mine naggs at me every chance he gets for the smallest thing and pics and picks and picks at me until I give him something real to nag at me for , then I end up saying sorry... he gets frusterated at the smallest little #$%#$% ... he can't keep from yelling, he gets mad over everything!!!! and not just me, but the public too.
2006-10-20 02:58:06 · 13 answers · asked by Pook 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Frankly, I would get outside help fast.
Talk to him about how much he hurts you, and let him know that you are going to sign up for marriage counseling. If he gets mad (which he probably will) then give him an ultimatum. Either he goes with you, or else ____. Make sure it's something realistic, and you are willing to stick by your threat. Anger can turn violent, and you don't want him to reach that point.
Then find ways he can let it out in a healthy way, like a gym membership. Set up a punching bag in a spare room or garage. Let him work out his frustrations in a positive manner so he doesn't take them out on you or the rest of the world.
There is something deeper here than just nagging. It's coming from another source, and he's letting it out in the wrong way. It could be a job he hates, so find help him a new job. It could be money troubles, so find ways to cut frivolous spending. Identify the problem, and see how it can be eliminated.
I assume he wasn't always like this, or you probably wouldn't have married him. So he can go back to the man you fell in love with, but it will take a lot of work on both your ends. You both have to be willing to talk it out, and see what can be changed to make things better on the both of you.
2006-10-20 03:07:40 · answer #1 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger management problems typcially mask a more serious self esteem issue, not yours but his. If you continue to allow this type behavior, your esteem level will be even lower than his.
I seem to ask this all the time and find myself asking it again..... Does this type situation fullfil you? Does it make you happy? Is this the way you want to live the rest of your life?
You know it is not a simple matter of 'maybe' I did something I didn't realize to get this round of verbal abuse started.' And, my dear, that is eaxcatly what is happening..... you and everyone around you he screams and yells at is being verbally assualted.
Personally, I dont think anyone deserves to be treated this way... been there, done that and it doesn't get better unless they truly want and seek professional advise. Most of the time, they won't go for help because they think everyone else is the cause.
Good luck and the only other thing i can say has already been said "GET OUT".
2006-10-20 03:11:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me anger management problems are when he cant control it and goes too far and blows things out of proportion. Road rage is a big one and just being nasty to most people. My ex had anger management issues. He was always ready for a fight with everybody. He just wasn't normal in public situations. He was usually rude right off the bat. The more you walk on egg shells and say sorry when he should be the worse his treatment of you will get. He might need anger management counseling.
2006-10-20 03:07:50 · answer #3 · answered by JustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he needs some help, and why do you give him something "real" to nag at you for, then apologize? My husband used to do the same thing - gawd - I hated that picking. I told him to stop it - said he didn't realize he was doing it, and HE was sorry. But he kept it up until I realized I couldn't handle it - so when he started, I just walked out, drove away and went back a couple of hours later. He didn't like that because then he had nobody to pick at - so he stopped. Sometimes it's just a habit, and you can excaberate it by being around and being his whipping boy [girl] so it's a good idea to remove yourself until he learns some control.
2006-10-20 03:05:15 · answer #4 · answered by theophilus 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That doesn't sound like an anger problem. He is just frustrated with you.
You obviously have no clue what "anger management" is.
A person that has violent tendencies that requiere Anger management normally:
- Punches holes on the wall
- Destroy other's property
- Physically abuses their partners and their children
- It's prone to road rage
You are acussing him of having a problem and perhaps you are the one with the problem. You are needy and inmature, that can exhaust anybody's patience.
Good luck
2006-10-20 03:08:52 · answer #5 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It certainly sounds like anger issues to me. If you really want to look for deeply into it, pick up a book on anger and anger management at the bookstore or library.
2006-10-20 03:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you are going through this. It sounds like you already have this one figured out. You said it ( Anger Management).
2006-10-20 03:06:51 · answer #7 · answered by butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Define Anger Management Issues
2017-02-20 15:36:47 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl like i said before, kick his a$$ to the curb! If you dont he will have you so beat down you will think your worth nothing! I'll say it again, "A woman belongs beside a man NOT at his feet!"
2006-10-20 03:06:02 · answer #9 · answered by Lace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no offense but that can be abuse and he may be insecuren of him self so that is what i call angermanagment and verbal abuse
hope that helped!!
2006-10-20 03:01:31 · answer #10 · answered by maya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋