My husband literally deployed earlier this afternoon. I know that I will need to be a big support for him and I will, but I'm having a hard time with this right after he is gone feeling. I feel kind of numb like he could walk through the door at any moment. Have any of you gone through the same thing and how do you cope with the feelings? I love my husband so much and I am willing to do anything for him. We have a 7 mth. old that I want to remember him. What can I do support him and be a good mom to my son?
2006-10-20 13:50:12 · 7 answers · asked by d4cav_dragoons_wife84 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my husband has been gone for 10 months now. he really enjoys videos of the family. and take lots of pictures. send him emails every day even if he cant check his mail that often. send lots of care packages. and be sure to take care of yourself also. and when you talk to him, dont complain about being lonely or act stressed out. let him know you are on top of things back home and he doesnt have to worry about the bills or car upkeep, things of that nature. find a support group, maybe a play group for your son. show your son pics and videos of daddy every day. good luck, God bless.
2006-10-20 13:58:28 · answer #1 · answered by melinda 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi. My husband is in the army, he deployed 4 months ago.We have a daughter that is 5 months and a 5 year old son. First off, this is going to be one of the hardest things you two will ever go through together.Im not sure the branch hes in or his MOS but my husband cannot call often. The minutes on the phone card are very expensive and he usually is working 18hr days. Your husband may be exausted, not feel like talking, or simply can't call..and as a military wife it is your job to suck it up. I get really upset when i dont hear from jake(my hub) Sometimes anger, or plain sadness. I go and cry when i need too, away from anybody.When we do talk, i dont bring up the stressful stuff. Because he cant do anything about it and its only going to make him feel helpless.Be there for him, take care of your baby and miss him. I miss jake so badly. The numb will go away about the 2-3 month hes been gone.thats when you may be a mess, have friends/family around to help you cope. When jake left, i put pictures everywhere! I send a care package about every month, they really appreciate the packages!!! Little things like, his fav mints ill send each time, and oreos. A card always with lipstick kisses. Pictures of the kids so he can see how they grow. Email him all the time, even just to say hi.When you feel sad because you miss him or you've had a rough day with the baby, let him know, lean on each other. thats what we do. Just realize that military families get a rare opportunity. We learn to appreciate each other because of the distances like deployment and field training. This can make your marriage stronger. You are going to feel lonely. More so if you dont live on base or around other military wifes that know how you feel.You need to stay strong for your family and try to keep a schedule.Tell yourself everyday that he will be home, soon. Try not to count down the days as i have found that can make things drag and make me more upset.If you ever need/want to talk email me at cherokee_pimpstress@yahoo.com
you can do this, tell yourself that.
And about your son remembering him, hes so little that unless his deployment is VERY short thats not a good chance, but they will get to know each other when he comes home
2006-10-20 14:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by cherokee 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww sorry you are having to deal with deployment right now with the baby being so young,I to am a military wife so I know it's hard have you thought about joining any support groups theres an online support group called navy wives.com you may want to look into it or for what ever branch your Husbands in because then you can share your good and bad days with other military wives who are both going through what your'e going through and also understand you will make many friends and also you will get a lift and theres even a place for you to go and vent if thats what you feel that you need to do be sure to show your baby ppics of dad and if you have a computer thats even better and send your husband lots of pictures of the baby he will enjoy that even if he cannot call or email you daily,I wish you very well take care of yourself and the baby from one military wife to another take care.
2006-10-20 16:36:45 · answer #3 · answered by CaliMa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be the good wife you are now, be a better mother buy trying to take up the slack from a absent parent. Be who he remembers ..... The hurt fill fade in time.... the empty feeling will not ! Try to fill the empty spot with being busy ... get crafty .. make things ...scrap book it !
Try some of the other wives in his unit .... I bet there are a few going through the same seperation issues too ...... make a wives support group .... set aside time each day to keep a diary of what happened and the changes your child has experienced .... when you write letters .. you can include the parts of the diary that will keep him up to speed on your lives.
Good Luck ...... Be all the wife and mother you can be !
2006-10-20 14:00:34 · answer #4 · answered by John 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-11-24 20:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by magoon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My heart goes out to you. i know how difficult it is for a loved one to deploy, my son went to iraq. At first you almost feel as tho it's unreal and can't really be happening. as time goes on you settle in to dealing with life with you son and yourself. you're going to be very busy doing things to keep things running smooth, you'll be doing his job at home now. God bless you and your family. Let your husband know that we support and pray for his safe return.
2006-10-20 13:53:35 · answer #6 · answered by notyours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My friend's husband is in the millitary and she will not see him for another year. That is hard. Just show your baby pictures and keep talking about his Dad.
2006-10-20 14:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by americandream1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋