Marriage & Divorce - 31 October 2006

My wife doesn't want it, but I'd like to stay, what do I do next?

2006-10-31 05:10:47 · 11 answers · asked by TimKo69 1

We have been together 6 yrs. and married almost 2. He never was much of a talker, but we rarely have a conversation other than what needs to be said. He doesn't want counceling, he thinks nothing is wrong. I have taked to him about his lack of interest, and he feels like I am attacking him personally. I have asked him if he wants to be single and he says "if thats what you want"
I don't want to go thru another divorce but I think about it. He is not mean, just not there. I used to try to show him affection, and he pushes me away. He is so distant, I feel like I am living with a stranger sometimes. It is weird, I never thought this would happen to us. I don't know if I should just "live" with him or leave him. I am not afraid of being alone. But I feel safe with him. What would you do?

2006-10-31 05:08:42 · 25 answers · asked by Ellyn 5

Live together for 6 years, in our mid 30s - have ups and downs like everybody else. Have faced three times where she wanted to leave, but i've always believed in giving it your best shot before walking away, so its continued through those times. But each of those times also coincides with her finding a "special friend" for intimate liaisons. Sex life never really recovered after the first incident. So, NOW, I just noticed the series of calls on the cell phone bill, the closed door conversations, out all hours with her 'girlfriends', and the soiled laundry (ewww!). She is supported by me and has yet to have a reasonable paying/steady job. Give me a reason NOT to kick her to the curb?!

2006-10-31 05:06:29 · 57 answers · asked by LastStraw 1

We are both very sensitive and defensive. We love each other, and have a lot in common, but we argue about something almost every day. It's mainly stuff like one of us takes something the wrong way, or accidentally hurts the other one's feelings. The next thing I know, he is talking about splitting up, because he doesn't want to ruin my life, or my daughters' lives. He said I was happy when I met him, and he feels like he has sucked all the joy out of my life. That is not true. I admit, we are dealing with some tough stuff (externally) that neither of us can really do anything about, but I am happy with him. Well, I have rambled enough, and I hope I can get some responses from people who have actually been where I am. Thanks so much!

2006-10-31 05:04:32 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

HE SWEARS THAT HE DIDN'T DO ANYTHING WITH HER AND THE REASON WHY IS BECAUSE HE THOUGHT ABOUT ME. I DON'T BELIEVE HIM. THE POINT IS HE THOUGHT ABOUT IT AND HE PUT HIM SELF IN A SITUATION A MARRIED MAN SHOULD NOT HAVE BEEN IN. I CHOOSE TO FORGIVE HIM. HE SAID IT WOULDN'T HAPPEN AGAIN. NOW MY PROBLEM. I DON'T TRUST HIM AND I CAN'T SEEM TO FORGET ABOUT IT. HOW CAN I WORK TO GET OVER THIS AND MOVE ON WITH OUR LIVES, WILL I EVER GET OVER IT WILL I EVER TRUST HIM AGAIN? I WANT IT TO WORK FOR THE SAKE OF OUR SEVEN MONTH OLD DAUGHTER.

2006-10-31 05:01:11 · 22 answers · asked by DISILLUSIONED 1

2006-10-31 04:58:53 · 28 answers · asked by mita 1

Drinking clubing and staying out late. Need i say more? when i checked the phone record she was calling this specific guy very late. But she says they were just flirting. I kicked her out I have two kids I feel I did the right thing any suggestions?

2006-10-31 04:55:32 · 15 answers · asked by Joey V 1

barely spoken in the past couple of days and i am getting really stressed out. what do i do if he wont listen to me?

2006-10-31 04:55:15 · 21 answers · asked by karen w 1

He always makes promises but never follows through and I don't think I should have to do EVERYTHING. I get tired too.

2006-10-31 04:51:13 · 17 answers · asked by Jules 3

he is my japanese professor, I told him I did not wanted to have sexual relationship with him, cause I was christian, He understood, but he wasn't too happy, anyways he is going back to Japan soon. I still kind of like him but he is not for me. I want to be happy with my ex husband he is willing to make me happy, should I quit japanese lesson, or should I continue taking it, if he is now my friend cause I warned him that if our relationship ever ends I didi not want to lose his friend ship. But if he sees my ex, would he get hurt, what will be his reaction , he doesn't seem to be agressive or too sentimental, but who knowss?

2006-10-31 04:48:15 · 6 answers · asked by Maydelis M 1

I divorced In 1993, and my wife disapeared until about 2003, when all of a sudden she came at me with 18 yrs worth of back child support. How do I get free legal help. I'll never get It paid off In this life time. Are there lawyers out there that can help me get my overall payment reduced.

2006-10-31 04:42:44 · 3 answers · asked by Blackjack 6

I was wondering what would someone do if their husband talks down to wife and disrespects her all the time and dosent show love or respect, and her kids of 20 qnd 22 call her bad names disrespct her as well. what she she do even if she hasn o where to go when mother has c omplaints about bad ehaviour of the kids dad questions the mother why she nagged them or what did she do to get them to actthat way . the mom has no where to go . so what she she do and how should she respond to this negativity in her life 24/7 oh and all are males treating her this way. and the one has a girlfriend who also cane be the same , please dont say leave because this wo man has no mo ney to go anywhere.............

2006-10-31 04:33:57 · 13 answers · asked by flowerlegz 3

My visa just expired.My whole life is here now...I have a good friend of mine,who I really trust.He offered me that he can marry me for papers.Everything would be easy but my boyfriend who I live with for 2 years also wants to marry me for the same reason.My boyfriend and I fight alot and we broke up many times.I love him very much but I am not sure that I can count on him for the next 3 years.He also doesnt approve me getting married to friend of mine.He said if I do that he will leave me.

2006-10-31 04:32:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

im married not interest, my daughter is no help she tell me to go for it, , she lives with my daughter so when i go and visit her she is always there

2006-10-31 04:31:22 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm about to get married and both of us are virgins. We are trying to decide on what type of birth control to use. She can't take the pill it makes her sick. We decided to use condoms. My question is does s*x feel different when using condoms than when you're not or does feel about the same. Also do you recommend any birth control option other than the pill/patch and condoms

2006-10-31 04:30:18 · 25 answers · asked by Almack 3

2006-10-31 04:28:33 · 4 answers · asked by KEL971 2

this guy i've known for along time has come out and asked me that question, seriously i have no intenion of taking up his offer as i am happy in my current relationship, i am wondering what other people think or would do if they were asked the same question from someone.

2006-10-31 04:26:54 · 22 answers · asked by ~muffun~ 3

I am going through divorce and my relatives, friends, colleagues/co-workers seem to find fault in me. Sometimes i feel like taking time off, or trying for a new job or moving out of my current city. I have a problem with this. Am I quitting something which i had built like trust, friendship, assets? I dont like quitting, and i can fight it out. but sometimes mind gets bogged down and i feel i want to quit.

is it good to hang on or quit?

2006-10-31 04:25:31 · 12 answers · asked by ? 1

i am married for 6 years but 2 months ago we got separete for stupid reasons like money , lilte sexual life and not talking to much.Now i feel that i still like her .shall we get back toggether after this period that we have been away ? Also we have been to a lawer to start the divorse papers and now she told we have to talk ,to see if we can resque our relation .Shall i go back?

2006-10-31 04:24:50 · 16 answers · asked by atlastk 1

I have been going out and living with my man for 5 yrs and we talk about getting married , I am getting a little impatient should I ask him and if he says yes go ahead and plan?

2006-10-31 04:24:43 · 9 answers · asked by Pompin Jo 1

2006-10-31 04:24:16 · 36 answers · asked by karen w 1

2006-10-31 04:19:24 · 9 answers · asked by usamomof2 1

Usually when I get in a fight with my girlfriend friend, I yell at her back when she yells at me because usually she yells at me for no reason. Yesterday she started yelling and I just decided to stay calm and basically ignore her by giving her answers like "yep, uh huh, right". I will never yell again because obviously nothing pissis a woman off more than being ignored.

2006-10-31 04:17:34 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

Today is my 2 year aniversary! Anyone else out there silly enough to get married on Halloween?

2006-10-31 04:13:58 · 6 answers · asked by April M 3

I have been trying to figure out what the formula for having a happy marriage since I have already had an unhappy one and I really need very honest answers from those of you that have had trials and tribulations in your marriage and still make it work

2006-10-31 04:13:37 · 13 answers · asked by postal_marg 3

My visa just expired.My whole life is here now...I have a good friend of mine,who I really trust.He offered me that he can marry me for papers.Everything would be easy but my boyfriend who I live with for 2 years also wants to marry me for the same reason.My boyfriend and I fight alot and we broke up many times.I love him very much but I am not sure that I can count on him for the next 3 years.He also doesnt approve me getting married to friend of mine.He said if I do that he will leave me.

2006-10-31 04:13:04 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

its funny answer but it contain knowledge ...friends best of luck

2006-10-31 04:09:21 · 23 answers · asked by vikky 1

I take this woman out for coffee once in a while. I sometimes pay for her coffee. We don't really have 'deep' conversations and our coffee meetings are usually last-minute things. I have a picture of my girlfriend with me above my desk so I'm sure this woman has seen it.
I haven't told my girlfriend about the coffee outings but I didn't really think it's a big deal. I've heard some pretty crazy definitions of cheating. Would you honestly consider this cheating?

2006-10-31 04:07:54 · 31 answers · asked by Jesse D 1

Ever notice that when you have a girlfriend your only happy with them for about a week, then after that the only time your ever happy is when your drunk and they aint around????

2006-10-31 04:02:00 · 11 answers · asked by xdfsddfgdfgdfg d 1

2006-10-31 03:56:39 · 22 answers · asked by D K 1