I am going through divorce and my relatives, friends, colleagues/co-workers seem to find fault in me. Sometimes i feel like taking time off, or trying for a new job or moving out of my current city. I have a problem with this. Am I quitting something which i had built like trust, friendship, assets? I dont like quitting, and i can fight it out. but sometimes mind gets bogged down and i feel i want to quit.
is it good to hang on or quit?
2006-10-31 04:25:31 · 12 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You need to weight the good and bad aspects of quitting or starting a new life. Make a list and decide.
2006-10-31 04:28:38 · answer #1 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the reason you filed for divorce. Consider your issues. If they are something you feel you can live with and learn to cope with then stick it out, cause the grass isn't greener.
As far as your associates and family,well...you told them...so, you have to deal with theirs opinions. But, you don't have to listen to their opinions. Stop talking to everyone about it and see if things don't simmer down. I do the same thing, cause I like to get info from other people, but it does bog down the brain.
If you have trust with this person then you have everything. Trust is THE most important thing in a relationship. So obviously they didn't cheat on you. You still love this person? Has it gone to a deeper more meaningful love? You are the only one who can decide this and if it is worth it to you to hang. Marriage is hard work. It's like a garden...needs constant watering, weeding, nurturing, care and love.
2006-10-31 04:35:39 · answer #2 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They find fault....meaning? It depends what they are all bit*hing about. Is it the same thing? Do they have any merit to what they are saying? Quitting a job that you have been at for a while can be difficult, especially if you enjoy what you do. I would try and stick it out for a while. Maybe give yourself a time limit, say 6 months, and if things dont get better, then consider moving.
2006-10-31 04:29:13 · answer #3 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT QUIT!! Ultimately, your divorce is between you and your spouse. Y'all are the ones who have lived together and y'all are the ones who really know the issues between the two of you. It may be that your spouse is telling her side and making you look like the bad guy or you actually do have some fault. Either way it goes do not let others opinions make you quit anything, keep your head up and go through it like a champ!
2006-10-31 04:33:53 · answer #4 · answered by rain_stars_clouds 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need to quit because if you quite now you will continue it will feel like you didn't fight enough for the marriage. Marriage is about sacrifice, for better or for worse, richer or poorer, sickness and in health till death do us part. You need to try to work your marriage out and if that doesn't work then maybe you should think about the fact that y'all should not have been together. Just about everything in life is replaceable.
2006-10-31 04:51:12 · answer #5 · answered by Sexy Caramel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I will always say that you should fight for your marriage until there is no reason to fight anymore. That having been said, you should not be influenced by your friends and family. The decision belongs to you and your spouse. They do not know what is truly happening in your marriage, nor in your heart. If you do not feel the marriage is salvageable, then you should stick to your instincts. There is no reason to be unhappy just because outsiders have offered a differing opinion.
2006-10-31 04:34:19 · answer #6 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that finding a new job or moving to a new city is quiting. People need changes. Change is a good thing.
2006-10-31 04:29:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When everyone has deserted you , it is time to get a new life. If "friends" have turned against you then they were never friends in the first place, so see them in their true colours. The last thing you need are them.
Do what makes you happy rather than others.
2006-10-31 04:32:45 · answer #8 · answered by steven b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't quit. Don't let these people show that it is bothering you. To quit would be to let them win and get the better of you. It's not your fault this relationship didn't work out. We all can't be perfect.
2006-10-31 04:30:18 · answer #9 · answered by rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One has to weigh the options. After all a known devil is better than an unknown one. Secondly all spouses behave funny.
2006-10-31 04:29:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋