and at what point would you leave?
2006-10-20 02:47:29 · 20 answers · asked by Pook 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
a broken jaw
That is when I left
2006-10-20 02:48:34 · answer #1 · answered by Judy the Wench 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Having been there twice, once for 2-3 years and the other for 6 months .... the minute he or she lays a hand on me in anger, that person has to know not to do it again. Unfortuntaley the statistics are pretty right on, if they do it once they will do it again and in most cases it gets more violent with each occassion.
The second 'abusive' relationship I got into sent me to the emergency room with 41 brusies, crushed bone in my hand and lumps on my head. He on the other hand said 'if I really wanted to hurt you, I could have'. Well, even though it was only the second time, I was not waiting around for a third.
There is absolutely no reason for physical violence. So even if it seems minor now, please consider the future and whether you want to be treated like a punching bag when the other person gets the whim.
Even though I got away from this guy, he still called for months and instead of hitting or slapping on me, he started yelling and screaming on the phone.... it's all abuse in my book ,and I for one will not tolerate it.
good luck and be very careful. There are people out there that don't have anger issues.
2006-10-20 09:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd leave the first time that he put his hands on me in a nonloving or violent manner. I was young and stupid once and put up with 4 years of abuse. There are usually warning signs though. First it was verbal abuse, mental abuse and being a control-freak.It didn't take long to escalate to violence. Any think physical, verbal or mental, that makes you feel like less than a person is unacceptable. Thinking back it didn't hurt near as bad to get a knee to the forehead, or a punch in the face as all the cruel words that he said. The scars from that lasted alot longer. I was lucky enough to get myself out of that situation before it was too late. I swallowed 180 prescription pills one night, once I came out of the coma, I realized that I had to flee. That's what I did. My life has improved greatly, I got my self esteem and self respect back, now I am married to the most gentle loving man ever and have 2 beautiful children and another on the way. Life couldn't be better.
2006-10-20 09:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by firefly2007 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything that seems dangerous to you that might cause physical harm is abuse. Don't stay with someone that will hurt you.
It doesn't get better it always gets worse.
They need help and you are not the person that can help them.
Stay clear . I know it might hurt to leave the relationship but it will hurt more later believe me.
SunShine
2006-10-20 09:52:24 · answer #4 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you flinch when he or anyone else makes a sudden move close to you? If they hit you once they will hit you twice. The first thing you should do is file charges. Then you can leave. If you are unwilling to file charges then maybe your accusation isn't as strong as you imply. If they are then you shouldn't be on answers asking this question ; you should be busy packing.
2006-10-20 10:43:12 · answer #5 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would leave 5 minutes after he hit me ...The 1 st minute I would be in shock the next 2 I would pick up somethinng and knock the hell out of him the last 2 gather my keys purse and be out the door . I have been there ..Take care
2006-10-20 10:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by southernn_sky_2020 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
any sort of negative aggressive physical contact. Pushing, hitting, shaking, smacking etc. Get out the first time it happens. If it happens once, it'll happen again and it'll just keep getting worse and you'll end up with a broken jaw like your first answerer. Or worse.
2006-10-20 09:51:16 · answer #7 · answered by Kitten 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
physical abuse is any form of hitting, smacking, kicking, biting, ect that is unwanted. if this is a young relationship the abuse will only get more violent as time passes. leave now honey
2006-10-20 09:51:08 · answer #8 · answered by racer 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Anything that inflicts unwanted pain. Leave as soon as it happens unless you want to live in a situation like this. It will not get better and will get worse as time goes by. He will know he has control over you because you stay.
2006-10-20 09:51:07 · answer #9 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Physical abuse is having no respect or valuing the person you supposed to love as human being
2006-10-20 09:52:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Any physical harm to you. I would leave before it gets worse honey! Has he done physical abuse to you? I would be careful before he thinks that he can push you around and starts hitting, slapping, ect. harder.
2006-10-20 10:40:02 · answer #11 · answered by xoLoveMaexo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋