Marriage & Divorce - 7 November 2006

She e-mailed me this morning telling me all of her problems after she left our marriage for another guy! Saying she found a note I had written her 3 months ago and it made her cry. Why should I care anymore? She really messed up my world! TS!!

2006-11-07 05:41:41 · 21 answers · asked by Johnboy 3

i get my son every other weekend a situation his mother and i came up with the court order was for different days but the judge said we could change as needed. my question is should my son be made to come over or atleast given the choice, he is 5 yaers old and my thiking is at five he knows what he does and does not want to do on the other hand his mother does not think so what do you think ?

2006-11-07 05:33:25 · 9 answers · asked by OFFICER CAMPBELL 2

Just wondering if it's really possible to be "just friends" after the sexual relationship.

2006-11-07 05:33:16 · 18 answers · asked by who me? 3

I have been married 2 1/2 years now and am 22 years old i do P.R work and my husband 23 is in med. school student . We never see each other at all anymore. The first year of our marriage was good but now we dont even have sex its been almost 5 months since we last did it.Whenever i see him he's asleep or studying. He even ignores me when i try to talk about relationship stuff cant be bothered.I tried everything putting in time to see him and catering to him when i was home he barley noticed.Recently my husband has said he wants to seperate till he is done with med. school. I am attracted to another guy he is 26yrs old, a small time producer/promoter and we see each other around a lot and hang out sometimes and go eat.I feel guilty because i like him alot and know he likes me but i'm married.I dont feel in love with my husband anymore?I feel crushed and this guy invited me to stay as roomate in his apartment in NYC.

2006-11-07 05:28:30 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

He covered it up when we were dating. Now that we've been married 2 months I found out he was looking through adult personal ads around where we live and in the state where his next business trip is. He says it's just to get off on, not to actually act on. The thrill of it all--knowing that there are other people out there that do this sort of thing. I don't know if I should believe him. I trusted this man with all my heart. He said that he would never hurt me. I feel dead inside. I don't know what to do. We have an appt with our therepist for this weekend...how do I get rid of the pain before then? He says over and over again how sorry he is and that it was a stupid mistake he'll never do it again.

2006-11-07 05:27:40 · 21 answers · asked by ihateyou 1

Did you ever end a long term relationship, later get back together with your ex, settle your differences, and the relationship actually worked out?

2006-11-07 05:26:56 · 20 answers · asked by ☆skyblue 7

The reason I ask is because I am seeing a girl who recently broke off an engagement to her fiance who is overseas. I heard through the grapevine that they were married at the justice of the peace?? or something. Which would make sense because you receive more money from the government when you're in the military on active duty and you're married. How can I find out? I asked her but she says it's not true...

2006-11-07 05:25:46 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

1. Do you lie about how much time is spent online?
2. Do you have a general decrease of physical activity and social life?
3. Do you neglect obligations at home, work, or school to spend time online?
4. Do you spend too much money on computer equipment or Internet activities.
5. Do you feel a constant desire to be online when they're away from the computer?
6. Do you go online to escape real world problems?
7.Do you disregard the emotional or physical consequences of being in front of a computer all day?
8. Are you in denial of the problem?

2006-11-07 05:24:53 · 9 answers · asked by jeanie_in_a_beer_bottle 1

I have been in a long term relationship 16yrs, they were diagnosed as being Manic Depressive about 7 years ago BUT they will not stay on their meds, I have endured 7 years of cheating. Every time they have left to be with some one else I get a call begging to come home and promises of never cheating again. Three months ago I gave in once again to the heartfelt pleadings and they returned home. I had one condition, stay on the meds of course no cheating. Sunday they were caught with the same person again, they downed their entire prescription of antidepressants after being told to move back out. The suicide attempt was not successful. I went to the hospital for a visit, the phone in the room rang and it was the 3rd person. Now what? I feel guilty turning my back on a “sick” person, I need help I am almost just as depressed from all the drama. We were married for 10 of the 16 years, divorced now.

2006-11-07 05:24:38 · 21 answers · asked by actually_im_lost 1

Anyone here ever caught or has been caught cheating with a person of the same sex? Did you work through it or is divorce inevitible?

2006-11-07 05:21:14 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married 23 years and he is a very over jealous and controlling husband. All at once he thinks we should try the swinging life style. In the 23 years we have been married we had never been out to a club or dancing. We didn't drink or party at all. I am 40 years old and this is the first time he has ever mentioned going out, much less dancing and drinking.Yes, I enjoy having a few drinks, loosening up and dancing. It is just plain fun. However he watches over me like a hawk and he is the one that always becomes flirtaious with other. He wants and tries very, very hard to have the night end with us drunk and ultimately have sex with others if he is attracted to the woman (single or married or even Bi if I would agree) He is alright having sex with a married couple as long as he chooses the couple. What I am asking is, "Why is he wanting to involve others in our sex life, knowing I do not feel the same way. Why remain married????????????

2006-11-07 05:13:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My question is, Is it right? Would it make me feel better? Any experiences out there?

2006-11-07 05:13:26 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is sad and I am wondering if anyone can elaborate on this. My ex-husband was always jealous of my relationship I have with my 15 year old daughter and my strong love that I have for her. He slowly started taking my relationship away with her. Last night on the phone he just blurted out. "I was never jealous of your daughter, I just never had that kinda love". He didn't, his mother is not a very nice person. Sometimes when a persons childhood is bad (abused, molested etc.) they repeat the behavior as adults. Others end it with them and do not repeat it. I know the apple doesn't fall far from the tree, is this why he is a womanizer and does not know how to love a woman? I know there are jerks out there but come on. Love is great. Who wouldn't want to give it? Is there hope for him?

2006-11-07 05:12:56 · 9 answers · asked by Just Because 2

Marriage bound families together adn they would pull together in hard times. Now we have nuclear families and families don't appear to pull together like they used to.
In the past these marriage bonds created my alliances between other families. Now we try to be self sufficent and don't need our own families needless to say someone else's.
Marriage does not protect a family.
Marriage has fallen to a breach of contract status. If it doesn't work I get half of the debt and wealth.
So what is the point to marraige? And is it out dated?

2006-11-07 05:10:41 · 13 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

My boyfriends exwife has been using his health care insurance that she had when married...the divorce from two years age says she was to maintain her own insurance...she has since the divorce remarried and still uses his health plan for 136 claims within the last two years...is this fraud on her part??? and if it is what kind of "punishment" would be given if any???THANKS!!!

2006-11-07 05:03:41 · 8 answers · asked by Deborah C 1

2006-11-07 05:03:28 · 19 answers · asked by LibraT 4

How long should I continue to try to fix my marriage if my husband is trying, but kind of half-a**ed trying? Or should I hang out and see if stuff gets better?

2006-11-07 04:55:10 · 23 answers · asked by elfkin, attention whore 4

I caught my husband masterbating to porn, I know he looks at it because I normally watch it with him, but when I walked into the computer room he hid it from me. and I looked and it was just a girl well doing what a single girl does. The thing is she was a lot prettier than me, and had a better body. I dont know what to do. I am worried that I am not good enough for him and worried that he felt that he had to hide it from me. What should I do?

2006-11-07 04:53:11 · 32 answers · asked by JOJO 2

I left my husband a little over a week ago and took my 2 young babies, the oldest is 16 month's and the youngest is 3 month's, with me to my dad's in Louisiana. He rarely helped me with them and he'd pick a fight with me every Friday night so he could go party. I don't go anywhere, I stay home and take care of my babies 24/7. Well, The day before I left he told me he was going to the store to get diapers and I didn't see or hear from him for 16 hours. I had no home phone and not enough gas in my truck to leave. I stayed home for 9 hours waiting and then went to find him. Where did he say he was? He said he went to his best friends house (Jerk) to drink, which is 45 minutes away from our house, my daughter had one diaper, and I had no money or cigarettes. He's begging me for another chance, but I told him I gave him enough chances. He makes decent money and he doesn't even pay the bills, when I want a job, he makes excuses why I shouldn't get one, but when we argue it's in my face.

2006-11-07 04:37:37 · 25 answers · asked by Sissy 2

Me and my husband have been togeather for 8 years and we alway where so happy. well we decided to have a baby and we did 7 months ago. when our son was about 5 months old my husband started acting like he didnt want to be around me and he just hasnt been the same since he wanted space and he decided to move out and stay at a friends house for a while and now he has been their for 3 weeks and he is telling me he loves me and wanting me over there all of the time. but when I am there sometimes it still seems like he doesnt want me there and I just want to know does this happen in marrages and could he really still love me.

2006-11-07 04:37:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband's ex-wife refuses to change her last name back to her maiden. This really doesn't bother us except the fact that she uses the last name to sign up for instant check cashing places that require no social security number, and we have bill collectors calling here all of the time for her because she still claims to be married to my husband.And i ask them why they are calling our # and they say "this is the # and address she gave us". She has never lived here! They have been divorced for 5 years, and we are currently getting calls. We have changed our number 3 times, but somehow (his parents probably) she gets ahold of the number and our address. It is also in the divorce papers that she is to go back to her maiden name. What can be done? Is it breach of contract, since it is in a legal document? She has been in the paper for bounced checks numerous times under our name too. The only time she uses her maiden name is for her food stamps and state help. Thanks in advance!

2006-11-07 04:35:17 · 26 answers · asked by Vita 3

I've been married to this guy for 21/2 yrs... I did my wifely duties (I mean everything).. but for some reason nothing I did was good enough...even went to counceling...it was a roller coaster ride....he was not interested in sex (rather watch porno..but he was hiding it)

I thought the porno was the only problem..find out he was cheating on me all along.. the other girl knows that he's married.

We are separated now and I move to different state... I'm about to file for divorce... to add insult to injury, I did some investigation and find out that he use our credit card when he bought her plane ticket last december to visit him, but for some reason it was cancelled....now the girl was about to use thesame ticket to see him for Thanksgiving and b-day. He denied about the other girl when I confronted him...(He'll find out sooner or later that I knew... coz I cancelled the ticket)...I want revenge.. or should I let "KARMA" take care of it.... :( :(

2006-11-07 04:31:30 · 18 answers · asked by R 2

He cheated on me, left me for the other woman, is moving in with her - all in six months. I know we were having problems but I thought we could work things out. We are now divorced. I try to deal with him only when I have to - when it is about our son. I do not bad mouth him or the other woman to our son - even though it is hard at times. I will not impact my son's relationship with his dad.

However, my ex believes we need to establish a new relationship. He says I am still important to him. I do not want anything to do with him. I have told him I do not know him anymore and I have no interest in getting to know the new him. The one who tells me he is very happy with this other woman and they are in love. I think he is expecting too much from me. Are all exes like this or is mine still wanting his cake and eat it too? I think he needs us to re-establish a relationship to lessen his guilt. Any thoughts??

2006-11-07 04:31:12 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Please give reason for your answer to the question

2006-11-07 04:26:24 · 22 answers · asked by 女性ウルバリン 4

How can we justify not allowing homosexual marriage if we were
using the exact same words to disallow interracial marriage 80
years ago? That is - how can the argument be wrong then and
right now?

2006-11-07 04:25:25 · 24 answers · asked by Elana 7

By that I mean is: if you are married does EVERYTHING belong to both of you and must be divided equally?

2006-11-07 04:21:12 · 2 answers · asked by fasenmyer 1

is it a must that 1 needs to get married to remain happy. can't they be happy by remaining single and having good relation with family and friends. is marriage a demand of the society or person concerned. is only a bond or legal document needed for a person to take somebody's responsibility?

2006-11-07 04:18:49 · 27 answers · asked by Kashish 2

My wife of almost 10 years cheated on me, I love her but its hard. Would I feel better f I cheated on her? I dont know??

2006-11-07 04:18:39 · 38 answers · asked by Mr. Know It All 2

thinking in the back of my head, she is nice to me but i bet she is still a b # t c h to her husband.

2006-11-07 04:16:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-11-07 04:12:19 · 9 answers · asked by Reo 5