Marriage & Divorce - 20 October 2006

to make a long story short. i was dating this guy. i didn't know he was married until i told him i was pregnant, then THE TRUTH CAME OUT! he's married but is trying to get a divorce. well, 1 year or so later my baby father is still married. which is ok. because i don't want his sorry butt no more. however, the question is this. why do you think his wife is still married to him? he said that he told her and she is upset about it, but is willing to work it out. what the hell is up with her! is she desperate or she doesn't care. and keep in mind, i have found out by investigating that he always cheats on his wife. they have always been having marital problems. but man i would be upset if i was the wife and found out not only he cheated but got a her pregnant. i would for sure get a divorce. quick and in a hurry. so, you all let me know why does she and other women put up with such behavior from men.

2006-10-20 03:44:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

I was married to my ex for a bit and now divorced over drug addiction. We have two kids together. Now, I am dating someone who I love. But I still love my ex too. (always will) Now my ex has kicked his drug habit and is doing so well! (2 years). My ex would take me back. And my ex makes a LOT of money. Enough so we could have a nice house and I could stay home with the kids. My current boyfriend makes an average salary. (not bad, but not a lot). It would NOT be enough for me to stay home. So I work full time. I do love them both in different ways. I could go back to my ex and stay home and would be in love with him but chance that he could use drugs again or I could stay with boyfriend who I know won't do drugs but work full time. What is more important here? I wish I could stay home with my kids and have a nice house for them....How important is money? Love or money?

2006-10-20 03:39:26 · 19 answers · asked by Bet L 1

question about guys and weddings. I never said it was going to be me or not. I don't see it being selfish. ok well maybe if the guy couldn't bring his side of the family and his friends. However, most men that I talk too could care less what the girl wanted to do for the wedding. You would save a buck or two. Weddings tend to be too superficial anyways. Do guys really like going to receptions and do they really need them? Do men really care about going on a honey moon and do they really care what the heck their fiance is wearing on their wedding day, and where they get married? I mean come now didn't they say the wedding day is the girls day anyway. What exactly do men want to do on the wedding day or what could they not live without. you cann't say sex. In fact a lot of people don't have sex on their wedding day. I would think most guys would rather settle for the cheaper option and not all of the elaboratness that goes into a wedding.

2006-10-20 03:38:00 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

My daughter's dad has not contacted her in over a year, and since she was 3, (she's 10 now) he has only seen her about 4 times. No phone calls, no child support, nothing. The number I have for him doesn't work. How can I have his parental rights taken away? I can't contact him so I can't discuss it with him. What legal steps should I take to have his parental rights dissolved? My daughter wants nothing to do with him and wouldn't see him even if he did try. Please help.

2006-10-20 03:34:43 · 13 answers · asked by Lotus 6

2006-10-20 03:34:08 · 5 answers · asked by butterfly 2

Are there any guys how there that could handle being engaged to a girl for a long time, having a wedding in the court with only one witness, no bride in a white dress, no reception, no wedding gifts and no honeymoon? If there was a honeymoon would you be willing to devote most of your time to volunteer work or research?

2006-10-20 03:21:35 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous

When I find them he says he steals them from my friends without them knowing. Kinda weird but I figured he was just being perverted and stupid. I told him it hurt me so he swore he would never do it again. A few days ago we got into a bad fight and he has been really mean to me. Also he has been hanging out with a guy who doesn't agree with our relationship. We made up but then I found this underwear last nite.. Do you think he's cheating? Am I overreacting? Should I give him space to have a harmless fetish or should I be more worried?
He is a good boyfriend to me other than that and I have no other signs that he might be cheating.

2006-10-20 03:19:38 · 44 answers · asked by Andy 1

as some of u might read my husband cheated on me and we have a 15months old i am taking it really hard but here trying for the baby,mean while my ex from high school told me about my husband cheating he emailed me cause he thought i should know. So,now I talk to him sometimes and he really still cares about me although i did so much to him cheated him and when he went of seas we ended up seperatin.His family hates me so he says we would never be able to be together.Its hard feelin like a love from the past cares more then my husband anyone out there got any advice.Should I stay in this marrige and try to forgive and get over what he did or should i just get out on my own.And does anyone think I should to work things out with my ex if i get out or just start all over. By the way my husband only cheated once that i know of but i cant understand why and how he could take a chance or not seeing his little girl grow,things where not that great before we have sep,rooms most of our marriage

2006-10-20 03:14:59 · 21 answers · asked by skybaby226 1

My husband filed for divorce 1 month ago. He left for Australia for a "job" on 10/10/06 he was off of the plane in Melbourne not 3 hrs and called me begging for money for a return ticket. I said no way. Somehow he made it back home on 10/16/06. I found out 2 days ago he has been having an affair, for a year, with a woman he met on the internet. She has been over here on several occasions. Supposedly she is wealthy. She had paid for him a 1 way ticket there and I dont know what happened to make him want to come home. He told me that the "job" would pay well and my four year old son and I would be very well taken care of!! What a sponge and a liar! I also found out my ex-mother- in- law knew about this and never told me! Now, she calls our mutual friends and asks them if I am being a good mother and if I'm keeping my house clean! Someone please advise!

2006-10-20 03:10:31 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-20 03:08:57 · 14 answers · asked by jonathon.shine@rogers.com 2

we are going to try to make our marriage work out any advice?

2006-10-20 03:07:37 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am recently divorced after 10 years of marriage. It took only 3 months for the divorce to be finalized because my ex had an affair. He is moving in with the other woman soon. My friend did the same thing after she found out her ex cheated - she jumped into another relationship that ended badly 2 years later. How much time should you give yourself before getting involved with someone new? How do you prevent a "rebound" relationship? A new relationship can help you deal with with the pain and hurt of divorce but I believe they can also prevent you from dealing with the issues as well. Any opinions?

2006-10-20 03:05:20 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband of 25 yrs. liqudated everything & moved my daughter & i 22 hrs away from my home & family. He controls every penny & i have no vehicle, no way to look for a job & don't know anyone here. Can't even find a church home 2 help me-What 2 do?

2006-10-20 03:01:02 · 12 answers · asked by lillady 1

2006-10-20 02:58:12 · 15 answers · asked by wayouthere 4

mine naggs at me every chance he gets for the smallest thing and pics and picks and picks at me until I give him something real to nag at me for , then I end up saying sorry... he gets frusterated at the smallest little #$%#$% ... he can't keep from yelling, he gets mad over everything!!!! and not just me, but the public too.

2006-10-20 02:58:06 · 13 answers · asked by Pook 2

With the baby due in December...i'm sure we won't have enough money to spend on a big wedding. Right now I was just thinking about having it done in the court.....anyone have this done. What do I need to do in order to have this done? Is there a website I can check out?

2006-10-20 02:54:16 · 7 answers · asked by D L 1

we were fighting about something stupid in the car, and he said I had a bad attitude, but (he has anger management problems) he said even If i cry and say I'm sorry he won't forgive me.. what should I do now?

2006-10-20 02:53:41 · 14 answers · asked by Pook 2

I have been with my husband for 10yrs and love him very much. But, here lately I would rather be with "myself" than commit to the act with him. I don't know why I am very much aroused by him and he trys very hard. It's just that when we get started something tells me to stop and I become a desert! Can anyone shed some light on this for me please? Oh and we have 4 kids too if that helps.

2006-10-20 02:52:14 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

Alright. So I got a bill for 500, and without me even asking my man tells me "give me your password to your account and i will pay it, if you dont...i cant." and that sent me off on the deep side when I never ask him for anything and we are getting married soon and he's had several problems with his mother trying to suck him dry. I called him out on it and said "How can you not want to help your wife, but let your mother suck you dry?"...and I didnt even say it all that nicely...I threw it many obscenities. Wrong move, I should have kept that inside. Anyway, his mother is very selfish, but he refuses to believe as such. The other night she made some comment "I'll make an appointment then." when he was on the phone because she hadnt seen him in a few days. He's almost 30 years old..taking care of you..get over it if you dont see him. So I got off the phone. What do I do about this aggression and anger? He gets upset and doesnt see how I would feel like I'm competing with her.

2006-10-20 02:48:35 · 3 answers · asked by brittneyafoster 1

and at what point would you leave?

2006-10-20 02:47:29 · 20 answers · asked by Pook 2

I had caught my wife cheating. I forgave her. I caught her cheating doing two guys at once. I got mad and went to asian massage "spa" and had two girls at once, at least I used protection. I paid with a credit card and showed her the receipt to make clear I had done it back to her. We talked, I forgave her and thought she was through cheating. Caught her cheating agin with same two guys. I did the Asian Massage thing again. Again showed her the receipt, talked - but this time she told me she was going to continue affairs and wanted an open marrage. So I was hurt and said "ya , whatever" . Well she will talk of what good times she is having with other guys doing stuff with them besides sex like going for lunch. I work long hours while she stays home and watches our son. I am not really wanting to have affairs. Got sick of hearing of her good times and invented me having an affair with a co-worker to maybe see if I could get her jealous and maybe interested in me

2006-10-20 02:45:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

it can be from A-z, Im just curious, cheating? abuse? anger problems?

2006-10-20 02:44:28 · 17 answers · asked by Pook 2

I signed the paper with my condition. My ex also signed, but he doesn't agree on his visitation rights. I currently live in Puerto Rico and he lives in Florida. I want to know if this process can be canceled since he want my kids to travel alone in the airplane to Florida and I dont agree. So to avoid this issue I would like to cancel everything. My kids ages are 5, 2 and 1 year.

2006-10-20 02:43:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

and who cares about his wife and cares about keeping the romance alive, and who doesn't have anger management problems?

2006-10-20 02:42:53 · 11 answers · asked by Pook 2

My fiance and I just started living together, we're getting married next year. But I find it's hard to spend any quality time together because he's always running his family around. He has two older sisters and a brother (between the ages of 46-52) that live at home with his mom. My finance is 42 - all those adults living at home but they call him all the time. Last night, I cooked a very nice dinner and he promised me we would have a nice quiet evening together NO INTERRUPTIONS. Well, right after we ate, his sister calls and said something that made him angry, so now he's in a bad mood, and he's kinda snapping at me. Then when I looked at him strange, he said "I'm sorry I"m kinda upset." His sister calls back and asks him to take her to the store, and he took her! I'm not selfish, I know he is the type of guy that is always helping people and who people call when they need help - but I find it's really throwing a monkey wrench into "our thang." He also has a problem saying No

2006-10-20 02:29:12 · 19 answers · asked by Cris 5

well i had a phone call from a girl after 3 weeks of marrage saying that she is my husband´s gf and that he told her that i was his sister living with him...when i confronted him with that he said he didnt talk to that girl since a year ago and that she said that as she wanted to seperate between us ...as she wanted to marry him...but how could that girl get my name and he hasnt talked with her since one year ...this is so strange...but i forgave him...what do u think...i feel he is cheating on me till now...but i have no physical evidence....what shall i do...i am married now for 2 monthes....

2006-10-20 02:28:26 · 21 answers · asked by caramella 1

2006-10-20 02:22:27 · 11 answers · asked by daniel a 2

My husband complains that we don't do it enough. Right now its like two or three times a week, sometimes once a week. I think he wants me to initiate more, but what we have is a communication problem. He won't initiate because he's afraid I'll say no, and if I initiate, which doesn't happen often, I have to freaking spell it out, and that takes all the fun out of it. We've been together over seven years, and I'm willing, but it's hard to get into it if I'm not turned on first. I've explained this to him, but he doesn't understand how to be passionate, and he frankly feels like its too much work and effort. How do I teach him how to properly initiate sex so that its passionate and fun for both of us, on a regular basis??

2006-10-20 02:11:37 · 28 answers · asked by Sweet Belly 2

Obviously I want it to be a surprise and I don't mind exchanging it later for one that fits perfectly, but I'd like to be close enough that it will more or less fit! HELP!!!!

2006-10-20 02:07:16 · 15 answers · asked by MarQus1 4

What if you know that it's the right person... and yet, both of you are planning to go to grad school, etc... is this impractical, or is it perfectly okay to do as long as our relationship remains strong? Thanks.

2006-10-20 02:00:32 · 12 answers · asked by reba 1