Live together for 6 years, in our mid 30s - have ups and downs like everybody else. Have faced three times where she wanted to leave, but i've always believed in giving it your best shot before walking away, so its continued through those times. But each of those times also coincides with her finding a "special friend" for intimate liaisons. Sex life never really recovered after the first incident. So, NOW, I just noticed the series of calls on the cell phone bill, the closed door conversations, out all hours with her 'girlfriends', and the soiled laundry (ewww!). She is supported by me and has yet to have a reasonable paying/steady job. Give me a reason NOT to kick her to the curb?!
2006-10-31 05:06:29 · 57 answers · asked by LastStraw 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
do what makes you happy
2006-10-31 05:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by jack jack 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
No reason what so ever. Unless kids are involved. There is nothing wrong with having your cake and eating too unless you are NOT the one doing it. If both of you have had other partners and were okay with it eventually then more power to you. But if its only her seeing other people it is called cheating. If a person will do it once they will do it again especially during the famous 7 yr itch relationships go thru. So you have to decide is she worth it all this that youre going thru? Can you picture yourself with her living happily ever after even with all this? If the answer is no then move on. Nobody is perfect, and some people are just Butt-holes, only you know how much you are willing to take and once you hit that limit then you either move on or u wont. Good luck
2006-10-31 05:18:05 · answer #2 · answered by ah 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have all of your evidence and clearly, you are tired of uncovering it... Actually, I think you posted this question to have others agree with you. Sadly, I do. She doesn't seem to be faithful to you or grateful for all you do. I would give her an amount of time to leave. sex is also an important factor in a relationship, so is trust... I'm sorry, but this relationship sounds like it has already been torn at the seams... I guess it's time for both of you to move on. Sorry for your misfortune, Hun
~Frenchie~
2006-10-31 05:12:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason not to kick her to the curb. She is a lying, cheating tramp who will never change. I am sorry to say, but you have got to DTB! You cannot live an unhappy life just to stay married. It does not sound like she cares about you, nor your marriage. Take charge of your life.
2006-10-31 05:22:56 · answer #4 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is only one reason you should not kick her out.
That is if you have a basic need to have someone kick you
while your down.
If after the first affair it has to be clear she needs more than she is getting here. So do you. Someone you can trust.
You must really care for her but how long are you going to take this.
2006-10-31 05:13:31 · answer #5 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres not a reason you shouldnt kick her to the curb.... you have all the reasons except to keep her. i mean you have been great in the past of letting her come back. its now time for you to let her go. she lying,joblessand a disgusting thought of a women let it go. youre a great guy, you dont need her. so in the future i hope your next question is single mail looking for female any interested? (have a great life.)
2006-10-31 05:13:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wish i could give you a reason not to but if i was in your shoes i would of done away with her a long time ago!!! There are too many women who will appreciate you and love you the way you need to than to stick with someone that is just using you!!!
Good luck!!!
2006-10-31 05:09:37 · answer #7 · answered by polarbaby 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to try something different if you really love each other. Most likely your girl has issues causing her to behave this way. If you have a love that is worth the effort and she is willing, I suggest counseling. You can't say you've tried until you've tried everything.
2006-10-31 05:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by kandekizzez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her out! Went through this crap twice in my life and you will never be able to trust her becuase she screwed you over once to many times! Let the other men support her financially!
2006-10-31 05:09:36 · answer #9 · answered by freezynose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has wanted to leave three times before, so now is reason to kick her out. Its obvious she has better places to go to, other people to hang out with, no reponsibilities, is this what you want in life and who to spend your precious time with? Time to move on, on both sides.
2006-10-31 05:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by reene2g 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can i give you a reason not to u have given every reason why you should you sound like a good man yall are living together and she is cheating you dont deserve that you are only down grading yourself for a hoe and that is not cool
2006-10-31 05:10:14 · answer #11 · answered by kindra1988 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋