What if you know that it's the right person... and yet, both of you are planning to go to grad school, etc... is this impractical, or is it perfectly okay to do as long as our relationship remains strong? Thanks.
2006-10-20 02:00:32 · 12 answers · asked by reba 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know a lot of people that got married in college, and I also know a lot of people who decided to wait until they graduated. I can tell you that it doesn' tmatter. In fact, the ones who waited til they graduated wish they had done it earlier and admit they only waited because it made their parents happier. Some people are under the impression that a marriage will distract you from your studies, but that is not true. It totally depends on the individual couple. If you feel like you can't have a relationship and do schoolwork, then don't do it. If you are able to have a life outside of schoolwork, then getting married or engaged is not impractical.
2006-10-20 02:06:27 · answer #1 · answered by iloveeeyore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll be the dissenting voice here.
Dating is easy in college. It's suspended reality. All you have to do is worry about going to class and then entertaining yourself at night and on the weekends.
When I was in college, I watched lots of my friends get engaged and then get married immediately after graduation. I went to eight weddings that summer. Guess what? Only one marriage made it ten years. And these were all level-headed people--not a freak in the bunch.
So what happened? It's simple: You will change more in the five years after leaving school than you will for the rest of your life. Even though you believe you know yourself, you really don't. It takes the world of work and the uncertainty of supporting yourself to learn what you're made of. And, by extension, what your other half is made of. Way too many times, a couple grows in different directions after school, chiefly because their lives take different paths. So while this guy seems perfect for you now, just remember that he could be an utterly different person at the age of 27, when you're suddenly paying a mortgage, having to establish a household, even raising a kid or two.
So my advice is to wait. If he is truly perfect for you in a few years, then you have lost nothing.
2006-10-20 11:52:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No, it's not impractical at all. If you're in love, it's perfectly acceptable to prove your love by getting engaged. I applaud anyone ready to take that step. That shows real commitment! If you're together, and your intentions are strong, then let them remain strong with the plan to marry.
2006-10-20 09:03:24 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both planning on going to grad school then you should be emotionally secure enough to decide this for yoursleves instead of taking advice from strangers.
This is between the two of you and your goals. If you both intend on more education then you simply have to have a financial plan that will work. Additonally you have to be willing to support each other with the long hours involved with your goals.
2006-10-20 09:04:17 · answer #4 · answered by OleMarbleEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So long as there is the understanding that the marriage is gonna wait until you both graduate, there shouldnt be a problem.
2006-10-20 09:03:43 · answer #5 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't see the problem.
engagements can get broken,
it's not permanent.
i don't see how it could be impractical.
i mean what does that even mean to you.
are you wondering if it's reasonable to plan marriage so far in the future? is that the issue? are you going to get engaged without setting a date? that seems reasonable to me. why not. it's a free country.
2006-10-20 09:03:57 · answer #6 · answered by Sufi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
congratulations... getting engaged is wonderful but I would truly wait to settle down and get married. If your relationship is strong it will endure the wait. Get your education and career in order first.. it will be worth it.
2006-10-20 09:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by gotcookies? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine. I got engaged while my husband was in his 2nd year of college, we got married the 3rd year and had a baby the 4th! You can do it.
2006-10-20 09:18:50 · answer #8 · answered by It's a secret 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hold off on the ring thing, when your through school if you feel the same about each other, then give rings and make plans..thill then, enjoy being young
2006-10-20 09:04:07 · answer #9 · answered by bluelitttt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it sounds perfectly fine to me......If you two are open, honest and ready for a commitment.....why not? gor for it girl. good luck
2006-10-20 09:03:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋