Alright. So I got a bill for 500, and without me even asking my man tells me "give me your password to your account and i will pay it, if you dont...i cant." and that sent me off on the deep side when I never ask him for anything and we are getting married soon and he's had several problems with his mother trying to suck him dry. I called him out on it and said "How can you not want to help your wife, but let your mother suck you dry?"...and I didnt even say it all that nicely...I threw it many obscenities. Wrong move, I should have kept that inside. Anyway, his mother is very selfish, but he refuses to believe as such. The other night she made some comment "I'll make an appointment then." when he was on the phone because she hadnt seen him in a few days. He's almost 30 years old..taking care of you..get over it if you dont see him. So I got off the phone. What do I do about this aggression and anger? He gets upset and doesnt see how I would feel like I'm competing with her.
2006-10-20 02:48:35 · 3 answers · asked by brittneyafoster 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, you have a decision to make:
1. Marry his mum *it will be this way IF/WHEN you marry her son* and deal with her being #1 in his Life..
2. Get out of the Relationship..
Doesn't get any simpler than that.
2006-10-22 21:39:56 · answer #1 · answered by BITE ME 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, it sounds like you exploded on him about the bill for nothing. Obviously, if you don't give him the password to whatever account the bill is for, he can't pay it. How does that justify you going off on him?
One day, you will be a mother, and you will know what it's like to not see your children after they're married. "Get over it if you dont see him". What kind of attitude is THAT? She is his mother--no matter how long you are married to him, she will have been his mother longer. She carried him in her for nine months, she went through however many hours of labor giving birth to him, and she MOTHERED him. You cannot deem her selfish because she wants to see her son.
From this question, it seems like YOU are the one starting this competition, not her.
However, I can understand if her selfishness is causing a financial strain on your marriage. CALMLY tell your husband that you do not agree with him supporting her as much as he does.
2006-10-23 02:48:43 · answer #2 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hon, get use to it because mommy ain't going away. Sounds like she has her boy tied around her finger. You have two choices, 1. you learn to keep your mouth shut like you said and just hang in till something changes with him and mommy. OR 2. stand up for yourself and let it be known exactly how you feel and try to save what you feel you have with him. But it sounds like he is to far up her ***. GOOD LUCK TO YOU.
2006-10-20 10:08:48 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋