I consider this cheating and I try not to think about it but I can't help it. At times I even feel disgusted by it. He is the one that came to me and told me of this. I try to ask him what does this mean? Is he gay? Bi-sexual? or was he bi-curious? I try to ask but he brushes it off as if it isn't a big deal. When I do ask he says he is not gay but that is the end of the conversation. How can I find out? or How can he find out? I don't think he wants to know. So am I suppose to do act like nothing?
2006-11-12 09:29:18 · 38 answers · asked by Juicy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sorry to say this but if your husband is having sex with other men he is either gay or bi and he will probably do it again. I would be furious because he lied from the very start. A heterosexual man is not going to sleep with another man so therefore he is gay.
2006-11-12 10:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay...her goes. What I would do if I was u. I would pack up my things, if u have kids, there things too, program the best divorce lawyer's phone number in ur cell phone(if u have a cell phone) or write down the lawyers' phone number, and get the he-- on! It doesn't take a mad scientist to tell u what is truly going on. I 'm for marriages, but when it gets to cheating, regardless of what the genders are, its time to go. Pray and ask for strength through this difficult time, and everything else will come together. Good luck!
2006-11-12 10:02:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is in denial about his sexuality and I hate to tell you but this will only end in heartache for you. He has cheated on you and thinks that its not a big deal. That is wrong along with the whole cheating and gay thing and I think you should get tested for STDs.
2006-11-12 10:01:00 · answer #3 · answered by AussieHel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that your husband is either gay or bisexual. If he brushes it off as if it isn't a big deal, then ask him if it would be a big deal if you were having sex with another guy. Cheating is cheating, no matter the sex of the person it's with.
2006-11-12 09:32:13 · answer #4 · answered by Michael C 1 · 5⤊ 0⤋
You saying your husband is F ucking a man, B itch he is gay and this is ok with you? You don't know what he has, that's nasty , you must have low self esteem to be still with this man this gay man, this cheating man shall I go on, yes i think so, This man has told you that he has cheated on you, go and get a divorce before he bring on of his f uck partner home to you so that you can have a 3sum. In other words leave his gay a ss.
2006-11-12 10:02:34 · answer #5 · answered by This is just my opinion! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i beleive he is bi-sexual. i too sometimes feel like experemeting with other guys but dont do it because of my wife. i feel she would get disgusted and tell everyone in my family. but i have a thing for transexuals, so i know what your husband is feeling, and he is feeling bi even if he does not admit it. he will not admit to being gay or bi because he does not want you to label him.
goodluck
2006-11-12 09:47:37 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's either gay or bi, but he's DEFINATELY UNFAITHFUL.
This is a crazy situation, and I can't really tell you what to do. Do what is in your heart. He's cheating and it's not even with your gender. I would be just as disturbed as you.
Do you have kids? Maybe it's time for counseling or a separation?
GOOD LUCK---you're in my thoughts.
2006-11-12 09:32:07 · answer #7 · answered by britishlit2002 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't care about you and answering your questions then you two aren't a couple. Couple's talk and work through everything.If he doesn't care then he probably wont care when you had him divorce papers. If you didn't know about this when you got married then you can have a dissolution and if you were a mean person which it seems your not. Then you could also take him for everything he has and more.
2006-11-12 10:00:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is a cheater. my questions to you are how much of this are you willing to tolerate and how risky do you want your relationship with mr. back & forth to be? he may not be having safe sex with his boyfriends which opens you up to whole lot! instead of trying to figure out whether he's gay, bi, or bi-curious, you need to be visiting your doctor for a blood test and pap smear to make sure he hasn't brought you something you don't want.
2006-11-12 09:40:41 · answer #9 · answered by loving 40+ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in this Bi-sexual crap. He has sex with men, that makes him gay. Getting married and being gay makes him a user. Having sex with a man or woman makes you immoral with no standards - any orifice on any person (male or female) will do.
2006-11-12 09:40:20 · answer #10 · answered by Debra D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋