barely spoken in the past couple of days and i am getting really stressed out. what do i do if he wont listen to me?
2006-10-31 04:55:15 · 21 answers · asked by karen w 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You say partner and you say in-laws...are you married or not? A husband needs to be with his wife, and should side with his wife and you should listen to each other and care for and about each other. Try to look at it from the outside in -- would you want any child to grow up with that kind of relationship between his parents? If he is not truly committed to you (as this would indicate), I'm afraid it might be better to not be together at all. Please do not stay together if the ONLY common bond is that child.
Can you please add more details about what this is all about? What was this "bust up" with your in-laws?
2006-10-31 04:58:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive had this...Ive just had a baby and I had an argument with my partners mum as she was starting to take over and was very overpowering. Firstly dont get stressed, its no good for you or the baby, Secondly take a step back and see it from your partners point of view.
I would try and get back to normal with your partner even if it means not mentioning the bust up and then when you two are back on track sit down and discuss it. If it doesnt work, do what I did and went to see my partners mum on my own and talk about the bust up. Waters will be cleared and there will be no more pressure on you and your boyfriend. Even if you still disagree with your (sort of) motherinlaw, just ask if that can be put to one side and start a fresh.
Please dont get stressed, its not worth the upset it will cause your baby.
Good Luck with the pregnancy, its a lovely time and 6 months later it will be magical...
P.s. You have the trump card as your carrying their Grandchild so they wont want to be rowing with you neither...
2006-10-31 14:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Clairabella 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd let him know that stressing you out isn't good for the baby and he should think about the baby if he's still upset with you. Talk it out...work it out. Do NOT live your lives and your marriage for the in laws. If they aren't happy...chances are it will only be a matter of time until its something else they aren't happy with. You and your husband need to shore up your relationship and realize its the two of you (about to be three!) and you are your own family unit outside of both sets of parents. Also...talk it out with the inlaws as well. Might be awkward or unpleansant but let them know they've upset you and how you are feeling. Maybe then...sorry on both sides and relationships (and boundries) are drawn together.
Good luck...
2006-10-31 13:01:38 · answer #3 · answered by K's Mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make peace, if he is taking their side there is a good reason for it, you need to find out what that reason is if you don't already know. Aplogizing is so much easier than being angry, anger will stress you out and its NO GOOD FOR THE BABY! So bite the bullet and be the mature party.
2006-10-31 12:58:27 · answer #4 · answered by HereweGO 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give it time before you start freaking out. Maybe you're overreacting (I know I did more than once when I was pregnant) maybe he's not really "taking sides" at all. You've got to remember, that you are ALL his family and he probably hates being in the middle. I'm sure things will work out.
2006-10-31 12:57:29 · answer #5 · answered by almostcrazee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every man listens to a woman epecially thier wife but it depends on yr attitude. Start agreeing wth him in the open and when on the bed, try and explain things to him but never insists on having yr way. shower more love on him and u ll definitely reap more love.
2006-10-31 17:09:20 · answer #6 · answered by adegoke_joshua 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write him a letter, lay it all down on the line that you WON'T accept him denying you support, even with his family & then leave the house & go either stay with your own parents or friends for a couple of days & let him sweat, your having HIS baby, he should be more responsible & supportive.
2006-10-31 12:59:39 · answer #7 · answered by Denise W 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He should be supporting you, its gotta be hard for him with his family involved, is there anyway you could patch things up with the outlaws sorry inlaws?.
dont stress its not good for you the child or your relationship
2006-10-31 13:02:43 · answer #8 · answered by Steve 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can't worry about things that you can't change. What you do is stay focused? Try to keep your mind off of the drama. Eventually your spouse will come around.
2006-10-31 12:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by T W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
BASICALLY IF HES NOT TAKING YOUR SIDE THEN HE ISNT WORTH THE TIME OR HASSLE. START AGAIN AND FIND A MAN WHO WILL AT LEAST SUPPORT YOU..IM SURE YOU WONT BE SHORT OF OFFERS X
2006-10-31 15:12:13 · answer #10 · answered by scot_pix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋