men cant read minds. Most guys would rather fool around with the women they love then play a stupid game well in my case this is true. Find out what you can do to have spend more quality time with you. Get naked and walk in the room he is playing his game and ask him honey you want some of this unless he is blind or just an idiot
you will have him wrapped around your little finger most normal men cannot say no to sex even if we are dead tired from a long days work we will try to pleasure the women we love plus he its not like we don't get any pleasure from this duty as a husband.

Answer 4

I would give it an hour - just so he has a chance for his fun and some relaxation. For a 29 year old husband, that is not a hobby, it's playtime. A hobby is something constructive.
Here's an idea how to change that four hours plus gaming habit.
Really time him, without him knowing, for a couple of days.
Then the next week, on the same days, inform him that he will be playing with you, the same amount of hours as he does on the stupidbox. You can do anything together, but no gaming. Be creative, but not demanding. Maybe he will realize what he has been missing..... and he'll smarten up before you get resentful....

Answer 5

If he's playing for 4 hours or more a night after working all day, that is way too much. When does he ever spend time with you? A hobby is one thing, but playing a video game for hours on end is something else. Make him shut it off and talk to him. Tell him that you would like some of his attention. If he won't quit, then tell him you're tired of sitting at home "alone" and go out with your friends. Maybe when he realizes you're not just going to sit around waiting on him, he'll change his hobby.

Answer 6

4 hours a day is too much. Occasionally it's okay...my husband does this like 1 time a week. Other than that, maybe 3-4 times a week 1 hour.
BREAK HIS X-BOX! :) Hehe. Ours just broke, really. I didn't do anything to it, but it's been getting fixed for about 3 weeks and it's been wonderful for it to be gone!!
I hope you can talk to your husband about this and you two can work this out. Divorce would just be silly in this situation.
Get rid of all tv and xbox and internet. Then all you have left is yourselves. See what fun you can come up with. :)

Answer 7

I would say, even a minute on the X-box, at his age, is too much time.

Your husband has the behavioural patterns of a selfish teenager. Not a very un-common syndrome amongst irresponsible adults, who are secure in their situations. Especially when they believe that they have managed to hoodwink their spouces

In your case, this guy obviously feels that he has you fooled with his "hobby" story. He probably thinks that you actually like this boy-ish behaviour of his. You however, must be seething with anger and frustration. Deep down inside you know he is insulting your intelligence and you really need to show him that you are not "amused."

So how do you wake him up and come back to reality? Its simple. Make him jealous! As silly as it may sound, thats all you have to do. Make him jealous!

Next time you see him playing with his X-box, you should announce very casually that you are going out with the girls. Then you should change into your sexiest outfit and make sure that he sees you as you leave the house. In case he asks, you can tell him that you are going over to your friend's house and the two of you may go out with other girls. etc. No matter what you tell him, his mind would be wondering about that "pick-me-up" outfit that you will be wearing. So you better make sure that the outfit you are wearing is really hot, and also that he sees you as you leave the house.

Initially, for the first few times, he may not even notice or choose not to notice. A few more times later, when he sees you are doing it more and more and happily leaving him at home all by himself, he will deffinately ask. Be prepared for the suspicious tone when he does ask. He may not say it in words, but he will deffinately suspect your motives for going out. So be prpared.

When that day comes, you will simply answer with stuff like, "Oh honey, I dont want to bother you with these details. I know how much you are involved in your hobby. So go ahead and enjoy yourself. Honestly, it does not bother me at all. You do your thing and don't worry about me. I will be fine. I am meeting some people at the bar for a few drinks and some chit chat. And thats all. It will be fun, No big deal!"

I guarantee it, that this X-box of his will be collecting dust in the back of the garage in no time!

Good luck!

Answer 8

I think 4 hours a day for any hobby is too many......that is half of a full work day, if he added another 4 hours he could call it work.

Answer 9

Hmmm, it all depends. My hubby is 30 and loves his video games. It's how he unwinds. I give him at least 4 hours a night. When he gets off work he gets less tense that way. I think if he plays more than that or makes you seem non existent then yes it is too much.

Answer 10

15 Minutes of too long for a married man to be wasting on kids games. He's a grown a$$ed man and should be helping make your marriage stronger.

If there are children in the family all the more reason to turn that madness off and working with his wife and family.