2006-10-20 14:19:57 · 27 answers · asked by Nandini S 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if i had a husband i'd be gay too........
2006-10-20 14:22:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Well, I guess it depends on if you knew this going into the relationship. Personally, I don't think that I could get turned on by my husband if he were interested in being with a guy...something about it is just a turn off for me. Then again, some women are okay with this sort of thing (I have a friend who is bi and so is her husband)...so, I guess it's a personal decision. And if you DIDN'T know this going in, I think that it constitutes a much bigger problem...
2006-10-20 21:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by missapparition 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people are like that not because they want but because they have problems or don't know how to deal with their own sexuality. The first reaction should be to leave him but you have to be sure. Some men look but aren't, others are but don't look, hard thing to do. Some women put up with their gay husbands because they can control themselves and remain faithful to her even though still a gay. It depends on the love you feel for him and
how honest he is with you. Otherwise, get going and leave him behind, it is hard to change a gay into a straight guy.
2006-10-20 21:25:41 · answer #3 · answered by blueyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a heart breaking question. I can only tell you what makes sense to me, an unbiased ear. I could not stay in a relationship where infidelity is an issue. Whether gay or hetero, you have a no win situation with this man. I say get out now and start the healing process for yourself asap. Hopefully there are no children involved. Even so, this situation is not healthy for them. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-20 21:28:55 · answer #4 · answered by tony c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was bi I would be fine with it. Supportive even. I would also tell him to fulfil a certian fantasy already!!!
If he was gay,I would ask how long has he known & what made him decide that he really is. I would also make sure he's really gay. If he is, tell him that theres no point in being together anymore, get a divorce, & make sure to still go out & have fun with him alot!!! I would also start thinking of excuses to tell my parents!!!
2006-10-20 21:27:33 · answer #5 · answered by prepishippie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he was a gay then 4give him becoz he hve started a new life with u. But if he is a gay, then talk 2 him. Why he go 4 other person n try 2 resolve dis problem. Try 2 talk 2 ur trustworthy ones.
2006-10-20 23:10:40 · answer #6 · answered by Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he were bi I would keep an open mind because you can enjoy in the fantasy of most women to have 2 men at the same time. If he were gay, there is noway you could improve your relationship and just move on.
2006-10-20 21:22:44 · answer #7 · answered by Lady 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Mine is bi and so am i. It's who he is, there is no reaction. I love him for who he is and respect him for being honest. Though, this doesnt give him the go ahead to cheat with another man.
2006-10-21 08:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by denise b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dear nandu,
the problem you should address is that your husband is seeking sex other than you. This issue you need to address than worrying about if your husband is d-i-g-g-i-n-g from back (gay) and front (bi)
if you accept him seeking sex outside, than why you bother where he does ?
2006-10-21 00:47:45 · answer #9 · answered by RASUNA 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm pretty sure i would have figured that one out, before we got married, but if i didn't , then i would feel hurt and betrayed, not even because he was gay, but because he lied, and didn't confide in me before marriage. i would of course get a divorce, and start over, the next one better not even cross his legs, or he's out.
2006-10-23 01:27:07 · answer #10 · answered by cee jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends. If he was hiding it from me and sleeping around, I'd be concerned about his health and mine, and I would be upset--though I would understand that he was probably afraid to tell me. If he was honest with me, I'd try to be understanding and though I would want a divorce, for both our sakes, I would like to remain friends.
2006-10-20 21:25:16 · answer #11 · answered by grrluknow 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋