Me and my husband have been togeather for 8 years and we alway where so happy. well we decided to have a baby and we did 7 months ago. when our son was about 5 months old my husband started acting like he didnt want to be around me and he just hasnt been the same since he wanted space and he decided to move out and stay at a friends house for a while and now he has been their for 3 weeks and he is telling me he loves me and wanting me over there all of the time. but when I am there sometimes it still seems like he doesnt want me there and I just want to know does this happen in marrages and could he really still love me.
2006-11-07 04:37:01 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its an affair
2006-11-07 04:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Chassidy B 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Does the 8 years include dating in HS?
I only ask because this does not sound like a very mature person to me (meaning him). Any grown man moving out of his home sounds like a kid move. There is no way I'm moving out unless its over. I sure wouldn't call you up and invite you over my friends house to visit?? Why not just go home? Doesn't make sense at all.
Anyway, by letting someone dictate your happiness you will be jumping through hoops for this guy for a long time. If he left, let him go. If my fiance' left our home saying she was staying with friends because she needed space, its over. She would have all the space she needed. Yes I love her but if she love me she wouldn't play games with our marriage. hint hint
2006-11-07 12:53:00 · answer #2 · answered by www.treasuretrooper.com/186861 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes men change after the baby but not like that. I never experienced that with myhusband. If anything it was more me than him. I am sorry your going through that. Maybe you beign around him will remind him about what he has left at home. Make him a meal and bring over there with a treat (baking). I woudl do whatever it takes to get my man back.
2006-11-07 12:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by shyhonney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is cheating on you or he has some issues. he is your husband he needs to be at home with you. if he doesnt want to be with you he needs to make a decision he cant just stay at his friends house and still be with you. the two of you are married! not dating.
you need to have a serious talk with him and tell him to get his priorities staright and to grow up and take responsibility for himself and family. he is acting like a child running away from everything and living with a friend.
there is no reason you should be living alone in your house with your child while he is out wherever doing who knows what. tell him to get his @ss home NOW!
good luck
2006-11-07 12:48:22 · answer #4 · answered by The Weed Fairy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im single 18th so i dont know if it happen in every marriage.
so after 8 years relationship finally you two decide to have a children.
you say "he is telling me he loves me and wanting me over there all of the time"
he not mention anything about your son.
maybe the reason is your son i think he enjoying to dont have son. thats why he dont leave at the same house with you because the baby is crying or something like that.
so IF IF IF IF IF he really dont want have a son your choice is giveupyou son or giveup your husband
remember to ask him is it the son that make the problem ??
2006-11-07 12:43:50 · answer #5 · answered by gila 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Sounds like he's having problems with the realization of being a parent. Becoming a parent can affect one in many different ways. Perhaps some counseling would get to the bottom of things. Best wishes to you. ;)
2006-11-07 13:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the baby has made him feel left out. Not your fault though. Try talking to him about it. Is there anyone who can babysit for the evening so you can go out for dinner and talk about it? Lots of men get this. If he is a decent guy, he'll get over it.
2006-11-07 12:40:33 · answer #7 · answered by Katya-Zelen 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wake honey their is something fishy going on with him. you don't just leave your wife and baby because you need some space. talk to him and let him know your feeling if he does not come back home he does not love love. boot his behind and move one with your life. you deserve much better. and quite going to his friend house your making his life too comfortable
2006-11-07 12:43:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not having sex with him, someone else is.
By going over there, your behaving like his booty call.
Tell him to come home or get lost. Your son does not need to grow up in a dysfunctional marriage.
2006-11-07 12:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by Triestobewise 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i never heard a story like that , new baby make partners much closer , i believe your husband is escaping responsibility
2006-11-07 12:46:43 · answer #10 · answered by na 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋