well i had a phone call from a girl after 3 weeks of marrage saying that she is my husband´s gf and that he told her that i was his sister living with him...when i confronted him with that he said he didnt talk to that girl since a year ago and that she said that as she wanted to seperate between us ...as she wanted to marry him...but how could that girl get my name and he hasnt talked with her since one year ...this is so strange...but i forgave him...what do u think...i feel he is cheating on me till now...but i have no physical evidence....what shall i do...i am married now for 2 monthes....
2006-10-20 02:28:26 · 21 answers · asked by caramella 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You said ""I feel like he's cheating on me, but i have no physical evidence" Would it make it easier for you to make a decision? NO!! Simply because you don't know what to do. My question to you is you just found out about this woman? First of all i hold your husband responsible because he slipped up & allowed this woman to his home. You have to evaluate your relationship. From what you've said, it's not much to make out of it. Has your husband been acting differently, or has anything changed? There is more to this story that he is not telling you. I've come to realize at 33, that if a man wants to cheat, he will, however, you have to be excellent at it where it vever comes home or bring me anything home. What you don't know can never hurt you. It doesn't' mean you don't keep your eyes open, at all times.
My advice to you is to look deep inside yourself and examine your situation. I can easily say leave but in reality i am not in your shoes. You need to sit down with your husband and have a real open talk, if not you already started the marriage wrong. Be open minded, honest & very understanding. I am not saying for you to understand his cheating ways, if he is, but get to the roots of the problems.
Always remember, if you don't set parameters, you are giving him carte blanche for him to do it over & over. Remember, people do to us what we allow them to do. Set your rules & show him that you will not tolerate such behavior. Don't ever feel cornered or let your emotions do the thinking for you. Be strong, & make sure YOU are happy! At the end of the day you only have YOU. & don't think you can't do without him because YOU CAN!
Good luck
2006-10-20 03:42:57 · answer #1 · answered by famcreole 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can find out anything you need to know on the internet now. Was there an announcement about your wedding? She could have got your name from his friends, or public record. Don't accuse him of cheating unless you have the evidence first. Trust is an important part of marriage. When old girl can give you some solid proof, then there maybe a problem. Until then, have a very happy marriage. GOOD LUCK!!
2006-10-20 09:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by NIKKI 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't have evidence, you don't have a case. Leave it alone. Take a mental note, and focus on what you want a happy marriage with your husband. I will tell you from a wife that conversate and get advice from other married women. You never leave because a man cheat. Cheating is only sex. Now if it continues, then leave him, not because he cheated, but because he broke the trust you all have, he betrayed you and took your love for granted. It's only been 2 mos of marriage, so he is cleaning out old laundry. Women are evil, and want what you have so believe him, you don't have anything to prove he is a liar. Follow your heart PRAY, and move on with your new husband. You are on the road to a very long "lifetime" relationship that really involves 1 person "God". Without him in the middle, it will never work. Good luck, I will pray for your family
2006-10-20 09:40:50 · answer #3 · answered by sassy lady 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well dear, if he is cheating or if he is going to cheat there is nothing you can do about. She could have got your name from anywhere, unless you really think he is cheating, then I wouldn't ask. Some people have the theory if they are going to get accused then they might as well do it. Just keep an eye open. One more think, if you don't trust him now, I can't imagine you ever will, just keep that in mind, don't be looking for trouble if there isn't any. Good luck!
2006-10-20 12:58:48 · answer #4 · answered by la_southern_femme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH GIRL! This is terrible! You need to go with your gut on this one. This doesn't sound good. Have your husband followed if you need proof, have your friend take a video camera. Or get the girls number from his phone and call her. Sit down and meet with her, she'll give you proof...this sounds all too familiar to me. Like some girl is going to call him out of the blue over a years time and still want him...you need to dig a little further....do some homework and then decide...
2006-10-20 10:00:06 · answer #5 · answered by Big and Rich 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way to clear the air is to discuss it over a quiet dinner. Tell him you know he has a past - but that you are hoping that is where this person (as well as others) stay. Tell him you are going to trust him at his word, but that you will not be harassed by this person.
On the other hand, keep your eyes open for any odd behavior. You do not deserve this and it's better to nip in the butt now!
2006-10-20 09:49:54 · answer #6 · answered by Been there 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot stop someone from doing anything, if that is what they choose to do.
Is it possible that she read your wedding announcement in the newspaper and got your name that way? Some women can be jealous and/or psycho. It may also be that she is unhappy and wants to make you unhappy, too.
Is he attentive to your needs, loving, and a good husband? If so, don't rush to conclusions based on an ex-girlfriend's comments.
2006-10-20 09:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by kaydee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't stop him from cheating if that's what he is going to do. You forgave him because you want to believe him--understandable, but if the evidence is staring you in the face, ask yourself if you want to be asking yourself this same question 5 years from now, or again in the future ...
2006-10-20 09:33:42 · answer #8 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't stop someone from cheating. Seems to me the facts don't add up the same way for each of you. Go with your gut, not your heart. If you don't trust him now, how are you going to feel in 7-10 years?
2006-10-20 09:32:52 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't sound very trustworthy. I don't think you trust him as I wouldn't either. You guys need to have a serious sit down and figure out where to go from here. If it's worth saving or moving on. Don't live your life worried that you're being cheated on! No one deserves that!!!!
2006-10-20 09:36:29 · answer #10 · answered by inlovewow 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋