i posted earlier. i had sex twice with a married man. best i've ever had. i basically told him no more, i was done, and as soon as i said that, now he wnts to meet for lunch and"talk". should i just straight say no(yes) or raise the bar and suggest something i know he wont do, for kicks?
2006-10-20 11:44:36 · 18 answers · asked by sangellai 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Say No and mean it.
2006-10-20 11:47:10 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should STOP altogether! You shouldn't have had sex with a married man in the first place. This is not a game, and you need to think about what you are doing. If you have ANY heart you would not do something that would break a family up. It may seem fine and dandy to you, but there is more involved, and many people can be hurt because of what you are doing. Sure the husband is in the wrong also, but just because he is being disrespectful and unfaithful to his wife doesn't mean you should help him do it. Why support something like that - If he doesn't respect his wife, he sure in the heck isn't going to respect a women that just hops into bed with him.
Do you not value yourself more then that? Tell him it's over, and don't play the games anymore. Cut off ALL conversations, and stay away from him.
2006-10-20 19:38:46 · answer #2 · answered by Cjs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are truly done then be done. No more phone calls, lunches, dinners, emails...etc.. You stated the sex was the best you ever had...well let me let you in on something....Husbands, and attached lovers (CHEATERS) always go way out to explore different positions of sex are should I say fantasy love, be gentle, and tell you the things to keep you coming back for more....Basically he's using you--your body... Do you think he is going to stop with just you. NO NO NO. After all he is a married man. He has a wife, and chics on the side. Now how do you think you fare.
2006-10-20 18:54:20 · answer #3 · answered by happy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are completely bored and absolutely have nothing else to do with your life right now, then go ahead and "raise the bar just for kicks." But remember that thing called 'karma' ... what goes around comes around. So, beware about someone in the future doing something to you, "just for kicks." Honestly, if I were you, I'd just drop the whole thing. After all, what are you really gonna get that you haven't already gotten from him? He's married ... put yourself in his wife's shoes, and that should clue you in as to what to do with the situation.
2006-10-20 18:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by J C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just say no. Most married men wont leave their wifes for anyone. So the sex you guys have is all it will ever be.... just sex. I think you deserve to have a man who will put you first. Think about it you wil be the one who will end up with the short end of the stick later on.
2006-10-20 18:52:19 · answer #5 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't have done it in the first place....youre no better than he is just becuase of the simple fact you knew he was married. Do you not have a concious? I hope it all comes back to you when you decide to get married.
2006-10-20 18:59:58 · answer #6 · answered by Amanda T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to him that you made a mistake and that you don't want to continue making the same mistake or hurting anyone. Imagine if that was you when you get married. What would you want the other girl to do with your husband?
2006-10-20 18:58:56 · answer #7 · answered by shamrock421sd 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your worth more than that every women deserves to be number 1 in their mans life say no go out meet a single man good luck hun
2006-10-20 18:47:58 · answer #8 · answered by kitten6444 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure have him shave his legs hell why not have him shave everything and then dress in a little catholic school out fit and tell him to go tell his wife that he needs more to life.
Or something equally stupid.
But just walk away and leave him looking stupid.
2006-10-20 19:17:12 · answer #9 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't play with him. I mean don't play at all with him or your own life and happiness. You know what the long run holds so give it up and look for something that will really work for you. You deserve it
2006-10-20 20:22:17 · answer #10 · answered by heyrobo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
here's a thought to how to be strong enough to say no. image being in love with with your husband and finding out there's a girl doing your man. what comes around goes around
2006-10-20 20:00:15 · answer #11 · answered by kerik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋