I was wondering what would someone do if their husband talks down to wife and disrespects her all the time and dosent show love or respect, and her kids of 20 qnd 22 call her bad names disrespct her as well. what she she do even if she hasn o where to go when mother has c omplaints about bad ehaviour of the kids dad questions the mother why she nagged them or what did she do to get them to actthat way . the mom has no where to go . so what she she do and how should she respond to this negativity in her life 24/7 oh and all are males treating her this way. and the one has a girlfriend who also cane be the same , please dont say leave because this wo man has no mo ney to go anywhere.............
2006-10-31 04:33:57 · 13 answers · asked by flowerlegz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Did she or did she not raise those "kids"?
If she did, she raised them wrong if they are treating her like that and she has no one to blame but herself.
And why is she complaining about the "bad behaviour" of the "kids"??? They are 20 and 22, and I hate to break it to you ... but they aren't kids any more. They are adults. They can do what they want, when they want and she doesn't have to be available for it. If she is standing there taking it, it's her own fault. She has the ability to get up and walk away or show those "kids" the door.
If "all males" are treating her this way, then something is clearly wrong with her. She is inviting this treatment. A normal person would not put up with this kind of crap, and would have put their foot down years ago.
People can't do anything to you unless you let them. Stop letting them.
2006-10-31 05:53:32 · answer #1 · answered by BoomChikkaBoom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, What is a 20 and21 year oles doing liveing at home? And as far as the husband goes, He needs to get his **** and get out. I feel sorry for the woman, She need to have some say of what is going on and send them all down the road, with no return. File for a divorce, and I would bet a judge will give her the house.All 3, husban,and boys need to meet someone who can give them what they deserve.And I dont mean a hand shake. But there is places the woman can go to get out of this kind of treetment. It needs to be reported.NOW.
2006-10-31 05:16:12 · answer #2 · answered by mswildman2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to go to the local abused womens shelter and talk to a counselor and they can maybe help her find a place to stay some type of help anyway. I often wonder how it gets that bad . I hope she will be alright. Good luck and god bless tell her to go right away cause i am pretty sure they will help her.
2006-10-31 05:31:38 · answer #3 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to stand up for herself finally. The next time, one of them disrespects her, she needs to tell them exactly how she feels. She also needs to do it in a tone that lets them know she isnt taking their crap anymore. Unfortunately, they treat her like that because she allowed them and her husband for so long.
2006-10-31 04:41:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave the man for that is not ok and tell the kids they are not welcome in your home till they learn some respect and manners. They will degrate you as long as there daddy does. they know you are to weak to stand up for yourself. Prove them wrong by walking away and let them know you forgive them for their actions but you do not approve of there actions
2006-10-31 04:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens because she didnt demad respect and the kids watched the dad do it so they do it and now she doesnt have the self esteem to demand or earn respect from anyone. go to a shelter they are free -
2006-10-31 04:37:43 · answer #6 · answered by donyafs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to respect hersef first. Then demand respect from the hubby and hubby has to respect her..... Then hubby needs to drop the bomb on the kids that they will respect her as well. But it will be a mess until and unless she respects herself enough to do this. Good luck!!
2006-10-31 05:20:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she does have somewhere to go. Cop shop, fire station, safe house, friends, family. There is always somewhere to go. That person is just not looking for a place to go. So yes GET OUT
2006-10-31 04:38:03 · answer #8 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Beat the poop out of them, and if they fight back call the police and have them kicked out and a restraining order placed on them, all of them. Make them leave not her.
2006-10-31 04:47:42 · answer #9 · answered by Joesmoe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell them how u feel deep down and if they cant understand seek proffesional help. if that doesnt work they must be plain bad people. they should be ashamed and disgraced at themselves to pick omn their own mother.
2006-10-31 04:38:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋