My heart says go with it, but my mind says I should slow down. What do you think?
2006-10-20 12:34:20 · 23 answers · asked by DeniseM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If all you and husband have is seperation then I say hold off. Good luck.
2006-10-20 12:37:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
How long have you been separated from your husband...???
If it hasn't been very long I would move a little slow with this other guy you have known for 20 years. A few more months won't make any difference if you really want him
2006-10-20 12:38:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
how long have you been seperated from your husband? If you feel at all that you need to slow down, you should listen to yourself. If you have know this guy for 20 years, it doesnt sound like hes going anywhere. give yourself a little time to heal from your marriage before you jump into another relationship. you are probally hurting from the problems you had with your husband, and are craving love and affection. i wouldl recommed spending some time relfecting on what went wrong and what you can learn from it. and to really take some time to love yourself. if you jump into another relationship too fast, you may have the same kind of problems. if this other guy really cares about you, he wouldt try to rush you into a relatioonship. He would wait for you to fully blossom and be ready for a real romance.
2006-10-20 12:48:50 · answer #3 · answered by faiths13 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Every divorced person I have known who jumped from the marriage right into a new relationship regretted it. You need time to get the divorce. And then more time to do some healing. I say slow down.
2006-10-20 13:06:04 · answer #4 · answered by Cat Lover 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
In golf a successful swing is to slow it down. I am passing this advice on to you. You must make sure it is not the excitement of having a warm body next to you. If your love for your spouse is trash then move on! If there is children involved, then you better really slow down your desires. I am not suggesting you deny your happiness because of your children, but the physiological hurt will be lasting in their lives. I hope you make the right choice.
Grandpa
2006-10-20 12:51:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go very slowly. Yes, you ARE separated, but a lot can happen in a short period of time, and until the divorce is final, proceed very slowly. Nothing wrong with seeing the guy on occasion, but just casually. If the two of you are right for each other, you have the rest of your life to be with him. Best of luck!
2006-10-20 12:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I speak from experiance when i say Slow down. Do one thing at a time and remember now is the time to better yourself as a person. Do your own thing before you become something that you may not be ready for.
2006-10-20 13:11:16 · answer #7 · answered by nicole 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are seperated. Not divorced! Work on your marriage not a different relationship. If you listened to your Heart and your mind you might not be in this problem in the first place. I can think of one good reason for why you are seperated, it's been on your mind for 20 years! Can you figure this one out?
2006-10-20 13:27:56 · answer #8 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you strongly believe that the right thing to do is to got with the guy do it. Is your husband still with you? if no go with the other guy. in the end love is nothing but a small part of this world that helps many cope With life.
2006-10-20 12:39:36 · answer #9 · answered by GayLover 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your heart shoulda been in your marriage, not with another man. No wonder you are seperated. I'd say it's likely you'll just make the same mistake again, so I would therefore advise that you slow down.
2006-10-20 12:41:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I had the same thing happen to me and guess what I am married to the man I have known all my life and I am happier than ever.I say go with your heart..
2006-10-20 13:32:28 · answer #11 · answered by plumcouch30 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋