we were fighting about something stupid in the car, and he said I had a bad attitude, but (he has anger management problems) he said even If i cry and say I'm sorry he won't forgive me.. what should I do now?
2006-10-20 02:53:41 · 14 answers · asked by Pook 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop giving him attitude. The tears and apologies stop having meaning if you just do the same thing over and over.
2006-10-20 02:56:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, it depends on how often it happens. If you snap at him, then cry and apologize, just to do it again an hour (or a day) later, I can see why he wouldn't forgive you. That would get on my nerves after a while too. I'm not trying to be insensitive or anything but my fiance had the same problem with his X girlfriend. She would be nasty to him, then just cry to make him feel guilty about being nasty back. My X boyfriend was much the same way. Apologies don't mean anything if you aren't really sorry. And if you're really sorry, you start looking for a solution to the problem instead of throwing up your hands and going "Oh well, that's just the way I am. I can't change it."
If it's important to you, find out WHY you react the way you do. Then work on that together.
2006-10-20 10:04:04 · answer #2 · answered by Kitten 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you really can do is apologize, if he is that pig headed and cannot see that you are sincere than he is just plain ignorant . It sounds like he pushes and pushes until he gets the reaction that he wanted from you. His own sick little power trip. You screwed up and apologized....what more can you do. Hang in there, and don't cry, that's really what he wants you to do. I think when people argue, which is natural, you should just say what you need to say, and move on. Just be tough and don't let him make you the victim. We are all entitled to have a bad attitude every once in a while...If we were nice to each other all the time, well, that would just get boring! Take care!
2006-10-20 20:53:55 · answer #3 · answered by hamera7925 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if he really loved you he would forgive you. I mean your crying and begging for forgivness! I wish you luck cause you sound like a nice girl. You shouldn't let him treat you like that. You deserve better. Wait awhile and see what happens and if this is still going on have a talk with him. You shouldn't have to live your life in missery!
2006-10-20 10:36:33 · answer #4 · answered by xoLoveMaexo 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are blaming you own attitude on your husband?
You need to take responsability for your actions and control yourself.
Sinning and praying doesn't even out. Grow up and nurture your relationship instead of destroying it with childish tantrums.
Good luck
2006-10-20 09:59:24 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would be giving him a whole lot more attitude because he is using the incident to control you.
2006-10-20 10:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
kick him to the curb girlfriend! he sounds like a control freak to me, i'd give him anger management alright, he would be managing it all by his self! Girl! Love your self! "A woman belongs beside a man, NOT at his feet!"
2006-10-20 09:59:36 · answer #7 · answered by Lace 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell him to give you a beat down. THAT will make him feel better.
2006-10-20 10:24:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to kiss your A S S. I'm serious. He sounds like a jerk.
2006-10-20 10:01:03 · answer #9 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is talking out of his A#S. just wait and see. be as normal as possible and relax
2006-10-20 09:59:13 · answer #10 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋