My husband filed for divorce 1 month ago. He left for Australia for a "job" on 10/10/06 he was off of the plane in Melbourne not 3 hrs and called me begging for money for a return ticket. I said no way. Somehow he made it back home on 10/16/06. I found out 2 days ago he has been having an affair, for a year, with a woman he met on the internet. She has been over here on several occasions. Supposedly she is wealthy. She had paid for him a 1 way ticket there and I dont know what happened to make him want to come home. He told me that the "job" would pay well and my four year old son and I would be very well taken care of!! What a sponge and a liar! I also found out my ex-mother- in- law knew about this and never told me! Now, she calls our mutual friends and asks them if I am being a good mother and if I'm keeping my house clean! Someone please advise!
2006-10-20 03:10:31 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he's a real schmuck! In the circumstances, I'm surprised any of your "mutual" friends are talking to him, let alone his mother! However, you must know which friends she is talking to in order to have this information. Therefore, I would suggest that you ask these friends to tell her, next time she calls them, that it's really not on for her to use them as a go-between, and that if she wants to know how her grandchildren are, then to phone you to find out.
2006-10-20 03:16:15 · answer #1 · answered by Colin S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is Scum!!And also has a lot of nerve calling you for money too come back..You're a smart woman too NOT have sent him any money..lol
I would pick up the phone and call my ex-mother in law ONE TIME ONLY and in the nicest way, (make sure It's nice because you never know when she might be recording you, pays too be careful these days if your divorce isn't final yet) explain too her that It's none of her business if my house is clean, and that YOU are a better parent too the kids then her son is becasue at least you didn't cheat ! Your true friends will tell your mother-in-law too mind her own business, and the ones that don't, I wouldn't let it stress me out. She will probably stop once she sees that you really don't care what she ask or says about you.
2006-10-20 04:20:19 · answer #2 · answered by Rose T 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move away or cut all contact with them other than what you feel you must for your kid sake. Tell them to keep there nose out of what is no longer there business. Tell every one the Truth as you see it and laugh at him he was a very stupid guy and really should get what is coming to him. Make him pay as much child support as you can get the lawyers involved and sue the little sod.
Tell your kid what and why your husband has done what he has done and never ever take him back not even once.
Your ex mother in law has no right to do what she is doing given for how long she knew about what was going on. She is trying to use the kid as a weapon against you that is very wrong.
Get over the cheating sod and move on Good luck.
2006-10-20 04:00:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ben 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good for you in saying "no" to the money he was begging for.
i bet he was thinking he would get his hands on this womans fortune and send some you and your sons way.. I bet he got there and found out she was also married. funny how that happens, eh?
i dont know what you should do, but NEVER take him back. even if he cries.. begs, pleads.. NEVER because he can and probably WILL do it again.
As for the mother, honestly, who CARES if the house is clean? (as long as you dont pick up some infectious and fatal disease!) get your friends to tell her that. it's time with the kids and being there for them (him) that's really important especially since the father is now apart from the family unit.
or let the kid(s) phone her once a week (if there is a decent relationship) or draw a picture to send to her. Im sure she's just concerned for the KIDS and her son. Dont cut her out because you are her arent getting along (or that she's a bastard, which is kinda how i feel). Keep some kind of bond between them, and for your sanity, stay out of it! It's wrong to cut ppl out of the kids life when it primarily involves the adults. its like the father not being there for the kids cause they live with you and he cant distinguish them from you. the kids suffer, and it's not fair.
Although I have a strong bond with my ex mom in law, I would have been VERY hurt if she kept that kinda thing from me, but I would NEVER not let my daughter see her regularly.. even if it WAS the hardest thing I had to do.. at least my daughter benifits from the relationship and knowledge grandma has to pass on..
2006-10-20 03:25:05 · answer #4 · answered by senacia 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to back off or you will take legal action. She is finding out what kind of mother you are so she can decide whether or not to help her son take you to court for custody.
Keep a journal of what is going on, including the proof you have that he was cheating on you while you were married.
You can usually get a free consult with a lawyer or legal aid to find out what your options are regarding the meddling ex mother in law.
Let her know that their are friends telling you that she asking questions about you, but, don't tell her who is telling you and maybe she will stop asking "friends" about you because she won't be sure who is telling you this stuff.
If you can, contact the woman in Australia and see if she will talk to you or why he wanted to come back home
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2016-02-12 06:00:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a cad... and if anybody wonders why he's like that, purely inspect the mummy. She has in all probability spoiled him on the grounds that he became an toddler. Having suggested all of that, you are able to no longer administration what your ex-husband and his mom are going to do. All you are able to administration is the style you're looking after your self, your son and your place. you will could deal along with your daughter's father yet do no longer enable him administration what happens. you identify what you're willilng to do and communicate approximately, no longer the rest. don't get into exchanges with the mummy. you are able to no longer win there. to boot, the fewer you communicate along with her and refuse to react to her strikes the greater annoyed she would have the ability to become. ultimately, watch your 'friends.' no longer all of them would be on your edge and a few will participate interior the gruesome gossip which will actual come out. How they cope with you and this undertaking will inform you plenty approximately what style of friends they're. sturdy luck with this.
2016-10-02 12:06:47 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the people she is talking to are your friends they won't say anything about how you are keeping house. Don't worry about the affair he was having he's your EX now so it doesn't matter. Go to Friend Of The Court and sue him for child support, and let him know when he come to see his kid you are not part of the package. However, don't say anything bad about him around your son. As your son gets older he will learn how much of a jerk his father is from his actions not from something you said about him.
2006-10-20 03:39:49 · answer #8 · answered by Daddy Big Dawg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boy - they sound like a couple of winners! Change your phone # to unlisted - or block their calls. You don't need this in your life. If necessary get a restraining order against BOTH of them. And if the "mutual friends" are giving her information, then dump them. You need to start a whole new life, because it doesn't sound like this is going to get any better.
And you don't want your MIL influencing your son in any way. Sounds like she would be asking him things that she shouldn't, or telling him things that she shouldn't. If she would withhold information about your husband, then I wouldn't trust her as far as I could throw her.
Being a grandparent is a privilege, not a right, and she hasn't earned that privilege.
2006-10-20 03:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by theophilus 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
TAKE NO NOTICE, if she feels the need to question your friends, they will soon get fed up with her asking them. As long as you know you are a good mother and your children are clean, then you have nothing to worry about. If your house gets dirty that's your prerogative. The nosey cow, just remind her she is your ex mother in law and you want nothing more to do with her and that she needs to mind her own business, and as for you ex husband, I would tell him to kiss your a*rse, and piss off.
I wish you all the best.
2006-10-20 11:19:49 · answer #10 · answered by bizzybee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋