I've been married to this guy for 21/2 yrs... I did my wifely duties (I mean everything).. but for some reason nothing I did was good enough...even went to counceling...it was a roller coaster ride....he was not interested in sex (rather watch porno..but he was hiding it)
I thought the porno was the only problem..find out he was cheating on me all along.. the other girl knows that he's married.
We are separated now and I move to different state... I'm about to file for divorce... to add insult to injury, I did some investigation and find out that he use our credit card when he bought her plane ticket last december to visit him, but for some reason it was cancelled....now the girl was about to use thesame ticket to see him for Thanksgiving and b-day. He denied about the other girl when I confronted him...(He'll find out sooner or later that I knew... coz I cancelled the ticket)...I want revenge.. or should I let "KARMA" take care of it.... :( :(
2006-11-07 04:31:30 · 18 answers · asked by R 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Good for you canceling the ticket. I would have done the same thing.
2006-11-07 04:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Premo Mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are definitely the victim here, but resist the urge to get revenge. Cancelling the ticket was good enough. Let it go and move on the best way that you can. You are right about karma, it will come back and bite him and you don't want to put all that negative energy out into the world.
Smile, get the divorce and he will no longer be your problem. You are lucky because it doesn't sound like there are kids involved.
2006-11-07 05:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Gonzo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go! Bitterness and anger is a normal response when someone hurts you like that. But unfortunatley bitterness and anger will consume you. It is like the ring of Mordor. Every waking hour will be spent in connivance.
You will tell anyone that will listen about how bad he was to you, and those people will move away from you as well.
The other choice. In your heart, when your ready, forgive him and move on. He has actually done you a favour by providing you with an opportunity to find a man (not yet though) that will love and cherish you.
2006-11-07 04:53:12 · answer #3 · answered by Triestobewise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't always make a right. Let things work them selves out. The thing about Karma, is you have to allow it to set in motion. Secondly, If you decided to act upon revenge then the karma would also set upon you. Two positive energy's alike negatives make serious Waves for overload if you know what I mean.
2006-11-07 04:37:12 · answer #4 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karma Will Definitely Happen
2006-11-07 05:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by bob r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion people rarely get what they deserve (you most likely did not deserve this treatment, but it happened anyway). Unfortunately exacting your revenge on him will most likely not bring you the satisfaction you are looking for either. See you were really hurt by what your husband did to you because you loved and trusted him, on the other hand he apparently is no longer in love with you and so anything you do will only cause him some mild inconvenience and frustration but it will not hurt his heart as he hurt yours.
Sorry, but this is a sad fact and therefore I think you should just try to move on and find happiness for yourself.
2006-11-07 06:46:02 · answer #6 · answered by Zari A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be honest, the best thing for you to do is move on and make a better life for yourself. Close that chapter of your life and start a new one, a fresh one. Let Karma take care of their mishaps and know that what comes around ALWAYS goes around. So sit back, relax and enjoy your new found freedom and watch those who betrayed you get their come up-ins!!! I hope you fell better!!!
2006-11-07 04:39:34 · answer #7 · answered by Yahoo Anwers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should let Karma do the talking and walking because what he did is going to come back at him even if you get revenge on him!
2006-11-07 05:13:39 · answer #8 · answered by lil_mama69smokie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not lower yourself to his and her standards. Let karma take over. Eventually it will catch up to him, in some way. My husbands best friend stole his leather jacker and sold it. I told my hubby to let it go...then a few months later his friend and his wife were having garage sales...he lost his job and they needed money. So I do believe in karma. Do something bad to someone, and it will come back to you 10 fold. Divorce him and the rest will fall into place. Good luck! :)
2006-11-07 04:41:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let karma do its thang. Don't get revenge...that will most likely backfire on you. Leaving him was the best thing you could have done for yourself, so take comfort in knowing that is the best revenge.
2006-11-07 04:49:36 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a sad situation, but you are so much better off without him. Let him go and let karma take care of things - trust me, everything that comes around goes around.
2006-11-07 05:06:48 · answer #11 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋