I caught my husband masterbating to porn, I know he looks at it because I normally watch it with him, but when I walked into the computer room he hid it from me. and I looked and it was just a girl well doing what a single girl does. The thing is she was a lot prettier than me, and had a better body. I dont know what to do. I am worried that I am not good enough for him and worried that he felt that he had to hide it from me. What should I do?
2006-11-07 04:53:11 · 32 answers · asked by JOJO 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Talk to him about it. It's awesome that you like to watch porn together, but talk to him about your insecurities. Also, remind yourself that he loves and married YOU, not some chick getting it on with herself. It could be just a fantasy that he has or whatever, but see if there's a way that you could be included too, so you don't feel insecure.
2006-11-07 04:57:49 · answer #1 · answered by Steph L 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh God, I was there a few months ago.
I got a lot of repsonses, but I still felt like crap and we did fight for a while about it.
I think they do it because it's a fantasy and they will never get it from someone else.
Mine tried to hide it too, but I saw the reflection of what was on the computer screen on a glass frame behind him.
Since then I have basically shrugged it off because I have not caught him again. My excuse was that at least he wasn't cheating with an actual person. I don't know if this helps you any, btu you can click on my questions that I've asked and look at what oother people gave me for advice.
Talk to him and tell him how it made you feel and if he apologizes then accept it and move on. I have to force myself into doing this.
Good luck.
2006-11-07 04:58:54 · answer #2 · answered by Ms.BusyBody 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Make A Porn movie For Him That way He Will Only Thinking Of You While He masterbates.
2006-11-07 05:41:58 · answer #3 · answered by bob r 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh c'mon, don't worry about it this much. Most guys masturbate to porn at one time or another, and much of the time these girls don't look anything like what you would meet in real life. If you're going to try and "live up" to porn girls, you're gonna be miserable. Don't you feel like your husband loves you for who you are? Seriously... occasionally looking at porn is normal - well, yeah, you caught him; he was probably mildly embarrassed, so he tried to hide it; laugh it off, and tell him to be more careful next time. He married you because you're YOU; he wouldn't *want* to be married to the porn girl. He'll still look - but love runs so much deeper than "looking". Let it go.
2006-11-07 05:05:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Don't wory about it. If you have an active sex life with him, then it's just a way for him to relieve himself from any additional stresses. It has nothing to do with you. How the girl looks on screen is irrelevant. It's what she's doing that he was getting off on. If you're worried, why not ask him to let you watch him while he's doing it? He was probably just embarrassed because he wasn't expecting you to walk in at that 'time'.
2006-11-07 04:59:12 · answer #5 · answered by tipper 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It could be a problem if you where home while he was doing this. If he felt the need and u where there them he could express those feelings to you. If you where not there and he was in the mode I would rather my husband master bate then be with someone else. As far as your body most men like to fantasias on someone/thing LOVE YOUR SELF. I have 3kids youngest 14 mon. i have gain 35lbs since then i do feel uncomfortable but my i know that my husband love me and yes i do know that he is found of it but accepts it. One thing i gain weight with all my kids and I only lost it for me so if your not comfortable with you then do something about it. if your comfortable with your self then may be your husband need to grow up a bit and realize you love him. you can also talk to him about how you feel.
2006-11-07 05:16:26 · answer #6 · answered by 2b-nice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless you get turned on by it, tell him to do his business when you're not home or sound asleep. It has nothing to do with you or the amount of sex you have with him. Just accept that it's going to take place no matter what, but let him know you do NOT want to catch him in the act ever again. I'm not a prude. I know my husband does the same thing and I don't care, but I've never been around to witness it.
2006-11-07 05:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by Nels 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was in your shoes once, I caught my man doing the same thing....I was pissed and thought myself ugly. My self esteem wasn't too high. Then, we got married, and I realize it is part of it, and I do it as well and tell him about it. You need to sit down and tell him how you feel about it, and why he did it. Maybe you are not having it often enough(which happens), or he wants to try something new but is afraid to ask. If he doesn't do it all the time, then there should be no problem. Better to ask him, than beat yourself up and drive your esteem down lower. Good luck! :)
2006-11-07 05:02:15 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Men like to masterbate if he wasn't doing it then i would be worried relax she is a girl on a porn your his wife your not only good enough he placed a ring on your finger because its you he loves.
2006-11-07 04:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by Amy M 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely be worried if he's hiding it from you. You need to talk to him about it, and both of you should be honest with how you feel about it. You may need to seek councelling, because there could be an underlying problem (i.e. a sex addiction, a porn addiction, etc.)
Goodluck to you.
2006-11-07 04:58:12 · answer #10 · answered by *Logan's Mommy* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋