My wife of almost 10 years cheated on me, I love her but its hard. Would I feel better f I cheated on her? I dont know??
2006-11-07 04:18:39 · 38 answers · asked by Mr. Know It All 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No infact it would be worst because you are doing it out of spite. You may get temporary satisfaction by hurting your wife, but if you still love her, the best thing to do is to give it time and try to work it out. You should read the article on my site titled "12 Ways To Build Trust In Your Relationship" you'll find that here...
http://cheatingsigns.blogspot.com
Hope that helps. Because building back trust is indeed the next step. If not, your marriage is doomed.
Best of Luck,
Drew Bryant
http://howtospotacheatin10days.com
2006-11-07 04:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by drew.bryant 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think it will make you feel better....chances are I think it will end up making you feel worse...especially if you think about the intimacy of this action....do you feel like you love your wife enough to find out with an open mind and heart the reasons behind her cheating??and to keep the marriage??I am not an advocator on cheating, I think it is very wrong...I think if a person lets themselves go so far down that road towards wanting to be with someone else, the right thing to do is end the relationship first...
2006-11-07 04:27:59 · answer #2 · answered by Brenda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you would not feel better. You would only be masking the real problem.
Either go see a counselor to get to the bottom of why she cheated on you so you can try to keep it from happening again, or else just end the marriage. If you can forgive her, the former suggestion might work. I don't think I could ever forgive a husband/ significant other/ bf who cheated on me, though, and I would almost certainly have to end the relationship.
Good luck to you.
2006-11-07 04:22:45 · answer #3 · answered by kcbranaghsgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just the rush of knowing you're doing something and getting away with it. Like the giddy excitement of a kid going to get a cookie out of the cookie jar when his mother already said no. It's exciting to try and get around without her finding out, and satisfying to you when she does not find out, because you did something she does not know about. I read this in a book once. I am not a cheater. It would tear me up inside to cheat on my partner, as I believe if you decide to be in a relationship, or agree to get married, you are thereby agreeing to be faithful to your parter, and should you feel you would rather be with someone else, you should dump your current love before adopting another.
2016-05-22 07:36:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the end, NO you will not feel better. While cheating you may think you will but you won't. I should know, after being cheated on for years by my ex hubby I finally cheated one time on him. We've been divorced for over 10 years now, and I still feel guilty about cheating (no he doesn't know and since we are in fact divorced there isn't any point in telling him now).
2006-11-07 04:25:42 · answer #5 · answered by GirlinNB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you dont. two wrongs dont make a right. ive been cheated on by my h.s. sweetheart and it was never the same. i lied and told him i cheated on him. i eventually came clean because it didnt solve anything, it only made me feel wrong. the secret to a good relationship is respect and loyalty. your wife disobeyed the most important responsibilties. i suggest you go for therapy and if that doesnt help, give up. i know how you feel, as if the past ten years were all a lie. my experiance with a cheater just led me to be resentful and it didnt work. good luck
2006-11-07 04:24:21 · answer #6 · answered by Meeowf 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Getting even with your spouse on a level like this will surely do more harm than good.It's bad enough that she has betrayed your trust.Your head will probably fill with all kinds of ugly thoughts every time she comes home more than 20 minutes later than usual,but do you really think that "returning the favor" will make you feel better about your marriage?
The two of you have a lot of work ahead of you if you're going to get past this.If it seems like more effort than it's worth then it might be time to leave.
2006-11-07 04:25:45 · answer #7 · answered by Danny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you like feeling like a worthless disgusting unfaithful pig. Because that is what she is, and if you do the same, you are no better than she is. Just end all of your sentences to her with the word "w h o r e". That'll send the message loud and clear. Then divorce her. I really hope you had a prenup so she gets nothing. A pig like that deserves nothing but the clothes on her back.
2006-11-07 04:28:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the short term to some degree you would feel better. My wife cheated on me and I went out and cheated on her...it was wrong but it did make me feel less the schmuck.
2006-11-07 04:35:44 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating on her would not make the situation easier. If you cannot forgive her actions, after some couseling of course, then the right thing to do is divorce her. It would not make you a better person if you did this, and most likely not teach her a lesson. Then she might think it is okay. See a couselor...together. Good luck! :)
2006-11-07 04:24:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋