i am married for 6 years but 2 months ago we got separete for stupid reasons like money , lilte sexual life and not talking to much.Now i feel that i still like her .shall we get back toggether after this period that we have been away ? Also we have been to a lawer to start the divorse papers and now she told we have to talk ,to see if we can resque our relation .Shall i go back?
2006-10-31 04:24:50 · 16 answers · asked by atlastk 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are going through a normal cycle in marriage.
You didn't mention any children involved so I will assume that there isn't any.
You two have grown acostom to each other. Therefore the spark has changed to a steady light. This will explain the decline or lack of evening activities. To boost this, make sure both parties are getting enough rest and there is little stress. If jobs are becoming stressful, talk about it.
$$ Issues are the #1 reason marriages break up. You didn't give details in this arena so it is hard to assist. All things can be forgiven if the guilty party is willing to say that they were wrong. If someone lied about how they got the money to buy xyz, then they must fess up. If future goals are not in line with the other, then you must talk about it.
Main thing to consider is a counsilor. Communication with a non-bias person can help you two wade through the emotional baggage and find the real issues.
If you both want to try and make it work, I say go for it. The papers are not signed yet.
2006-10-31 04:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by childjl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well do you see her as the person you want to be with the rest of your life? mother of your children? its hard to find the right people today and you gave her 6 years so you know what see is....
2nd does she see you as the person she want to spend her life with..
Yes 6 years are sometime but if its not going to work then its more time wasted.
The best is to have a talk with her ,a real talk, a get everything out and be honest...
Its best to hurt each other now then later.
Plus if you guys can hurt each other and then let bye gones be bye gones you guys may stay together.
Think real hard.... Its your and her future.... and maybe the kids future .... dont think its only you, its more than that...
Best of luck friend...
2006-10-31 12:36:46 · answer #2 · answered by TheTick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real question is......do you want to? If you only like her, like you said, that isn't enough. You need to really want to do this. If not, it isn't worth time. 79% of marriages divorce over money issues. Why don't you go to a marriage counselor or even sit down and come to a common ground on your money situation. Do you really put your finances over your wife? If she is a big spender, or vice versa, then figure out a way to curb the issue. You have to have good communication in order to make your marriage work. She can't read your mind, nor you hers. If you want to save it, I say go for it. Start fresh. It is never to late to change.
2006-10-31 12:29:44 · answer #3 · answered by kimmypoo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write down on a paper what was it that was so bad that made you guys leave each other . on the other side of it write what you love about her and why where you with her in the first place. if the bad over powers the good you might want to really think it over and talk to her to see if it can be fixed and if the good over powers the bad you guy need to be together and find a way to work things out. stress can some times come between people learn to relax and enjoy your girl i bet every thing will be OK .........................good luck
2006-10-31 12:35:48 · answer #4 · answered by mari 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first thing you need to do is go find a first grade teacher, and have her/him teach you how to spell. Second, I was struck by the words "I feel I still like her." The word like instead of love does not give me good feelings about the future of your relationship. I hope it works out for you, but you should think long and hard about how you really feel about this person.
2006-10-31 12:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Bill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get together and talk. Talk about all the reasons that made you separate. If you both feel you want to work on it than try and stick it out - sure it may be tough, but saving your marriage is worth it.
2006-10-31 12:29:40 · answer #6 · answered by GingerGirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it sounds like you both would be open to saving your marriage. And that is very possible if you really love and respect each other. Obviously the separation proved good for you both.
Yes, go back and truly apprecialte each another!
2006-10-31 12:30:52 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 6 years, it is certainly worth a try! What is the worst thing that can happen? You get divorced?
2006-10-31 12:27:45 · answer #8 · answered by kruzluver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you should go back. i can't understand one thing till now, why do people marry without thinking?like when u r marrying you should think about it carefully and take it seriously so that in the end you don't get separated. well good luck!
2006-10-31 12:28:36 · answer #9 · answered by love....me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your spouse need to talk and decide whether you can make the relationship work or whether to proceed with the divorce. Either is possible.
2006-10-31 12:27:19 · answer #10 · answered by Cary Grant 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋