I had caught my wife cheating. I forgave her. I caught her cheating doing two guys at once. I got mad and went to asian massage "spa" and had two girls at once, at least I used protection. I paid with a credit card and showed her the receipt to make clear I had done it back to her. We talked, I forgave her and thought she was through cheating. Caught her cheating agin with same two guys. I did the Asian Massage thing again. Again showed her the receipt, talked - but this time she told me she was going to continue affairs and wanted an open marrage. So I was hurt and said "ya , whatever" . Well she will talk of what good times she is having with other guys doing stuff with them besides sex like going for lunch. I work long hours while she stays home and watches our son. I am not really wanting to have affairs. Got sick of hearing of her good times and invented me having an affair with a co-worker to maybe see if I could get her jealous and maybe interested in me
2006-10-20 02:45:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My son is severely autistic and I have no one else to watch him. She dropped her career to watch him so that part of the bitterness in our marriage. I do not make much money so cannot afford the cost of the special care he would need from a provider(to watch him minimum $1,200 month from certified caregiver) So I am both stuck and still love wife hoping she ends affairs and we get back to normal .
2006-10-20 02:48:59 · update #1
I know that me going to the Asian massage "spa''s was wrong. I did it as a form of payback and maybe to get her to see how it feels to have somone cheat on her. It obviously did not work. SO I invented having an affair at work, coming home with fake details of doing things with them. She is not showing any overt signs of being jealous so I guess it is not working. I know that it is pathetic... But I really feel stuck...
2006-10-20 03:15:48 · update #2
I think you need to get a divorce, this relationship is NOT healthy and going to just get worse. Think about your son's concept of relationship when he seems mommy and daddy still living together and having 'dates' with other people. GET OUT!
2006-10-20 02:49:21 · answer #1 · answered by Kitten 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Divorce the *****. This is not a marriage. You deserve better and a woman who does something like that in your face has no place with you! Having an affair with a co-worker won't make you feel better. Maybe momentarily, but not as a whole. You'd only be giving her what she has suggested, which is an open marriage.
I'd stop playing games and jeopardizing your own integrity to make someone jealous. Take your son and leave her trashy ***.
2006-10-20 02:52:02 · answer #2 · answered by Big and Rich 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
how about she continue her career and you stay home for a change
if that is why she is so bitter tell her she can o back to work
and you stay when she come home than you can work part time
or full time but different shift
I had to make sacirfice to work near my children school & home
I drop my carreer and a wonderful job, but that what life & children are all about, Thank god for the sacrifice that I made
God was able to give me much more
You two need to talk at the moment both of you need counsoling
Good LUCK
2006-10-20 03:01:36 · answer #3 · answered by waiting for baby 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your marriage is just sad. Get the divorce already. You're not into having affairs but you've had several already? Yeah, right. Your wife wants an open marriage so end it. But I must say you both sound right for each other - awful!
2006-10-20 02:49:34 · answer #4 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Looks like your ****** literally. She is not going to get jealous she has her bitches to go to. So therefore she will not get jealous..If I were you I would get rid of the ***** and find help somewhere for your son. If you live in the states then that is the easy part. There are programs for this sort of thing.
2006-10-20 02:53:42 · answer #5 · answered by omvg1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you don't want a open married,tell she to stop sleeping around and if she don't than you have a choice to make ,leave her are except it.
2006-10-20 02:52:37 · answer #6 · answered by ladybug 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm, get out before you get some serious STD.
2006-10-20 02:53:32 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥♥GODDESS♥♥♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋