i have a dillema...my husband has been working very hard lately and plays basketball most of the weekafter work( he is in a league) so therefore he is very tired when he comes home. it has been two weeks we havent had sex and he is so tired that he doses off in bed. i know he is not cheating on me so it is not even an issue and couple of days ago my monther came to visit us from over seas get me all and i think he does feel weird having sex under the same roof as her. but i need it. everytime i try to pursue it he seems to shy off or sth. well one time when we were arguing i did tell him that he doesnt get me excited in bed anymore as much. honestly i didnt really mean it and after words i told him that and we had sex and it was great. i am not sure if this is the issue? i know he loves me so so so much and he doesnt mess around and cheat he is very devoted to me . how do i resolve this? i dont want him to feel pressured in bed with me cuz i thinnk he is afraid to disappoint me.
2006-10-20 11:45:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
wow! it is the issue!!!! u said the unsayable lady. ...."he doesn't get you excited in bed anymore as much"?. You are damn careless with that mouth of yours.
You are in big trouble, and stop saying he is not cheating on you, u lie to yourself. Am not saying he is, but you don't know that for sure.
U have dishonored his body...u are in sh*t. The two main unsayables are talking about a man's 'inabilities in bed' and 'their inabilities to make money'.
2006-10-20 12:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is bury it! Bury it deep and bury the shovel! Don't bring it up again. Yeah you said terrible things, your a woman your allowed. Yes it's not natural to have intimacy with your mother-in law in the next room. Not that you should ask her to join you lol. Listen, your going to have to get creative! Sounds like you have a great guy. Your relationship problems don't come near what I've read in this place today. You should be thankful, just try harder to get his interest!!!
2006-10-20 19:39:34 · answer #2 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How was it when you first met? Great? You can get it back again but watch those hurtful words. They tend to stick like glue. Try to remember what turned him on before. Show an interest in other areas of his life too. You don't want it to feel like a job to him.
2006-10-20 19:01:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's about prioritizing and maybe he has to refocus on what's important.It's easy to get into a habit/groove without even realizing it.
Sit him down and tell him in no uncertain terms that if this doesn't change, it will have a great affect on the marriage - which it will. You will become resentful and you want to avoid that.
good luck
2006-10-20 19:00:43 · answer #4 · answered by Beezer 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that what you said you only said it in the heat of the argument. Talk to him and try to find out what is up. Then tell him the truth about how you really feel like that he turns you on and you need it.
2006-10-20 18:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by kirkan1@verizon.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress is a huge turn off with sex. My hubby has been through the same issues...and NO he isnt cheating...dont let him bring down your self esteem..
2006-10-20 18:49:52 · answer #6 · answered by Lynne B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don't bring it up then. Have u ever thought that your the one that doesn't pleasure your man enough? Maybe you need to get him into the mood. Try something different.
2006-10-20 18:53:47 · answer #7 · answered by BATGIRL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you really blew it when you said that. He probably has a conscience about it and does not want to be sexually involved with you any more. I think you really need to explain to him that you said that out of frustration and let him know you do have desires that need to be filled.
2006-10-20 18:52:52 · answer #8 · answered by skawp 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have got to let it out of your heart and tell him what you need. Do not blame him or point any fingers.
Personlize your statements by owning your feelings:
Say "I feel lonely..."
"I really miss this about you...."
"I loved it when you use to...."
2006-10-20 18:54:55 · answer #9 · answered by lofolulu 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try 2 talk 2 him
2006-10-20 18:49:35 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋