The husband works 60-70 hours a week gone 14 hrs a day shift is 6pm-6am. You are married with two kids wife stays at home you live off one income but live comfortably husband makes good money. The wife and kids like getting out of the house not necessarily to spend money but to not be bored. Husband comes home sleeps 7 hours gets up and leaves again for work an hour later. On days off husband wants to either stay at home and sleep or go hunting etc. Then at night when wife is tired and wanting husband to go to bed with her the kids are a sleep but so is he at 7pm. Then he wakes up at 10pm has you then gets on the computer for 2-3 hours at a time while your in bed and he could be snuggling but says he is wide awake. Then after playing on the comp. he might sleep with you for 3hours then gets up and watches tv for 3-4 hours then when everyone else gets up he goes back to sleep. The kids miss their dad and wife wants attention but he is to tired. Someone I know goes through this.
2006-10-20 11:28:58 · 17 answers · asked by 2wild4u 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's a crummy situation all around.
Does she tell him how she feels? If he gives her the whole "I'm working hard for you guys and you don't appreciate it" thing, then he's a loser.
Men need to realize that bringing home a paycheck isn't all that's necessary to be a father/husband.
If that were my husband, I'd be satisfied if he got a job with better hours with less pay so he could spend more time with me and the kids.
2006-10-20 11:32:04 · answer #1 · answered by AnswerMom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sounds more like a single mother with a room mate. Not my idea of a marriage. The work I can understand and him being tired on work days but if he can not make time for his family on days off then I would be thinking of walking. The wife needs to have a heart to heartwith hubby and lay down some ultimatiums. Counselling may help but Daddy needs to put wife and kids in top place and grow up!
2006-10-20 11:36:41 · answer #2 · answered by buffybot67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Although he does have a busy schedule at work, it sounds more like their problems comes from something else. If he chooses to be on the computer or watch t.v instead of snuggling with is wife or playing with his children - this is more then just a busy work schedule. Somewhere they are not connecting as a couple. There relationship EMOTIONALLY is dead. The sad thing is, unless they do something about it , it will only get worse.
Maybe she should have a talk with him, and ask him why he doesn't want to spend time with the family. Why he feels so disconnect from them, and chooses to spend his free time on other things. I don't know, but it's a sad situation...best of luck to them.
2006-10-20 12:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by Cjs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I live your story, except my husband stays up with me at night until the kids are in bed. We watch a couple hours of TV together and go to bed together. Hes up at the crack of dawn seems like. BUT....you know what, I think God that I have someone who takes care of me and my kids no questions asked. We would not have the things that we have now, not just materialistic, if it were not for the way things were. We just take it one day at a time. It can be frustrating, but it is what it is. And we never take what we DO have together for granted.
2006-10-20 11:35:56 · answer #4 · answered by Amber L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know about the computer and the TV. my husband tries to do the same. i think the cable should be terned off and the computer shot down. i work so douse he his kids were here for the summer.its hard to work and have a family. they need to sit down and talk, weather he wants to or not. some guys need to realize they have a family and needs to pay attention to them as well not just money. money don't make a family its love.
2006-10-20 11:54:38 · answer #5 · answered by merri s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW, that's not much of a marriage! I know finding work and raising kids on 1 income is tough, but sounds like he needs to look for another job and review his priorities.
2006-10-20 11:33:28 · answer #6 · answered by who-wants-to-know 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think hubby needs to pay more attention to the family. my other half is gone for 21 home for 7. in those 7 days he has to spend time with me, my kids his kids, do things around house etc. and no matter what he always finds to cuddle up with me and make us feel important.
2006-10-20 11:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by thepainter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure you all go on at least one wonderful week long vacation trip each year to make up for the time you don't see each other thru the year. It is something you all can think about until you go on the vacation.
2006-10-20 11:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Priorities are essential; what's more important to you; for children and for husband? Bottom line, if this dosent work change it; if nothing changes nothing changes! If the marriage fails, everyone is unhappy or children grow without a father in their life who wins?
2006-10-20 11:33:35 · answer #9 · answered by Lasr Lars 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
working long hours is hard..i know i work 7p-7a as a nurse and your sleep schedules are different....thats why he staying up all night and not wanting to cuddle or whatever.... maybe you need to see if he can cut back at work and you get a part time job or something....this is a hard situation
2006-10-20 12:10:30 · answer #10 · answered by sjeboyce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋