why do people have affairs??? and how can u stop it??

Answer 1

It is all about how they are inside.

If you are asking how you can stop someone else from having affairs, . . .if it is you who is being cheated on, I would suggest you leave the person immediately and find someone you would be happy with.

Take the time to date some and really check some people out and try some of these new high tech dating services that match you with people who you would have a lot in common with and they will probably be really glad they found you.

If you are being cheated on, the worst thing you can do is feel that you are not good enough or that there is something wrong with you, because there is nothing wrong with you, it is something wrong with the person doing the cheating, not you.

There is this thing on TV, where people who met are talking about how happy they are, . . . can't remember the name of it, something or other .com. I would check that out.

Hope you find your soul mate,

Darryl S.

Answer 2

Different people have affairs for difference reasons.
The next question how can you stop it, it is going to take both people to stop it. One person cannot stop it alone, and the reason I say this is; If the person that is cheating does not want to stop then the other person sometimes has to put their foot down, and say it is this way or the highway. I hope that I made sense of what I said.

I have been there done that, and sometimes I do not think that I have stopped it because there is still nothing between my wife and I after 8+ years.
I do not have the time tonight to explain everything I mean, but I just want you to know that I wish the couple the best of luck in the world that is having this problem.
Have A Great Weekend.

Answer 3

The reasons for affairs are very many and very various.

A wish to experience sexual variety, anger felt towards the partner, with a need, whether recognised or not, to hurt the partner,

Some their intention was to make their partner jealous.

Some say they no longer feel "in love" with their partner, or that they have "fallen out of love", or "grown apart".

Sexual incompatibility, though if a couple were ever sexually compatible, this would only change due to illness, physical or psychological in one or both of them.

Some feel that if their partner has been unfaithful, they themselves are somehow entitled to have an affair, too.

Drastic change in the partner, due to alcohol or drug addiction, or severe mental illness, which makes the person feel unable to obtain sexual or emotional fulfilment from that partner, while feeling reluctant to abandon them altogether while they may still need help and support.

Ways to stop it...check out the link I posted.

Answer 4

People have affairs because something is missing. But think about it, if your partner is keeping you happy, fufilling you emotionally, connecting with you the way you need to be connected with? You wouldn't feel the need to go elsewhere. Elsewhere wouldn't even be an option...because you are completely satisfied. Affairs are wrong, shallow and extremely hurtful...The only way to stop it is by getting to the bottom of what is actually missing...and hope your partner can fill the empty parts with what it is that you need.

Answer 5

u can't stop it people are going to do what they wish. the biggest and only reason i feel someone has an affair is they are selfish -- the excuses (missing something, no spark etc.) are all excuses. you choose to have an affair because you are into what you want without any consideration for the other person.

u stop it by leaving the person and not allowing them to hurt you.

Answer 6

easy question,,i was married twice and had an affairs in both,,,for me it was something differant,,,my first ex was never around much and drank alot so it just happened with his friend why cuz he was always there checking on me and the kids babysitting for me while i was at work everyday stuff it just happened,,second ex well a differant story,,we grew apart after only a few months and he wasn't that great in bed so i went looking elsewhere,,now i am in a commited relatonship and i havent had an affair in 5 years,,i love the person i am with and he takes care of the needs i have...

Answer 7

They have affairs because their needs aren't being met by their partners. The only other reason would be if they were addicted to sex, but generally, affairs happen when the person is unhappy with some aspect of their life. No, you can't stop it unless you are prepared to do everything to satisfy your mate.

Answer 8

most people have affairs because their partner is not pleasing them how they want to be pleased and/or they are getting bored with their partner. You may be able to stop this or prevent this by keep your partner excited and try to stay pleasing and to stay the only person they are interest !

Answer 9

People have affairs because they are insecure and need that attention, even if they have a perfect spouse at home. Its a character flaw. They have no sense of what's right or wrong, its just about immediate gratification of their needs.

Answer 10

Well, I agree with alot of the answers here, but I also disagree with alot of them...in some cases it may be insecurity or attention or selfishness, but in most cases I think that's crap. People cheat because they are missing something, love and affection most likely. As human we have an incredible desire for love and affection, to feel loved and needed....and when that's gone, those of us who are weak find it somewhere else. I don't think you can stop it.....sorry