How should I handel this???? We have been married for almost 10 years and he has done this twice. I have just had to deal with it.
He is very passive agressive, he tells me indirectly all the time about women who are left destitute because they are not employed. He told me when we married that I did not have to work now he uses it to control me.I have been doing the pack and go unpack deal every month/weekend now for 10 years..........it is really getting old. I feel so vulnerable. Need some advise.......
2006-11-12 09:42:18 · 13 answers · asked by howey 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How in the world is you staying at home and not working a case of him controlling you. Sounds like the exact opposite to me. Another case of a spouse complaining because the other one is working like a dog!
You don't mention children thus, I have no idea if this is a factor in your marriage. Regardless if you want your husband working in town GET A JOB and help out! He won't have to travel as much to keep the lifestyle you want.
You sound kind of lousy complaining about someone working his but off to keep you fed and a roof over your head.
2006-11-12 10:04:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you do lose some power in the relationship by staying home sometimes, but he shouldn't be treating you like a second class citizen. If this were happening to me, I would not let my husband treat me this way for one split second! Do you want to stay with this person? If so, he sounds a bit controlling and you may have to get a job yourself to get an equal say in matters. Otherwise, without intensive counseling I don't see how you could possibly be happy with this individual.
2006-11-12 09:49:19 · answer #2 · answered by wendy h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in simple terms sit down him down and attempt and rationalize. clarify that the two one in all you may incredibly be leaving your entire existence in the back of. If there are different jobs available the place you reside, there's no longer any significant reason to head 3 one million/2 hours away. My cousin and her husband did this while he have been given an stunning activity grant, yet some months into it he stop this activity and that they moved decrease back on account that they had NO kin there, NO buddies, and have been in simple terms too depressed. clarify to your husband that this could in all likelihood be the way you experience. that's ridiculous if he's barely imparting you with the alternatives of shifting with him or divorce, on account that in simple terms exhibits that he would not incredibly care approximately your opinion. solid success!
2016-12-17 08:58:40 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even you do not work you are in titled by law for half of his income. Not happy with him then you need to find some happiness. Find a job you like and start making some spending cash. Keep your eyes open and happiness will find you. If he continues to treat you bad then it may be time to leave,. Get a lawyer and they will tell you about being in titled to half for everything he got while being married to you... Good luck
2006-11-12 10:00:36 · answer #4 · answered by Mimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a job so he can't continue to throw that crap in your face
not only will it get you out of the house you will be doing something to give back to society stop whining and get a job
and make your own money and if hew still treats you like crap you will have that job to leave his sorry as s.
2006-11-12 10:52:46 · answer #5 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and get a job,even ifs its working at Mc part-time you will feel so much better about yourself and you will find the answers your looking for..
2006-11-12 09:46:45 · answer #6 · answered by troble # one? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems he is on the run.
Leave him if you can. Telling you that unemployed women can be left destitute is mean and abusive.
2006-11-12 19:08:59 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time for you to gain a little independance and get a job. His behavior will not change, it will probably get worse.
2006-11-12 09:50:06 · answer #8 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you leave it to him to be the bread winner an provider of the family. you don't work an your responsability lies within the household. then you need to trust him to do his part of being a better provider.
2006-11-12 09:47:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
pack his shi# and kiss him Goodbye then after he is gone get out get a job and tell him to screw off
2006-11-12 09:48:22 · answer #10 · answered by just_me_1955 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋