Marriage & Divorce - 20 October 2006

We fight everyday. It hasn't gotten phsical yet, but he did bump into me afer a fight this week. I told him this was unacceptable and to apologize (later that day). He is verbally abusive and disrespects me infront of people. I think he puts me down to make him feel good about himself. We've to sessions before, and things were good for a while. I think he doesn't want to go now because he will be told that he is wrong. It doesn't matter when I tell him, but for someone else to tell him.. I don't know. He wont like it. Why doesn't he want to help our problem? I went to see our counsler last week, and he said he can MAKE my husband come in, but I'm in the military and it's on base, and I dont want all of that to happen. I just got to this base and I don't want this much bad attention. But he doesn't want to go? I don't want to tell him that he can be made to go. what to do?

2006-10-20 14:22:49 · 12 answers · asked by ur a Dee Dee Dee 5

2006-10-20 14:19:57 · 27 answers · asked by Nandini S 2

My ex spouse and I get along pretty good. But we both are having financial problems. He needs a roommate and I need to not pay so much rent. We share a 8 year old daughter. Have you ever heard of ex spouses living together. We have only been separated for 6 months.

2006-10-20 14:06:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-20 14:05:59 · 21 answers · asked by aine2u 3

Me and my husband have been together for 6 years. We got married at the ages of 19, and 22. We have 2 kids together, and I have 2 from a previous relationship. We just purchased our first home two years ago, and it seems like thats when everything took a turn for the worse. He has turned so nasty and disrespectul towards me. I often find myself asking him more than twice everytime I want to have sex to please me. Then it still does not happen. Then when we do get intimate, its straight to the point. No 4 play or nothing. Everything he says to me is so negative and nasty. Deep down inside I know I deserve better, but he's my 1st husband and I really love him. Then on the other hand I take care of our 4 boys, the house needs, and work 40hrs a week. All he does is pay half of all the bills and run the streets all the time. He has told me he does'nt have to do nothing for me cause I am grown. He only has to take care of him and his kids. I know he's young, but everything use to be perfect.

2006-10-20 14:04:08 · 33 answers · asked by Sexy Seductive T 2

2006-10-20 14:00:11 · 13 answers · asked by a m 1

married 24 yrs now seperated he cheated has since moved in with her shes 21 he is 42.he has moved on like i never exsisted....we have 4 children together one of which is 1 yr younger then his girlfriend....we havnt talked at all about anything in months ...he comes and gets the kids when he wants i never did the visitation thing more so for my kids then for him i wanted them to see him when he could manage it......im just at a loss for how i go on when i dont even know how this happened i thought us happy and said this to him as well he said we wedre i asked then what happened he says i dont know.......thats why i ask this question

2006-10-20 13:59:04 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

To tell your 9 & 11 year old children that their parents are divorcing? Does anyone have any experience with children around these ages or if you were one, any advice or suggestions would be very much appreciated. Thanks.

2006-10-20 13:57:38 · 9 answers · asked by Completly in love... 2

I just got over my ex-wife and am glad that its over. She feels that the divorce was finally settled on "her terms." She says that she wants to be friends for the kids, but since she played games before and made me jealous and strung me along for a while, I don't trust her as far as I can throw her. It feels like she comes over just to in some sick twisted way to shove her life in my face and it's the same old stuff "Im a good cook and I work now". And, I'm feeling like "WhOOPTY DOODA" She came over while I wasn't home, and cleaned my kitchen and gave me an old POS sweatshirt because she felt like I might need one. What do y ou think this woman is trying to do?

2006-10-20 13:57:36 · 7 answers · asked by Jeff W 3

My husband literally deployed earlier this afternoon. I know that I will need to be a big support for him and I will, but I'm having a hard time with this right after he is gone feeling. I feel kind of numb like he could walk through the door at any moment. Have any of you gone through the same thing and how do you cope with the feelings? I love my husband so much and I am willing to do anything for him. We have a 7 mth. old that I want to remember him. What can I do support him and be a good mom to my son?

2006-10-20 13:50:12 · 7 answers · asked by d4cav_dragoons_wife84 3

about her well-being, not expecting anything in return, especially if he married her and knows now she has nobody to turn to in case she needs? Are there guys who would give their lives for their wives, girlfriends and not abandon them just trying to control them if they don't go back to them?
Do you think it is wrong to expect a guy to treat a lady with respect and as a lady, especially if this guy is her husband?
I had to come back to my country because my American husband would behave in a very bad way. I am happier now, but I can not believe he completely abandoned me, he never sends any help to me anymore and he told me that he were to choose between his daughter and me he would choose his daugther. I left everything in here to follow him but I could not stand living with him in the USA + his debths that he hid from me. He says he is a Christian but a real Christian would not do that. Do you agree that a Christian wouldn't do that? He distorts God and Christianity.

2006-10-20 13:45:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

just wondering

2006-10-20 13:40:29 · 12 answers · asked by super girl 3

The first time I married I just turned 18 and that didnt last very long thank God we had no kids from that union. He was a mommy's boy. The second time I married to my kids father he left me for another woman, a much older woman older than he and I. Who knows maybe he had a mother fixation. I did marry again but not until 15 years later and he was killed by a drunk driver.

I have been told by family and friends that maybe I was never meant to be married, I thought thats depressing, alone forever. Do I kill my self now or later...just kidding. I just find it hard to believe that I will never find that right person, the one meant for me. I don't know, who knows maybe he is out there someone where.

2006-10-20 13:26:13 · 40 answers · asked by Anonymous

2006-10-20 13:22:52 · 9 answers · asked by Gary 2

my wife who has filed divorce is real nice and sweet to me still, but she wont reconcile with me.

2006-10-20 13:20:38 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

if he told you about his fantasy such as he wants you to behave like a dog tongith, will you do it?

2006-10-20 13:07:41 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with this man for 35 years and no longer love him. I want to live on my own and I so yearn for solitude.

2006-10-20 13:02:39 · 36 answers · asked by linda b 2

Ive been divorced from his father 18 yrs...wtf...lol

2006-10-20 13:00:21 · 6 answers · asked by dreamon1star 1

My heart says go with it, but my mind says I should slow down. What do you think?

2006-10-20 12:34:20 · 23 answers · asked by DeniseM 2

2006-10-20 12:17:54 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has lied to me about different things, when angry he yells, will curse at me, will tell me to shut up, and he has thrown things. Typically when these things happen I say to him what are we doing? Why don’t we just separate? and “Do you feel in your heart that this relationship is not going to work in the future?
I want him to respect me and I wonder if part of the reason he doesn’t respect me is because I talk like this? If I talk like the relationship is not going to work out, then would he just choose not to respect me? It feels like a vicious circle, he disrespects me in anger and I talk like we are not going to work out. Will someone choose not to respect you if your telling them the relationship is not going to work out? Any advise?

2006-10-20 12:10:23 · 24 answers · asked by ilih2006 1

I love my husband ...I know ya m8ight think im a cheater...but GOD>>>I FEEL SO MUCH FOR BOTH...fyi...I havent cheated....just need a lil input

2006-10-20 12:09:56 · 15 answers · asked by dreamon1star 1

OK, so I have been with my fiance for four years now, an I totally love him, but I can't help but think about other guys. I love sex and I catch myself having bad thoughts about guys that I don't even know but think they're attractive? Am I a bad person?

2006-10-20 12:07:23 · 10 answers · asked by Ali 1

and u loved him with all your hart.and u know he loved u to but did not konw if he would wont to get marred a gen. cus he has allread ben mared before to someone he did not need to marry.she was not four him. and im not sating im shour i four him but i can fill it u know what i meen?well what im trying to get at here is how will i know/ will i ever know?

2006-10-20 12:03:09 · 10 answers · asked by AJ 1

lu mwark.call u tmrow. is he having an affair. sadly he deny

2006-10-20 11:54:55 · 31 answers · asked by Ah Ngeok 1

i have a dillema...my husband has been working very hard lately and plays basketball most of the weekafter work( he is in a league) so therefore he is very tired when he comes home. it has been two weeks we havent had sex and he is so tired that he doses off in bed. i know he is not cheating on me so it is not even an issue and couple of days ago my monther came to visit us from over seas get me all and i think he does feel weird having sex under the same roof as her. but i need it. everytime i try to pursue it he seems to shy off or sth. well one time when we were arguing i did tell him that he doesnt get me excited in bed anymore as much. honestly i didnt really mean it and after words i told him that and we had sex and it was great. i am not sure if this is the issue? i know he loves me so so so much and he doesnt mess around and cheat he is very devoted to me . how do i resolve this? i dont want him to feel pressured in bed with me cuz i thinnk he is afraid to disappoint me.

2006-10-20 11:45:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

i posted earlier. i had sex twice with a married man. best i've ever had. i basically told him no more, i was done, and as soon as i said that, now he wnts to meet for lunch and"talk". should i just straight say no(yes) or raise the bar and suggest something i know he wont do, for kicks?

2006-10-20 11:44:36 · 18 answers · asked by sangellai 1

Ok my (older) brother is getting a divorce obviously he cheated on his wife........so she is trying to find proof of it to take over his assets which in his case is the millions dollar mansion, his to personal company's and as well as his 2 cars.

the only proof she can get a hold of.... to what my brother says is the e-mails he kept receiving from the other in his yahoo account now he wants me to figure out how to destroy the account not only does he want to get rid of the mssg's but also the account that way there isnt a trace of his bad deed.

thing is I'm not the computer wiz he would like me to be so Im not really sure if i can even get rid of the account.........can someone plz help me I'ts urgent.

how do i delete the yahoo account?

2006-10-20 11:29:36 · 4 answers · asked by missme 2

The husband works 60-70 hours a week gone 14 hrs a day shift is 6pm-6am. You are married with two kids wife stays at home you live off one income but live comfortably husband makes good money. The wife and kids like getting out of the house not necessarily to spend money but to not be bored. Husband comes home sleeps 7 hours gets up and leaves again for work an hour later. On days off husband wants to either stay at home and sleep or go hunting etc. Then at night when wife is tired and wanting husband to go to bed with her the kids are a sleep but so is he at 7pm. Then he wakes up at 10pm has you then gets on the computer for 2-3 hours at a time while your in bed and he could be snuggling but says he is wide awake. Then after playing on the comp. he might sleep with you for 3hours then gets up and watches tv for 3-4 hours then when everyone else gets up he goes back to sleep. The kids miss their dad and wife wants attention but he is to tired. Someone I know goes through this.

2006-10-20 11:28:58 · 17 answers · asked by 2wild4u 3

I have known my husband for 2 years. We had an arguement recently. He made a comment I didn't like therefor I swore at him. Then he shouted at me and swore back telling me all those hurtful things and eventually slapped me in the face by a pillow. I was shocked and devasted and crushed. For I thought he is not the type. I thought he isn't an emotional abuser. I feel so much hurt as if I don't know him anymore. We have a beautiful loving relationship. What shall I do? Shall I forgive him and believe him when he says that he will never do it again? I feel so scared.

2006-10-20 11:22:48 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous