My visa just expired.My whole life is here now...I have a good friend of mine,who I really trust.He offered me that he can marry me for papers.Everything would be easy but my boyfriend who I live with for 2 years also wants to marry me for the same reason.My boyfriend and I fight alot and we broke up many times.I love him very much but I am not sure that I can count on him for the next 3 years.He also doesnt approve me getting married to friend of mine.He said if I do that he will leave me.
2006-10-31 04:32:43 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Marry the best friend. You can love your boyfriend all you want, but if you cant trust him, what's the point. This is business, and with business, you need a level of trust.
2006-10-31 04:37:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you should'nt marry someone just because you need papers. Marriage is about love and tolerance of the other person's flaws, but if you must get married so you can get your papers I say marry the friend because if you and your boyfriend fight alot now, that's how its going to be when you marry him. Trust me, marriage does not change a person! At the same time if you have never lived with your friend, the odds are you don't know him as well as you think you do because you never truly know a person until you have lived with them. So, ultimatlely the decision is all your own, but think about all the arguments I have presented to you before you make your decision because you have to live with it for the rest of your life.
2006-10-31 04:40:36 · answer #2 · answered by rain_stars_clouds 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough question. You can't just base a marriage on trust. Don't you trust your boyfriend. Marriage is not a game. If you aren't sure, then maybe you shouldn't do it. You have to think of the people involved and do the right thing for everyone involved. Marrying just for a Visa is not a good idea.
2006-10-31 04:36:58 · answer #3 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know how you feel. I married my boyfriend for the same reason, I am from Australia. We had our problems and still do but now we have a baby girl and another on the way and I have never regretted my decision to marry him
I think marrying your friend would be a mistake. Give it a try with your boyfriend. Obviously your and adventurous type (like myself) and if doesnt work out I doubt he would let you down on your immigration - he would have to be some kind of lunatic to do that.
Good Luck!
2006-10-31 04:38:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sorry to say, but you should not marry either of them. Marrying your friend just for papers is not as easy as it sounds. The government will check to make sure that you are in a "real" marriage, and will do so for five years. It does not sound like the relationship with your boyfriend is a good option either. If you do not trust him, how can you be married to him? Marriage is built on trust.
2006-10-31 04:37:09 · answer #5 · answered by Bill 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you marry either one, you will not be a good friend at all. You will make them commit fraud and perjury against their governenmt and place them at risk of being prosecuted and sentenced for it. I know I would not do that to someone who I consider a friend, let alone to someone that I love.
Furthermore, Your friend may have more feelings for you than he is willing to admit and may be hoping for something more. This will kill your frienship at the end. Marrying your boyfirend will also bring you a lot of heartache since you already know it will only lead to a rocky marriage.
How about finding an employer that will sponsor you? If you have been to college, you may qualify for an H-1b visa. Consult an immigration lawyer.
2006-10-31 04:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by TrueSoul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for sure your boyfriend will leave you in case you marry yet another guy! are you able to blame him? Why have not you utilized for citizenship, you've been right here lengthy sufficient. once you need to marry for papers, a minimum of marry for romance too. you could continuously workout consultation your themes including your boyfriend, and probably destiny husband. Love will hit upon a fashion!
2016-10-16 07:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is most certainly NOT a question you should be asking in a public forum, if indeed the scenario is genuine!
You do in this instance what your heart dictates.
However, if this is actually serious, then I pity whichever is the unlucky man who gets to wed a bride looking for a marriage of convenience which will last only until the bride gets her papers.
How transparent and unworthy can you get?
2006-10-31 04:38:25 · answer #8 · answered by steven b 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say you figure out how to get another visa a different way. Maybe a work visa. Marrying someone for this reason is asking for trouble. And you certainly dont want to marry someone that you already dont trust.
2006-10-31 04:36:16 · answer #9 · answered by JC 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You are going to tell the world that you are willing to marry a man for your papers and not love? Always marry a man for love. Besides your friend is wanting the benefit of marriage and your boyfriend is correct and I don't blame him for saying so.
2006-10-31 04:43:18 · answer #10 · answered by Been There Done That 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋