about her well-being, not expecting anything in return, especially if he married her and knows now she has nobody to turn to in case she needs? Are there guys who would give their lives for their wives, girlfriends and not abandon them just trying to control them if they don't go back to them?
Do you think it is wrong to expect a guy to treat a lady with respect and as a lady, especially if this guy is her husband?
I had to come back to my country because my American husband would behave in a very bad way. I am happier now, but I can not believe he completely abandoned me, he never sends any help to me anymore and he told me that he were to choose between his daughter and me he would choose his daugther. I left everything in here to follow him but I could not stand living with him in the USA + his debths that he hid from me. He says he is a Christian but a real Christian would not do that. Do you agree that a Christian wouldn't do that? He distorts God and Christianity.
2006-10-20 13:45:26 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Of course. There are nice guys who exist in this world, it's just very hard to find them because of the attitude of the current world. People in today's world believe that chivalry is dead but I don't see a thing like that being true at all. While it is true that a number of guys aren't as nice as they have been in years past, there are still a special group of guys who are nice as they can possibly be. You can't give up in your search for that nice guy.
I do not think it is wrong at all to treat a lady with respect, in fact I believe it is manditory for a guy to treat a lady with respect. Ladies deserve a lot more than what men give them these days.There's so much a woman gives to her husband, he should be able to give the same to his wife. A man who can show no respect for his wife deserves no respect himself.
Any person with a deep belief in their religion should learn to respect and love others. If this man would pick his own daughter over you and cannot treat both equally, it doesn't sound like he is being a very good husband. You deserve better than that.
2006-10-20 13:53:44 · answer #1 · answered by ravensfan172003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In today's society there are not too many honest Christians. If you are a honest christian, then I support you. I do not want to put down Christians, but I have seen it all by different people.
Yes there is still some nice guys in this world that love their wife and not worry about them cheating, spending excess money, take care of their family and other chores.
Also, there is still some women in this world that love their hubby, children, and not worry about their husband running,cheating on them, making sure they have a nice home, and taking care of their chores.
I hope that I am making sense so for.
I have seen bad husbands, wives, girlfriends, boyfriend, and friends in this situation. Every person is not the same.
How many preacher wives have you heard about cheating on their husbands? Yes, I have heard of it, been there and done that. Is it right? No, but it happens to every culture.
The only thing I can say, and this is my honest answer.
My Friend, I wish you the best of luck in this world, and I hope that you find someone that will take care of you the way that you believe in.
2006-10-20 20:56:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blueyes, yes there some still that way. If you really look and not jump into something in a rush because of being lonely it will be better. Some, women and men will take advantage of someone who they believe are gullible and lonely. It is a trait in all of us I believe it is just some will not allow ourselves to behave in that manner. His beliefs weren't strong are he would not have been able to treat someone this way. Men tend to treat women poorly based on how they think they were treated before by a woman. Next time make sure you have all the facts about debts and how he truly believes. I can feel the sadness in what you wrote and hope with time trust will come easy for you.
2006-10-20 20:57:15 · answer #3 · answered by dollynjanie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well You are right that he used you. He is not a christian. But His daughter is his blood. And since you hauled your azz back to your country (and i understand why you did it) don't expect to get anything from him now that you are gone. He didn't give you much when you live with him, why would he do any better now that you are gone. Try to start fresh and thank god you make it out alive and safe and you didn't have kids with him. God bless you
2006-10-20 20:53:20 · answer #4 · answered by Agnon L 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry for your loss and yes there are still nices guys out there and it is a shame but he is not the honest christian he portrayed himself to be.Unfortunately he his bound by the devil and has twisted the holy truth of christianity.The bible will direct you or any believing christian in the right pathand remember god doesn't lie.
2006-10-20 20:58:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I've been asking myself the same question about women? Difficult question indeed. Stop looking for a good person, you will find him when you least expect to...
Good Luck
2006-10-20 20:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't judge all men for one man's bad deed. So to answer your question, yeah, there are, you just have to find them. Marriage is not just two people exchanging vows, but the love of those two...though I do not know your situation so I am not one to judge.
2006-10-20 21:00:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was not good at all to hide things from you before the wedding. Sorry you had such a bad start.
2006-10-20 20:53:21 · answer #8 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have heard rumors these men still exist, but I have personally not been involved with one of them myself. I hold out hope, though, even if it is getting harder to do so everyday.
2006-10-20 21:45:14 · answer #9 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are good men everywhere, and I don't it's where you look, or what you put out there for them, I think you just get lucky. But, I also think the more desperate you are to find love, the harder it is to find, and the easier it is to get hurt.
2006-10-20 20:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by heybitches 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋